Entirely Selfish

Have you talked to him about any of this? I mean, my husband can be selfish sometimes, but not intentionally. Most times he doesn't even realize what he's doing until someone points it out to him and then he apologizes and tries to do better. Always start by talking to him because if he doesn't know there's a problem then there's no way he can fix it (and no, most guys won't just realize there's a problem without being told). Other than that, set boundaries. Tell him that you're working and you want a break too, so from now on you're not going to do x, y, and z and if he wants them done he'll have to start pitching in. Cook only for yourself, do only your and your son's laundry, and make him start being involved in things. I hate to say give up on a marriage, especially since it doesn't necessarily sound like it's a really bad situation (though I don't really know the WHOLE situation). It sounds frustrating and tiring and like something needs to change, but I don't know if I would say it's grounds for a divorce if things can get worked out.

Hi Noner, Have you tried to discuss this with your husband? Probably he thinks it's okay with you if you never told him from the start. He is insensitive coz if he's not he should have known how it's affecting you, being the one who feeds the whole family and him just lazying around. If you already talked to him about this and he just didn't care, then I guess it's time to start packing - either you pack your and your child's things, or he should pack his and go somewhere else. No good living with that kind of person for the rest of your life, the earlier he's out of your life the better.

I never will marry or have kids for this reason alone! So for you I have to become my polar opposite. Ok. If I wanted a child and a husband and he Never helped me out and I was working, doing housework And taking care of a bay alone, I would leave with the baby. If you are doing everything anyway, who needs him. I bever wanted to marry because I assumed I would be the one doing everything. I would be the one staying doing housework. I Nevr wanted chiklden because I an just like Hubby , too self centered for that thank you. You mean I would have to take care of a bay when hockey and movies ae on? No Thank You! If you aen;t geeting the support you need.Or the respect you deserve, then it is time to either throe him out of leave.

I know it is hard to juggle it all by yourself. But have you talked about this? Does he know how you feel about the whole thing? He might be immature but he has to know what you think and how you feel. Otherwise the relationship won't work for both of you. My husband at one stage was like that but he didn't notice it, until I talked to him now he is much better husband. Sometimes it pays to talk to one another, that's what our mouth for right?

Hey! Get out of that situation girl! He's abusing you! He's not just selfish or self centered, he's also irresponsible! What would happen to your family if you don't have a job? If it's not because of you, your son will get hungry. You don't even have time for yourself or even take a rest. That's the reason why many women around the world are being abused. Wake up! You deserve better than him! GOD bless!

In the first instance when you felt your husband was so selfish, you must have corrected him. As a bread winner of your family, his is the duty to work and take care of you and your son. It was totally your fault you went out for work thus creating a laziness in your husband's mind not to work at all. I really feel pity for you, having worked about 10 hours outside home, you take the house cores as well in your responsibility. Well, having said that, I suggest you a remedy, think it over several times and try to correct your husband. First of all, make the Computer and TV meddled. When he doesn't have these two, definitely his attention may get diverted. Next, try to act on some days you are not well, sick after a day long heavy work and stick to your bed. You are a mother but make up your mind not to look at the baby on those sick days. Frequently complain to your husband that your health is getting down and you will not be able to work any more. Stay at home in the context of sickness. When your husband finds out you will not for sure go out to work, no way he has to find a job to run the family. Finally, if all the above, either fail or you feel totally impossible, get out of your house to some working women's hostel, put your baby to some babysitter's care, live for your son, educate him and come up in life. May be, may be, as a last chance only I insist, think of getting a divorce from your husband. Good Luck.

I felt that my ex husband was selfish and self-centered as well....But we split for other reasons and had a different situation going on.... I would have to agree that he is being irresonsible and immature about the situation.....I would try and sit down and talk to him and let him know how you are feeling about this and get his feelings on this and see if that helps the situation....If it doesn't then let him know that you will be leaving for awhile or ask him to leave that you want a seperation.....I would at least first tell him how you feel and if you feel nothing has or will change do what is best for you and your baby.... Good Luck and HappyMylotting....

Have you confronted him about this? I know it seems like common sense that he should be being more considerate etc but men do not realise sometimes, especially when it comes to household chores etc. Ive heard of fathers who are not interested in bbaies but then change when they get older and they can do more stuff with them. Maybe he feels out of his depth looking after the baby? I know he is its father and should be more willing to help out but things like that maybe do not come as naturally to men. Not excusing his behaviour. I just think you should ask him why he doesnt do anything around the house to help you.

I just think he now gets lost in his life, or his life feels like lacking in direction. You two need to have a serious talk on this matter.

I would most definately leave them. Because why would you want to be with someone who does not make you happy. ? You should be with some one who does.

I am sorry to hear ur story.He is such a irresponsible husband.I think you should talk to him about these status.Even he has a job,he should help you in housework.Cauz he is ur husband and baby's dad.You could take actions to change ur husband. It's important to give baby a whole and happy family. Do something.