Is it cheating?

also my ex did it i was soo angry..but it doesn't mean he is cheating

I would say it depends on what they're talking about. If it's just talking about things in general no,but if there's flirting going on, then yes. Also if it is the same person that they're always talking to, I would be suspicious.

Just because he's not physicaly not cheating doesn't mean he isn't emotionally cheating on you. If he's having a meaningful conversation with this woman for hours and can't have it with you then it's def. cheating. You both need to sit down and evaluate your relationship.

It is cheating. Not physically, but it's still cheating. Why doesn't he spend those hours of talking with you instead? I had a similar experience with my boyfriend, who's now my husband. It was a few months before our wedding, and he logged on his msn messenger only to find this girl he hadn't spoken to in 3 yrs..the time we'd been together...so they chatted away for 4 hours!! I was furious!! I would find excuses to walk behind him and check up on their conversation. At one point, he wrote "can't, she's in back of me" I got so mad!!! We got into an argument, and still to this day i don't know what he meant by that phrase..The girl even wrote to him that she still had his picture hung up on her wall??? Like, ok, seriously, who the hell is this girl?? The next day, I spoke to one of his friends, and he told me that before meeting me, my bf was ready to leave Montreal, to go and be with this girl in Virginia!! But they then got into an argument and never spoke again. So you can imagine how insecure I felt at that moment. You should not let your husband talk or chat for hours with other woman, cuz one day, he will be tempted by one of them, and who knows? Good luck to you my dear.

I think it is a form of cheating and you better look long and hard into your relationship.

no it is not. everyone needs to talk to someone else other than the husband or wife. and it is said thatyou confide better with a stranger. because they do not judge you. if you did not observe any coldness in his behaviour towards you than it's ok

jenn, I would say he is cheating, but I don't know all the facts. Is the other woman just one woman or many women? If it is just one, and it's a daily thing between the phone and online chatting, I would definitely say he is cheating. If there is more than one woman that he engages in this behavior with, perhaps he is not cheating, but planning on it, and looking to find the right woman to cheat with. It seems that you've discussed the situation in great detail with him, yet he continues to upset you with his cavorting. In this case, he obviously does not care that it is troubling you. If he doesn't care about your feelings, then what do you think is next to follow? Think about it...

It looks that your spouse has many friends. You have a close watch and decide...!

I wouldn't necessarily define it as cheating without knowing more about it, like how long has this been going on, etc. However, I can tell you that if it bothers you that much he should stop. I'm quite confident he would have issues with you carrying on long chat sessions of phone calls with other men.

I think that this sort of thing can really only be decided between the persons in the relationship. If you are BOTH comfortable with it then it isn't a problem. If one of you is uncomfortable, then you should come to an agreement about it. It's not good for a relationship to make no compromises---you need to talk about this, let him know that it upsets you, and ask him if he will try to find a solution that you both can live with. Relationships take work. Now for a more personal answer, this would make me very unhappy if it were my husband. Not because he was cheating, but because he was not caring about my feelings on the matter.

i think its innopropriate, and cheating, yes

oh boy...i think if my husband done this he wouldnt have access to a computer anymore..i am sorry..but his intentions maybe friendly how do you know what the lady's intentions are? and chatting with ladys for hours? humm are they your friends also? cause if they wasnt ....ohh boy...my husband would find himself with no computer and if he kept talking on the phone no tongue!

I guess it really depends on the type of conversation they are having and if he is doing anything to hide this from you, like if you walk in the room he will close the chat box down or if his on the phone does he go quiet when your in the room! I think it is good to have friends and i know i sometimes chat to other guys on the computer i would never ring them or give them my number but i do chat with them online and nothing ever happens from that and they are always fully aware that i am engaged and just looking for a chat and not anything else! Good luck!

Yes, if it is too long then it is definitely cheating. Friendly talks dont talk for hours.

I wouldn't necessarily define it as cheating without knowing more about it, like how long has this been going on, etc. However, I can tell you that if it bothers you that much he should stop. I'm quite confident he would have issues with you carrying on long chat sessions of phone calls with other men.