Should adolescents do everything even if it's bad for the sake of belongingness?

no, you don't have to do that because if your friends will accept you truly, they will respect what you are and what you wanted to do. but if they won't accept you, just find another friends.

No, i do not believe she should do things she doesn't want to do. Especially if she knows those things are "bad". I know how hard it can be for these young teens or tweens growing up and not feeling accepted by their peers. The truth is, there are people out there who will not judge you for what you do or don't do. Maybe she is hanging out with the wrong crowd. True friends will accept you for the person you are. You shouldn't have to do tings you are not comfortable with just to feel accepted. In what ways does she feel she is different from them? I would say, to find friends who share similar ideas and interests with you.

For me, one would be more admirable if she/he will sacrifice not to do bad things just for the sake of belongingness. It's not important if he cant be "IN" with the group, what matters is he knows how to choose and do right things. One should not pretend to do things even if he cant. Be with yourself!!

No. Everyone has a freedom in choosing friends. But we all know that freedom means you're free to do what is right. Doing something that is against your will and you think is not right just to have friends, is not a just to yourself. There are lots of people in the world. So, expect more people you will meet in your life and you'll find good friends that is worth it to treasure forever.

Absolutely NO! It is wrong to do everything even if it is bad for the sake of belongingness with her peers. If they are really her friends, then, they will accept her even if they have different interests, hobbies, etc. Adolescents should choose friends who are good and respectable in the society. Those who value morality and are well-disciplined by their parents. If she chooses these kind of friends, she can assure that she can feel belongingness through true friendship.

Definitely not. If someone is your real friend, he or she will not ask or force you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If this girl's peers are going to judge her for not doing something that she believes is "bad", then they are obviously just close-minded or brainwashed by the rest of society, since they will not accept her feelings. If you can, let her know that sometimes, it can be hard to stand up for what you believe in, but it is always better than doing something that you know is wrong for a few weeks or months of acceptance and then having to live with the guilt for much longer. Remind her than she will not be a teenager forever, even if it feels that way now, and that she will eventually move away from the people who are judging her today and find a group of people who are more like her and share her beliefs about what is right and wrong. Finally, let her know that there is not one little thing wrong with being "different"... it just shows that you are original enough to break away from the rest of the sheep who are mindlessly following what popular culture tells them to do!

no, if you think that they are not good enough for then get away from them. You don't need to do bad or to be what you don't want to be just to be fit with them. If you're smart look for other set of friends that has good influence. :)

Knowing that the kind of activity you are into is bad, ofcourse you would refrain from doing this just for the sake of belongingness. There are a lot of peers who can be a better influence to you. Do not let them pollute your personality just because you realy wanted to be a part of their circle.

My answer is "hell no!" Pardon my language, but I believe we all know that doing something "bad" for the sake of belongingness is "bad" and shouldnt be done! But hey, we are entitled to our own choices, and if the individual chooses to do so as to experience how it is, fine, but be sure to learn and be sure that you know the consequences. However, it SHOULD not be like that. You yourself know that it is not "right", you know that it doesn't serve you and doesn't benefit you in a constructive way. Then why do it? just for the sake of being cool? I know teenaage life is a stressful phase...yet it is an important phase also to mold our individuality and who we really are. We are not mindless zombies who are in control of a powerful sorcerer. The fact that you know it's bad, should be sign enough that you shouldn't do it! But I am not totally closing the door of experience here, it is entirely up to you, if you know how to handle the consequences or not. But then again, you don't really have to do it, right? ;)

No, if he/she a true friend she can be accepted whoever she is. She is not obliged to do everything just to be accepted by her friends for the sake of belongingness. But some of young adolescent today, pretend that they have money so that they can be accepted by the social people or classmate.

in my opinion peer acceptance is important but a true friend will unconditionally accept me as a friend. doing wrong things just to belong is not worthy if what's upstake is my moral and happiness.

nO.yOu dOnt have to dO everything just fOr belongingness.If yOu see these peers are bad infLuence,yOu shOuld make a distance. I knOw these certain friends are nOt only the best Ones yOu knOw, there are many yOu can find."if yOu dOnt accept me as a friend withOut dOing what yOu want, then Okay. i dOnt want yOu tO.

Belongingness??? Well, I think she needs not to do everything for the sake of belongingness. If her friends really treat her as a friend, then they could and would accept who ever she is. In friendship, we need not to force our friend to follow or do what we want in our life. We have to respect their decisions. Friendship would last long if we do understand each other, if we do respect one's decisions and if we do support her in her plans and decisions she had made. True friends would understand each other. There are times that we have to follow our own instinct. We need not to say "go with the flow". If we know that our friends were doing bad things then we have to stay away from them. For me, I don't care if they won't accept me. I'll just find another friends. Friends who could understand the real me, and friends that won't force me to do what they want to.

Do not do everything for the sake of belongingness specially if its bad. You must accept of what you have. If they will not accept as one of thier friends because you are not like them, don't mind it, they are not only the person would become your friend. You can meet another people who can accept you of who you are and what you have,those are your true friend. Because a true friend can accept of whatever you have and whoever you are.

No, she should not do things that are wrong or potentially harmful just to fit in and be accepted. There is so much peer pressure nowadays that it makes it hard not to fall victim to this pressure. However, she should be her own person and should not worry about what everyone else thinks about her. There are other people that do not succumb to peer pressure and do not do these bad things. When she avoids the pressure and avoids doing the bad things she will find these other people that also choose not to follow everyone else and she will be much happier and find that her life is good without adding in all the bad things.

hie gatlopena, we must not do anything that is bad just to belong to a group. we must have a foundation that is strong and solid. we must know what is right or wrong. two wrongs do not make a right. we must know what is proper or improper. thus to me, the family needs to be strong with its fundamentals correct. discipline and right bringing up makes alot of difference as the growing child has his basics correct and would not be easily influenced to be accepted by his peer group. dont be misled by others as bad influence will ruin your life though you may not realised it as you would be bought over by the bad ways and bad value system. then you begin thinking what you are doing is alright and get connected to the bad deeds etc as the rest are doing them. always stop and use your discretion and discernment and evaluate the situation before you make your decisions to join to do bad or unwanted things that will grieve you later. dont rush in and join the crowd. you are responsible to your actions and reactions. at times, its better to talk to your parents, reliable friends who are wholesome. even have to ask God to minister to you ( all of us included too) in times like this. this is my opinion.

For me it s as simple as "if you dont like me, then stay the hell away from me." if im not accepted in a group then it s all good. i dont force myself in one. you could tell her that she doesnt have to consider them her friends. it s like a type of bullying. ive been in a group where someone was getting bullied cuz he s so gullible. now, ive never bullied anyone like that before cuz it s just not right and i think she ll suffer the same if she forces herself in the group. it s better if she finds herself another one.

NO. Compromising and putting yourself in JEOPARDY should not be the prerequisite in joining a group.A SANE person knows that violating his own standard of morality for the sake of his friends is unhealthy, and therefore couldn't be considered TRUE FRIENDSHIP. So what if you can't be part of them? Would it diminish your life a bit? I don't think so. There are still lots of people out there (like me..lols!) who are willing to accept you for who you are. Risking yourself for the sake of them will just ruin your life.Remember that true friendship will never let you do bad things. ...just my two cents of worth. jimmy

no, that's stupidity! belonging does not mean being stupid. yes it is a very typical issue among adolescent but it wont be an issue if a person knows who she is, what she wants and what makes her happy. mingling with somebody is important to develop maturity and self-esteem, but not necessary doing stuff that is obviously wrong. valuing one's self is more important than being in a group that you think you belong and loss your identity and values.