Do you learn more from your past mistakes or from others mistakes?

I learn from both, but I like learning from other people's mistakes. I've learned a fair number of lessons from my friends' experiences, mostly about relationships, and I make sure that I will not do what they did for my sake. Like this friend of mine who got an instant boyfriend through phone. They would talk by phone all day until they became a couple. But their relationship was short-lived, mainly because they were just infatuated. Most of my friends' relationships are like that. They tend to rush so they fail miserably. I've read in a book that wise people are those who learn from other people's mistakes. Some say that it's better to experience them for yourself, but according to the author, these people are hurting themselves unnecessarily.

I think learning from my own mistakes is more frequent than others mistakes. Because from my own mistakes I get hurt and affected. But from other mistakes as I don't have any effect so there is less learning.

Hi icesmile, As they say experience is the best teacher, and whenever we commit mistakes it teaches us to do better in the future. As such, it is best to always look back and see the wrongs we made, and learn from them. I also try to see things from other people's point of view and pick up and learn from their mistakes too.

Hi icesmile I think the most important lessons I have learned is from my own mistakes. I can promise that the mistakes that I made will never happen again! But I can't learn from other's mistakes! I don't know why!

All of us makes makes mistakes.The lessons we learned from our past mistakes are great factors for us in achieving maturity. The hardest indeed is accepting we are wrong,because we tend to invent justifications for our wrongdoings.I speak for myself. But we need to admit we are wrong when we are wrong. And if we vent to right persons , we surely be getting good advices that we need to reflect on. I am a person that tends to ask advices when in doubt. (^_^)

I think your own mistakes are the ones that provide the invaluable lessons in life.

I would have to say that I learn more from other mistakes, because there are more "others" and only one "me." Others beyond my control make mistakes that I would have never thought of, thus I learn something new without expecing to learn something new or they make mistakes that I already knew were mistakes, am I to know about the situation in advance, confirming what I already knew.

There are just some lessons in life one has to learn themselves no matter if the people around them are telling them otherwise. Like in love for example. Sometimes you pick the wrong person but you see good things in them even though everyone else sees the bad. One must learn the type of person they want to be through experimentation that noone else can help with. However I am the kind of person who will take advise from every angle before making a decision. I wasn't always like that but it seems after I have had my daughter I am more prone to lead by example. And teach that it is okay to make mistakes on your own but when your seriously stuck it would be wiser to listen to those around to make a better guess as to what to do.

I would say unfortunately I do mostly learn from my own mistakes. Wish I had learned for others mistakes and taken advice from others years ago , it would have been a much easier path in life. I think now that im , ewwww middle aged i do tend to make less mistakes than when i was younger but they just seem to be bigger ones lol. Think mylots can be a great source for people to learn from others mistakes and get advice too.

When I was still a newbie here in myLot, I do made some mistakes by posting one discussions which violates the rule. Thats a mistake on my part. Therefore the next thing to do is to re-read the rules and regulations and understand the do's and dont's in posting. Now I never made the same mistake twice.

Well i think we are humans and we are meant to make mistakes. I have made so m any mistakes in my life that are hardly to forget. I have learnd alot from them. The best thing i learnd about my recent mistakes is that love friendship and war are those things which u shud not take so lightly when u need to stand for it. The other thing that i learnd that don't ever addicted too much to your favorite things that loose ur self control...

hii ...yes i learn frm my past mistake.. dnt trust ny one so much dat wen u ll get hurt... u ll nt be able to move on... as i did in past relation .. i luvd a girl so much nd i get the same response frm her side...but she ditchd me in such a way so dat i ws trying to die... bt after a long time , irealized dat family is every thing.. nd we shouldlove every family as we r part of it...

hi! As a human.. we do many things.things that will bring us happiness and a a down part for us. things may be complicated for us but that will bring us a lessons for us to know to do it again or not. we must be open minded from all things we do. we must be wiser enough to know. we really mostly learned from our mistakes and also we learned from other person's mistakes. but it is our choice to do it all over again. it is a matter of choice. but the thing is we learned.. lol

I don't know why, but I find it hard to learn from my past mistakes, I mean I learn from them but I seldom tend to repeat those mistakes... while seeing other mistakes makes me learn faster and even correct that person. I need to say that I like any other human make some mistakes that I don't intend to do and even know that they are wrong, but still hate when someone tries to correct me in this case. Either way if I do a mistake and I'm not aware of it accept kindly any advice.. but I'm not quite a good listener ...

I have tried to learn from both my mistakes and the mistakes of others. I'm sure I still mess up every now and then, but hey who doesn't? I think that as long as we keep learning, and growing it isn't so important that we don't make mistakes, it is the realizations of the consequences that really matter. It is the consequence that determines the real benefit or lack of benefit of our actions. Sometimes the lack of consequence leads to the repeating of mistakes, especially when our concience does not remind us of our emotional obligation to self. Sometimes all the consequences in the world do nothing to change the attitude or beleif that causes one to err. But when we realize the effect we have on others and on ourselves, there is the real motivation for learning and change.

I absolutely try and learn from my own mistakes. There are things that I thought were a good idea at the time. They were not so I chalk that up to a valuable life experience. The mistakes of others can be valuable. However, they can only be valuable if they apply to my life. I have to admit, there are times where the mistakes of others do in fact have relevance to me and how I live my life. So there is much to be learned from the mistakes of my life and the mistakes around me. If anything, I come out as a much better person for my failures.

The most important lessons that I learned were from my mistakes and I make sure that I never repeat them again. Sometimes it will take someone to tell me before I realize that I did something wrong and that I can learn from it. I am eternally grateful to those people who pointed out my past mistakes and taught me how life should be.

i learn more from others mistakes. i mean of course if you see someone do something and then they get in trouble, of course you're going to say "i'm not doing that" and yea, you think to your self, "what would of happened to me if i did that?". so it prevents you from problems and prevents you from learning. i'm one of those people that watch others mistakes and carefully learn what they did and how they did it. so more or so, they're my bate and i'm the fisher, lol.