seat for a pregnant woman or physically handicapped person

Philippines
March 13, 2010 6:01am CST
hello fellow myLotters! have you tried offering your seat to a pregnant woman or to a physically handicapped person when inside a public utility vehicle? years ago, there was this gesture from among a handful of gentlemen in commuters' midst who would offer their seat in no time at all at the sight of female commuters. but nowadays, that gesture has somehow took a backseat. only those who are preggy and handicapped are being given the chance to take a seat in a jampacked vehicle.
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11 responses
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
I seldomly ride a bus or train so I don't really meet encounters like that. The closes thing I would say is when the bus was so jampacked and there was a woman who has her baby in front of her (on the strap seat or something) and it unable to carry all her stuff. I stood and gave the seat to hear. I am a woman myself but the guys around did not care. I guess today, lack of those gestures seem to speak about today's view on gender equality...although I think being a gentleman is different from that. Maybe that's why men don't usually give their seats to other people unless they are pregnant women or physically challenged people.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Mar 10
and sometimes not even then. I am crippled and 83 yet I have ridden jam packed buses where not one person was unselfish enough to offer me a seat. I am ashamed for these people as they have very little heart left, just selfishness.
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, maybe it's truly different these times. It's no longer the gender equality, give way to the handicapped/pregnant/seniors, nor being a gentleman. People simply have become selfish. Thanks for sharing and that's one good point in this discussion.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
14 Mar 10
I'm a 60-year-old woman and I offer my seat to men and women who are older than me, pregnant women, to people with small children, and to the handicap. I can stand for awhile...
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
13 Mar 10
as a person on the receiving end of that seat offering, i have to say i am mightly greatful for people that do it! i have really bad knees and walk with a quad cane due to a car accident (although i am only in my late 40s)and it kills them riding the bus standing up. most people are pretty nice.
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• Estonia
14 Mar 10
I do offer my seat to people that need it more, than I. I provide my seat to handicapped people or pregnant women, but also to elders. I find it natural, because these people have right to sit in the public transport. The trips may be very tiring and uncomfortable, so we should always provide these people with seats in the bus. If I would sit while an elder or a pregnant woman would be standing by my side, I would feel very embarrassed and uncomfortable.
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@clipsal (160)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 10
As a gently reared young man, I was taught, at an early age, that it is always polite to offer my seat to an obviously pregnant woman on public transporation to ease her condition. Yet, a month ago I offered my seat on a crowded Red Line train, to an obviously pregnant lady, only to have the offer loudly refused and accompanied by a severe scowl. I am now hesitant to make a future offer.
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• China
13 Mar 10
I have never my seat to any pregnent woman or any handicapped person. As i never met such a situation. But i have offer my own seat to old person. I think it's not possible to stand up in bus one old person. Well pregnent women really deserve seat. As they carry one more life.
@donna22 (1116)
13 Mar 10
I agree with offering your seta to someone who is old (male or female) or pregnant but I would never expect a male to offer me his seat because I am a woman. To me that is saying that I am too weak to stand because I am a woman. Saying that though a few years a ago a young lad gave m his seat on the bus which I thought was kinda sweet lol
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Mar 10
hi people nowdays have gotten so selfish and egotistical that they are hardened to the idea of elderly people who might be crippled needing a seat on a packed bus,let along that 8 month pregnant woman or that crippled boy. I am ashamed of a lot of young people who just stare at me 83 with a bad leg as I stand holding onto the strap.guess who offered me a seat, a man about my age of course. now days in my county in Ca the bus drivers often will not move the bus until that elderly woman or pregnant lady is given a seat, and I say more power.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Yes, sadly being a gentleman is out of fashion these days. I see men looking away when a lady enters a train or any public transportation. But we ladies should not complain. We want to be treated as a co-equal, and standing up when a public transportation is full is one of the effects of equality. Men and women both have legs, and so I really do not see why we should be upset when we have to stand up while there are men sitting down. I do offer my seat to a pregnant or old lady even though I am a woman.
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@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
yes it is normal reaction then for a man to offer his seat to a standing woman in a public utility vehicle but this practice is already a thing of the past. However there are still numerous men who does not forget this practice and i admire them. though i'm a woman i offer my seat to a pregnant woman or handicapped person if there's no more available set either inside a public vehicle or in a public gathering.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Mar 10
Well, both has to be considered and prioritized. In our vehicles especially the bus, the first two seats is for either the handicapped, old people or for pregnant women. So when they find any, we rather stand up and give them the seat. Many cases, women are offered seat, i dont the reason for offering. But i believe women health is such way like they are cant stand so long..so evey man should understand rather than thinking she is beautiful and like that.