Nasty words and insults may belong on a school play ground, but Here?

I guess when you are on a site like this people have their own opinions I can't comment on what was said as I have no idea what was said and in what context. But when ever somebody posts on mylot or any web site then they leave themselves open to things they might not want to hear. I am not saying its right or wrong as I said before I have no idea what was said, if it was offensive then the place to air it is with the admins of mylot as I know of a few accounts which have been suspended due to offensive behaviour which is not welcome on mylot by the mylot admins. Hope your friend gets it sorted.

They are not appropriate for kindergarten and first grades. in fact, parents have to teach their children to be nice and kind as soon as the child can understand. There are also those who believe by swearing and cursing that they can get away with it because there is no way to trace them. (unless they use some of the words the FBI is looking for.) By the way, is the little dog all right?

I don't think nasty words and insults are appropriate anywhere, especially in a playground. We are adults with a wide array of words in our vocabulary. We should be able to express our opinions on topics without being insulting. It is our job as parents to teach our children this also. Of course we know that not everyone does this. If I were your friend, I would not pay any attention to replies like that. The way I see it, if someone can not post a reply in a respectful manner without being rude, then I really don't have the time to respond to it. Everyone has a different opinion and I'm not going to waste my time arguing with someone who can't voice those opinions nicely.

Oh now what? Kick the bullies out!

Hi Hatley! Love your new beautiful avatar! Makes me feel all Springy and happy! As for the discussion in question, I don't know which one, but if I did and who insulted our very close friend I would give them hell and more! Whatever it was that was said to her was definitely uncalled for because she is one of the most revered people on the Lot! I am very upset to hear that someone would dare insult her! She is one of the sweetest and kindest people here and is going through so much at this time and needs all her friends around her and not some stupid azzhole throwing negative crap! That is as you said, kindergarten behavior! It if find out who was the person, I will report them! We will not take this kind of behavior to our "Senior Memembers" here! That means, those of us who have been here for the long run! Don't even try to mess with us because we have alot of friends to back us up and the admin too! Right Alice!

I'm fairly new to mylot and I got to say that this has been a great experience for me. In my 4 weeks that I've been with mylot I have read some good discussions, good responses, but like in any forum or social site there will be some negative views and opinions from people that will come off as offensive. Whenever I encounter another mylotter who has a strong opinion about my discussion and it comes off as kinda offensive to me, I'll just respond to that comment and then move on to the next one. Unfortunately there are some that have something offensive to say, but we as mylotters have to realize that everyone on this planet has their own views and opinions. It is up to us to determine what to do with those comments.

Hi Sweetie It will never change there will always be someone here and other Sites that will do this It was not so much said to the Person it was actually reported and the Person received a warning from admin The thing is People will never approach the Person first they will report and then this happens Don't worry Sweet I am sure your Friend will be ok as you say she just has to much going on right now and is close to breaking down so this will be the last thing on her mind I love you Sweet

I try not to be insulting here, but sometimes some person will push me too far and then they'll hear my tongue. For example, one person called me a racist and he heard about it about for a day. As I don't usually do that, I think I have more leeway with the MyLot admin than someone who gets out of line everyday. I think those are the people they ban.

Nasty words and insults sound like an immature and/or low self-esteem person. It is bully behavior and we all know that bullies do not like themselves very much and many times, not all, are of lower intelligence, too. Was this person reported? I hope so!

Hi Hatley, I don't ubnderstand why some people behaves like children, why are they so nasty? I did not see the her response by this pesron but I know the his dear friend of ours is going through some tough time and she don't need this person to say nasty things to her, if this person who is nasty, has no business being here on mylot. Tamara

Hi Hatley. Whether she has a lot on her plate or not isn't the point to me. We all deserve to be treated with decency and respect and if you can't give that to someone, then you shouldn't comment. I am very sorry that your friend was hurt. She should consider the source and remember that most of the people who respond to our comments don't know what uniquely wonderful people that we all are. It's unfortunate that some people have so little joy in their lives that they lash out at people who are filled with it. Instead of feeling hurt, I hope that she will feel sorry for someone who has so little in their lives. Best of luck to her.

Hi Hatley, I am a nasty one in real life. :( I dont really want to be. I politely say no several times but when the person is not taking my no - and persists with his or her own agenda - I do go for nastiness and insults. :( Not everybody is sensitive and caring enough Hatley. So sometimes it becomes essential to give some thick skinned people a dose of their own medicine. As to your friend, I am certain she does not belong to the category that deserves nastiness. Some people are born with the art of being nasty - and they are popular as well! In others case, as in mine, the art is cultivated - therefore, I dont get it instantaneously. It goes on brewing in my mind, and then comes out suddenly. The person who seems to have been nasty with your friend is in all probability, a born nasty person! Genetic fault! It runs in families. They are best forgotten as retards, or deformed people. They generally have their set of friends who enjoy such behavior. And such people dont become adults because they are retarded, remember? They only spread unhappiness wherever they go. :( Tell your friend to ignroe them. She deserves to be happier. There are ample people out here, who could do with friends like her. :)

I was attacked on here today actually, just because I showed some confidence. The person (who have only responded to 4 disscussions) stated that i must think highly of myself and in her opinion I must be unattractive to have say what i did. Not cool. One of my Mylot friends stuck up for me big time, as she kind of insulted her also.

This site is meant to help everyone and not in any way harm or hurt someone! It is really sad that people have to be rude and hurtful to others. We do have to remember though that there will always be people like this. If someone does not agree with something then they should say so in a kind matter. Noone should hurt anyone! As for your friend I hope she is able to get past this, and tell her sorry that people have to be like this and try to find all the great things about amazing people on MyLot! :)

hi hatley! It does no matter to the target person, but it degrade the personality of the person who behave like that you told. Only nasty people can use the nasty and dirty language. Therefore you friend or you should not show any reaction. Ignorance is the best revenge and reply to such misbehaving people.

I agree with you Hatley. Insulting, belittling or nasty words have no place here or anywhere else. They never help who ever they are aimed at, nor in the long run do they help the person who uttered them. Some try to elevate themselves by knocking some one else, but it's only in their own minds that it improves anything. If anything it reduces them to a lower status than before, but unfortunately they just done see it. Wouldn't it be nicer if everyone realized that in raising some one up, that it raises themselves too?

I don't think anybody has a right to use nasty words or insult people no matter how old they are. It is childish, though. Whoever said these insulting words must have been going through a rough time him/herself. That's still no excuse to be rude to people. People who use nasty words and insults need to realize that other people have problems, too. Kathy.

Hello, Hatley. There are some wonderful people on here - and there are also some who are just a complete waste of the space they occupy. If I can't say something positive, I try not to say anything at all - it is rarely justified to say hurtful things, whatever the sircumstances. The only time I make with the insults is in a situation such as you describe when a good friend is being flamed. Then everyone better run for cover, because I won't see my friends insulted and do nothing about it.

One of the reasons I chose not to perservere with the old Site, You even had Stalkers, in the end I ended up saying worse back. There seems to be a mentality of gutless people that have no intestinal fortitude that go out and pick on others, they wouldn't in person, but there is this thing no one knows who exactly anyone is on here. I think your friend shd just thing Small minded Tosser and Move on. Good she has friends likeyou to watch out for her tho. mandy

That is a shame on a site where we come for a friendly chat. She can report the post though and it might get removed which would help a little . I think sometimes people post and press submit to quickly and there is no way to edit our hasty replies so they may have regretted it ,the minute it was online. Sometimes people don't realise that their words sound hurtful. I think it is worth thinking about an answer in which a judgement has been made before going ahead and posting.