Ready for spanking...?
By laurenban
@laurenban (194)
Philippines
March 14, 2010 11:44pm CST
When is a child ready for discipline? I have a 1 year and 9 months old boy and sometimes he gets into my nerves because he won't listen to what i say to him. Sometimes i really want to spank my boy, but not too hard, just so he knows what he did is wrong...
I am not an abusive mother and i don't want to hurt my beloved son will you please give some advice?
5 responses
@Felicitus (75)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Mar 10
I think you should let him grow a little older before you start spanking. Dont give in to him, be firm and you have to have a lot of patience in handling a child of this age. I have a grandson son who is 1 year 6 months and he too sometimes is difficult but we always distract him from the wrong thing and we dont give in to his tantrums. Good Luck
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
he always do tantrums when i am around but her nanny said he is behaving well when they are just alone in the house..i think maybe he just wants to get my attention or something.
@Felicitus (75)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Mar 10
You are right there. when you come home try spending more time and give him all the attention he needs and then gradually trying doing your work. It might help. Dont let him get into too many trantrums, because he may do it as a habit. good luck to you
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 10
Your son is not yet two years old so he might try your patience even more between that challenging age and three years old. You should try slowly counting to 10 inside your head to make you feel calm and in control. You could reward your son with praise when he does things right. I am a primary school teacher and the trick is 'catch him being good'. If your son does something bad say a firm no and try to divert his attention to something more suitable. You could have a naughty mat to use when your son is over three years old. Then he could sit and reflect before saying sorry. If you spank your son you will be teaching him violence. You love your dear little son. Remember is is just he is at a tricky age. If you teach him by using language he will learn what is right and what is wrong. Good luck.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
15 Mar 10
Hi Lauren,
I never used spanking or anything physical to punish my kids because I don't believe that it will teach them a lesson. There are better ways to shape the character of a child, and hurting them physically is definitely not one of the options.
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
15 Mar 10
A spanking should be reserved for the worst case senario only, if ever. But I can honestly say that a swift pop on the butt never hurt anyone in my family. I think it was more of the sound than the actual pain that got our attention and changed our actions. The problem is now a days if someone saw you discipline your child in this manner the would turn you into the police for child abuse.
@laurenban (194)
• Philippines
19 Mar 10
Ya ofcourse you can get to jail doing child abuse..but a little spank in the butt won't hurt right?
@resya1 (11)
•
17 Mar 10
I believe it is a parents decision on how and when they disapline their child as long as it does not bring any harm to the child.
I have 7 yr old that has suffered from terrible twos since he was 1 yr old lol, it can get to be a hard situation when he really aggravated me, finding alternate punishments are sometimes a struggle once you have tried all the others. I tend to get a lot of my 'material' from Jo Frost. Every household needs one!
