What do we get from falling in love?

Indeed it's a two way benefit.

I have never had the feeling of not being alone. When I love a person, I am secretive. That's why, I end up going on by myself. Like living as if I feel nothing special for someone. When we go together, it seems that nothing's really special but the way I see it, I feel pain but still I have to bear it because I don't want to miss a normal hang-out with that person since it gives me joy and pain.

Great,Just enjoy falling in love. The most important and valuable thing we get from love is joy. No matter you are pleased or depressed, there's always someone siding with you, we are not lonely any more. Walking together and leading a whole life with someone you loved, that's all.

I agree. Now that I am single and still searching for someone to mingle, I feel like there's less pain however life is incomplete. Whenever I fall in love, I consider pain normally because somehow it completes my being.

That always depends on whom we fell in love to. If the person already loves us, you will get joy and excitement. If the person cannot love you back, what you will get is pain.

I think if someone is not able to love us back then we should learn how to set them free. And not to think of it as something that will hurt us in time. Loving someone means we need to sacrifice a part of us. Love is patient love sacrifice alot. Thats why if we truly love someone and they dont feel the same for us set them free and in time deep inside you , you will feel complete and happy for what you did . Thanks for commenting and have a great day

That's what is worth of love - happiness and sadness together to make a life wonderful. Thank you Hatley.

Exactly. And what we eventually and ultimately want would just fall into place when we are in love. We can never know when the search for it is over until cupid strikes again and see that this ultimate thing you have desired for is with you all the while.

feels great isnt it? when you get into a relationship, then it will be a new level. good luck.

I did experience falling in love but I have never been in a relationship.

I disagree. People hurt those they love all the time for various reasons. As for what you take away from being in love...sooooo many things!! I learned that I was worth more than being slapped and hurt in any way from my first husband and my second taught me that I also didnt need a man who disprespected me and said cruel things. I learned what I want to surround myself with and that I deserved to be treated right. From my third big relationship, I learned that its true that if you love someone who is unhappy to let them go and (in my case at least) if they love you they will return. I also learned just how strong I really was and that I can survive anything. I learned who really cared about me because those were the ones that were there for me when I needed them and I learned that I can love men in different ways...one a deep comfortable love and one a hot passionate love and one a mix...etc. I learned that I dont need love at all but that I do want to love and be loved. ALL of this came from falling in love in my lifetime.

I disagree too. Hurting may come in two different notes - intended and unconscious. Intended pain inflicted to a partner is something so hard to forgive. This is something intentionally decided, your partner knows his responsibility, regardless whether you know this certain decision or not. The other pain brought by love is actually a natural process of changing. If we do not get hurt, we do not learn how to basically run a relationship. It is necessary to sacrifice and get hurt mutually because that's how it should be.

I suppose I should have said agony and ecstasy; maybe that would have made the point better.

Exactly. Love could be a legend. Merely looking at the countless movies ever made from history to now. They all show love in many ways.

It is irreplaceable! 100%

That is good then.

I love this feeling.

Thank you very much Matt. I certainly agree. It puts a person in a state of confusion because of all the learning that he gets from love. There's too many option to see when you are in love.

This exactly is the confusion of love. We learn at the same time we take decisions from going away from it when we hurt. But when we lose it, we feel the regret of doing so. I really miss those sleepless nights, those nights when I had to put a smile on my face while in tears because of the beautiful memories that love has given me. Even thought it hurts but the emotion I had was never as good as anything in this world. I love love. It keeps a wise man confused and a foolish man wise.

I wonder why it has always to be a repeating process. It looks like we never learn when in fact we learn and grow. That's the mystery of love undeciphered up to now.

Perfectly said. It is love that makes us live continually. Even if it takes whatever to us from second to second, we are still open in accepting them.

love is subjective. we define when we discover.

Does this imply that we should not fall in love?

I dont believe that everything is so perfect when ur in love. But everything feels so perfect when its not.

I highly agree with this. Life itself is unfolded when a person is in love. All the values are collected all at once which helps to define more the true meaning of living.

It's ok to be in assumption trebliw0. Even if you are not in a relationship, the way you observe things tells how much love gives impression to people who are not even in love. That's the power of love.

this response is way dramatic. I love it. The magic of love is mysterious and has mysterious ways. People should be ready of the surprise this must give them.

It's right! Even if we are not complete, we feel the completeness when we are in love or when we are loved.