Is arranged marriage fair?

i don't think it's fair... you don't get to have a choice.. but i still believe that parents wouldn't do anything that they know their child would regret by the time comes...

Talking about arranged marriage, there are many pros and cons that are associated with it. One of the aspects about arranged marriages is that it gives the parents utmost control over family matters and members. Since they are the ones who would decide on the prospective bride and groom, they would get someone, who is the best for their son or daughter. On the other side, one of the most crucial drawbacks of arranged marriage is that the boy and the girl do not know each other. Two unknown people get married without knowing and understanding each other. If either of them thinks absolutely contradictorily to what the other believes in, there would hardly be a mutual level of understanding between the two and life would be merely a compromise for the two. Mutual consent and understanding are the only ways a marriage can sustain.

Hi friend, As regards marriage, if you love some one and want to marry that person, you must tell Parents. Most cases they may agree. If they do not you have to convience them about your love and earnest desire to marry that person. As PArents wish happyness for their children, at the end they agre in most of the cases. IF you are not in love with anyon, then Parents are best people who know you most, and they can make reasonably good decision about with whom you can adjust wellafter marriage. They will also seek your consent in almost all cases. If you found something wrong with the person they wanted you to marry you must tell them frankly. I don't see any problem in Parentsfinding suitable match for you, ofcourse they should consult you on your various expactation from your life Partner.

Maybe not. Because choosing our lifetime mate is a matter of PERSONAL CHOICE. Parents who are dictating their sons/daughters whom to marry is DENYING justice and FREEDOM.

It is definitely not fair. Of course, they can't choose the person that i like to be with forever because if that's going to happen, the marriage would end up to separation. My parents are not the one's dealing and adjusting to that person. And i think, its going to be hard in my part, loving the person I don't really love.

i`m grateful that i lived here in the Philippines wherein arranged marriage is seldom happens.People should keep in mind that marriage is not like a candy that you will swallow if you don`t like its taste anymore. It is a serious thing one should take into consideration. We should not let our parents choose the person whom we should marry. We will be the one to choose our lifetime partner. It is not the parents who will suffer if anything goes wrong in our marriage life but ourselves. It is unfair on our part if we let them decide for ourselves. We are capable already to decide what is good for us. All we have to do is to think many times if we are really compatible of our future partners. We should consider both the mind and the heart.!

Whetehr it is fair or unfair it was the done thing in our days and we had to abide by what was chosen.Good or bad, we would stick with our partners;THis was even in the case of educated people.Nowadays the trends are changing and in select families , the youngsters do make their choices and parents give in gracefully. I cannot say whether it is fair or not because we did arrange the marriage of our highly qualified son .

To allow arranged marriages leads to unacceptable pressure on those involved. They are reliant on the parents who wish them to take part in arranged marriages for their futures as well as their current welfare. This practice is an insult to the very nature of loving and lasting partnership and family. Marriage is a matter of choice and we have all the rights to choose our partners whom we're gonna spend our whole life with. If I were involved in this kind of practice, I would probably force myself to escape from my parents' supervision and restart a life of my own. I would surely do this rather than marrying a man whom I don't love.

Of course it's unfair,..in that case you cannot choose the right person for you. What if you don't like the person who was chosen by your parents and you cannot teach yourself to love him? Of course you cannot feel that your marriage life is successful and you'll just be quarreling often times.

Although some arrange marriage were successful, but for me it is still unfair if our parents would be the ones to choose whom should we marry. If we don't love the person have chosen then we won't be happy in our marriage life. We'll just be quarreling with our spouse. We have to remember that marriage life or the parenthood is the permanent stage in our life. If we do follow our parents will then there's a possibility that our marriage life would easily be destruct. If challenges comes, maybe our children would be affected. So it's better if have to marry the person whom we love and whom we think the right person who could give us happiness in our marriage life and is responsible

Although some arrange marriage were successful, but for me it is still unfair if our parents would be the ones to choose whom should we marry. If we don't love the person have chosen then we won't be happy in our marriage life. We'll just be quarreling with our spouse. We have to remember that marriage life or the parenthood is the permanent stage in our life. If we do follow our parents will then there's a possibility that our marriage life would easily be destruct. If challenges comes, maybe our children would be affected. So it's better if have to marry the person whom we love and whom we think the right person who could give us happiness in our marriage life and is responsible

Although some arrange marriage were successful, but for me it is still unfair if our parents would be the ones to choose whom should we marry. If we don't love the person have chosen then we won't be happy in our marriage life. We'll just be quarreling with our spouse. We have to remember that marriage life or the parenthood is the permanent stage in our life. If we do follow our parents will then there's a possibility that our marriage life would easily be destruct. If challenges comes, maybe our children would be affected. So it's better if have to marry the person whom we love and whom we think the right person who could give us happiness in our marriage life and is responsible

It was really unfair if our parents will be the ones to choose the person whom we should marry. If we are not in love in that person, then we will not be happy in our parenthood life. Because marriage is to have a permanent partner in our whole life.

I believe that arranged marriages offer protection and security to women..But theres a great amount of pressure. For me, its not fair if my parents will be the one to choose the guy whom i should marry especially if i really dont feel any "vibration" towards him.. But i will still consider the advantages and disadvantages with it. If i can handle it, then maybe i would accept the GUY. Well, i believe that parents still knows whats best or you!

Certainly not.Ture love is the mystery or longstanding marriage which can not be arranged in.To some extent, arranging marriage,which is a authoritarian behavior, deprives the right of love.

No, it is unfair to us. If we dont like that guy to be our partner. They choose that guy because of reputation, businessman, or something that has a big name in the politics. That kind of marriage is not successful, some relatonship will not last longer.

as for me, arrange marriage is some what more practical. well, its very ironic for me to imagine having an arrange marriage knowing that my parents gave me the freedom to choose. but in reality i would rather go with an arrange marriage. lets face it, we are longing for comfortability and i think that's the reason why arrange marriage has been made. still i believe in true love and you can definitely love a person whom your arrange to be engage. i also believe in maslow's hierarchy of needs, the basic is the physiological that comes the comfortability that i am talking!

no,because i have my own will, i have my own choice i am a free person. why rely on my parents choices?

no its not fair, because how would i know if that guy we are compatible in each other,i respect my parents but they can not force me to marry someone who i did not really know,its not fair for me, we are all know that our parents wants for our good future but they can not choose whom i should marry

.arrange marriage.?? i dont think so it is unfair. for me its okay.i dO not wOrry if that guy is nOt my will,because time will cOme that you will learn to love him as time goes by,as moments increases. i believe tat things can be learned. And i prove also many times that parents/mother knows best. Then if that guy fits the qualities that mother wants and determined by his good background, and he can able to build a future for a family, then why not i dont marry him. for this time, we need to be practical.