Should you or Should you not?

This is not done, no one should be treated like this in a public place. Its not matter of carrying girlfriend's handbag but insulting or shouting at some one for such a small reason. Its love and understanding between partners or lovers which makes relations work, so we should respect each other.

hi there, Well she is one mean girlfriend. She should understand and be considerate towards her boyfriend, i would carry it for my girlfriend, you know, to be honest with you, i don't know why we favour to labour for our girlfriend, i do carry her heavy luggage sometimes, well that is different thing it was actually quite heavy for her, but i would stop and take rest, well but if then she would complain it would be really annoying, coz i am doing the work here and lemme do it in peace lol, well i don't know carmenzhj but most of us guys are actually willing to carry it for our girlfriends. But she should be considerate enough when we makes things lighter for them, thankfully my girl is hehe .. have a nice day carmenzhj.

I do think the guy was being caring and gentleman to help his girlfriend carry her handbag. It is not his right but perhaps he just want to be nice to her. Too bad his girlfriend is being unreasonable or perhaps they have an agreement that the guy must carry her bag for that day. Whichever, I have no problem accepting a guy carrying a lady's handbag.

I don't see the issue as to whether a guy should or should not hold someone's bag. The real issue is why does the girlfriend feel that she has a right to disrespect the guy by yelling at him if he doesn't want to hold it for her. She shows lack of respect for him and it makes her look like she is self centered and arrogant. I think in 30 years of marriage I have asked my husband to hold my purse maybe once. It is a matter of need and a courteous gesture on the part of the husband. If a guy is ok with it then fine but if he is not then the woman should not expect him to.

dear carmen, if you mean woman's hand bag, i dont find it nice to see on men. so i dont ask my boyfriend to hold it for me in public. if my hands are full, i request him to carry instead the other things. what you saw was uncalled for. i guess the girl is doing it overboard. i find women to be over acting that even bags are carried by the male. maybe they feel the pride that their boyfriends care so much that the latter wants to show that she is princess "to him". its baloney! why carry it anyway if she will just hand it and let a companion hold it. better put her wallet in her pocket. i hope i made a point. thank you so much for this discussion. happy mylotting. ann

I think it's not cool to carry the bag of a lady in an open place because man image became awkward to himself.I think he can carry it at minimal minutes than an hour.It affect his ego on carrying the bag & afraid on people what will say about him.

Actually, I would be embarrassed to make my boyfriend carry my bag for me. I only ask for my boyfriend to hold my purse for a short time, like to help me find something in it, or while I button up my coat, etc. Its ok for a guy to carry his girlfriend's purse if she is unable to carry it herself, but otherwise I don't know why would she make her boyfriend do it.

I think it really depends not only on the girl but also on the boyfriend. Hehehe. Personally, I don't like anyone holding my bag, I mean it's my bag, so I should be the one who holds it right? Though if I'm bringing something heavy, then I would ask my boyfriend if we could switch bringing the bag. I often see boyfriends bringing their girlfriend's bag, and I really don't think anything about it. I mean, it's their right. hehehe.

i think the rude behavior the girl has shown cant be justified in any way. i think when the girl was not injured and she was able to carry the bag but his boyfriend was carrying the bag , means the boy just wanted to show his affection and caring for his girl but the girl behaviour was not good in return.

I don't see where it would be an issue for a little while. I mean if she's got her hands full or something. Or, if she's trying on cloths. Sometimes if I need something done, I'll ask my partner to hold something for me. And he doesn't mind. its not like I make him do it the whole time. That woman was just lazy.

The girlfriend is not worth emulating. If its not because of love, the boyfriend should have had long left her alone. Making partners look like personal maids isn't ideal. The girlfriend should have waited for his boyfriend to offer in carrying her handbag. Or, the girlfriend should have understood how the boyfriend feels.

well it can be so sweet of her boyfriend,that he holds the handbag for her!but if then it hurts his shoulder then,she should carry herself!

If I were around, I would've said something she would definitely hear! That is so stupid and so crazy. How would she feel if her boyfriend had a backpack with him and asked her to carry it around? The only reason she has this boyfriend in the first place is so that she can be accompanied anywhere she goes, and so she can show someone off. But I highly doubt she likes him that much. Poor guy.

I think it's disrespectful for a girl to have a guy carry her bag for her. How hard is it to have something laying over your shoulder? If you can't hold your own bag, don't bring it with you...put your money in your pocket or something. I also think it makes a guy look silly holding a woman's bag. Why would any girl want to embarrass her man in that way? I don't understand it.

carmenzhj, Frankly, IMHO, I just feel that there's no true do s and don't s in a relationship as it is really all about giving and taking. A man may hold or even carry around his other half's handbag or another apparel accessory for whatever reasons or none at all. Yet, it can be retrospective. Once in a while, I am sure we can see men carrying their partner's handbag oblivious to whatever other may perceive of them. So, there's really nothing odd to me, as the both of them are really enjoying themselves there. However, I just cannot accept and comprehend public outburst of any kind especially when it is over something so trivial here. I am thinking just what will it be when it comes to some life or relationship crisis that this woman will be facing over time. There's just need to be some anger management issue here and I hate to be judgmental. But, this woman really needs it!

Sounds to me like he need to just get him another girlfriend LOL

i dont want my boyfriend to carry bag because it is not good to see for a guy like him to carry my bag. beside i can carry it myself. thats why he said to me that im different from others because of that.

thats terrible-- hes not her slave

First I think a boyfriend or husband should not carry a handbag because it looks so odd. If there is a valid reason it is ok. I think the boy should put his foot down and act like a man, that is why she takes advantage and abuses him. I think if there is a good realationship this type of behavious will not occur.

I agree! I will carry my own bag I feel much comfortable that way. I will not mind to see a man bring their girl hand bag, my best friend usually when we go to mall, she let her boyfriend to bring his bag and jacket and she can walk with freely from one store to another. But I can do that to my man because I feel is not a good idea except he offering himself to bring it.