The In-laws

My married brother is still living with us. I find it awkward having them around. That brother was never close to me because he was our black sheep in the family before. We hardly communicate. And so with my sister-in-law. I always avoid them.It has been a problem since they moved in last year. I eat my dinner as early as I could so that I won't join with them eating dinner. I really think it's not a good idea to live in your in-laws. If I get married I would not move in to my in-laws. It's still better and peaceful if married couples should have their own house. It's inevetable that in-laws will meddle when couples are into decison-making.

I love my in-laws too. They really are good people. ME and my husband lived with them for awhile in the beginning. It was not so bad. Now that we moved to India, it's nice to have your own place where there's noone to meddle. We still visit them, and well, visiting is not the same as living with them. You are probably right that you may not like them so much if you move in with them. Sometimes living together caused too much problem. The little things that they do which are now amusing to you may be a source of irritation if you move in with them.

Honestly, the first time I saw them, I liked them, but I had no idea that they didn't want their son to be engaged with anyone because they didn't want him to get married. After a few months, they started being mean to me. They tried to do everything to ruin my relationship with my husband. They started accusing me of things I could never do. It would torture my mind everytime they would accuse & confront me without my husband's knowledge because I couldn't fight back for they might turn it against me. With all the emotional tortures they did to me, I don't think it would be fair on my part to still manage to like them. I don't hate them but I don't like them either. However, I still care about them maybe because they're my husband's parents. I still respect them for the sake of my husband. If they'd need my help, i'd still be willing to help. Whenever they're sick, I pray for them to get well soon because I love my husband. If he's hurt, i'm hurt, too. But, everytime I recall all the bad things my in-laws have done to me, i'm starting to fight them only in my mind with all revenge. Too bad I could do it only in my mind. I always want to fight back and get even but I guess I can never have the strength and power to do that as long as I love my husband. Thus, considering moving in with my in-laws is a big big big no.

I consider my in-laws as part of my family. They are great people and they are so kind to me. However, when ask if I'm going to consider moving in with them then I would never consider it. Not for any reason but simply because I would love to have my own home. A home that we could learn to live on our own together with my husband and future kids. I believe that we have to be independent to become more mature and fruitful individuals as a good preparation for our future.

When we were in the early stage of our marriage, we stayed with my wife's family, in-laws. Although they own everything, I was treated as if I am the prince of the house. I cannot think of any negative incidence during that time. It was only lately when we are not anymore staying with my in-laws that I heard that my brother -in-laws had a bad feeling with their parents for making us their favorite in everything. Anyway for me its just normal for my brother in laws to really feel said favoritism. However this did not give any bad relationship between us. Now that my parents in law as well as my parents are already deceased we are doing our best to help each other, my in laws and my family side.

I only have a mother-in-law coz my father-in-law passed away when me and my husband were not yet married. Believe me, eventhough your in law seems to be very nice and accomodating, it is advisable not to live with them.. You are starting your own family and you've got some do's and don'ts that they may not like and it will start your differences, making cold war..it would be very good to have your own family not be living in your in laws. just make sure that you visit your in laws, may be every weekend or every other week...be nice!

I think it is still best to have your own home rather than living with in-laws. That's also the reason me and my husband together with our kids are living on our own. I am in good terms though with my mother- in- law. I have not met my father- in- law because he has already passed away when I met my husband.

mine are also very nice... they treat me like family and i couldn't ask for no other in-laws.. :} we had once lived with them for more than five years.. but when we got a house we stayed in our house but we have get togethers..