he dumped me

He lied to you and thats the worst part in a relationship... Love is built on trust... even me, I met a guy who was really in love with me... I tried my best to avoid him...I use to talk because I felt pity for him... He was already married with a kid and wife but he didnt tell me... but I came to know about him and even these days he keeps on calling me...but I never pick up his call..... You still have a long way to go...everything happens for the best ....Have just in God and keep on praying for your life partner wherever and whoever he is...

well first of all, he is not being honest with u with whatever is happening in his life! for all u know, he could be a psycho! just back off and check out first what's been happening with him through other sources. if the results are bad, like he has a baby and wife or many girlfriends. . . u decide if u have to go through all this pain to be with him!?? is he worth it!? :)

No I don't think you overreact. He had to be honest with you and not to mislead you. If he did tell you the truth, then it would be up to you if you continue that relations or not. Then you wouldn't have a reason to blame him. But in this situation I think that guy doesn't deserve you or any woman that he decides he might mislead.

Hello good day, in my own view you didn't reacted. You are the girlfriend so you deserved to know what is his status of course you dont want to mess up someone life right. I guess its just right he dumped you, because he is not yet ready to have another relationship. He could be single parent or he could be single but have live in partner we dont know. But at least you are now in good safe. So just move on and forget it.

Hello lwethu, I don't think you overreacted about it, serves him right. I think it was your woman's instinct that you just believed. I think though he's not yet married he got a partner all along, and most probably living in together. Just move on with your life... there's someone who deserves more of your love than just be with the wrong guy. Goodluck in life... happy mylotting.

No, I don't think you overreacted. It is of course right to ask him things that bothers you. In the first place, he lied to you. I believe he is still living together with his common-law wife and their kid. Be thankful that he stopped having an affair with you. Just think of the baby. You wouldn't want that happen to your baby, do you? Having a father that is a cheater! Sorry for him, if ever I am wrong. I just judged him the way you picture the situation was. Anyway, just move on with your life. There are many guys around the corner and believe that there is one guy that is just right for you.

no not at all .you havent over reacted at all.If he is hiding things form you this way then probably he is married.dont waste your time in such things.move one.You deserve better man.

no you didn t :) it s oki that he avoided to tell you he was single and had a kid. but at the point it came out he should have told you everything . if he kept acting strange it only means he s married.

Maybe he thinks you don't want the baby that's why he dumped you. Maybe he just didn't have the heart to tell you. Why don't you try talking to him about it and make things better?

No, You don't over react. You did not act at all!. First he is already your bf but you totally don't know about him or wheres he live? I think you need to know that person to be consider that person as your friend. And as a boyfriend?

If he dumped you then that's good! Its better that you found out earlier that he's a a total jerk. That happened because he's not the right one for you and just be thankful that he did that cause he is teaching you a lesson. I have been dumped by my ex-boyfriends like twice already and I also had a hard time coping with it at first but come to think of it in a positive way cause you are given another chance to look for the man who deserves you. Its not your lost, its his lost and you should know that. Dont feel bad cause you know for yourself that you have been true to the relationship and be proud of yourself that you did that. You deserve someone better and dont worry cause it will come.

I don't think that you overreacted. If you directly asked him whose clothes were in the car, and he said it was his nieces, he lied to a direct question. Omitting information of that magnitude is bad enough. If he wanted to have a serious relationship with you, then that is information that he should have told you immediately. But he flat out lied to a direct question. You're better off without him. If he lied about that, God only knows what else he lied about. He may be married. Good riddance.

if i was in ur place i will do the same thing..we if you want to stay with him there are many problems like that kid .the 1st problem is -if that kid likes you. 2nd is his family.. when that kid become 10 year he will be angry with u and with his father.. but if that guy realy loves u so.........u will be well and you should love that kid as ur son .its not going to happen ..u also have a good family na.the will only do good thing 4 u.am i right?

I don't think you overreacted at all. I would've done the same thing in approaching him about the matter. My ex-boyfriend acted like that. He didn't tell me that he had a son until a few weeks after we started dating. I'm not sure why he felt that he had to lie to you about having a kid but it sounds like this break up is best. I wish you the best and don't sweat about it too much.

lwethu all i got to say is that a man that would do such a thing to hide something from a girl that means one thing karma will bite him in the you know what one of these days so just move on don't worry about him there is always someone out there that will always make you happy

I think your reaction was normal. You wanted to have a serious relationship with the guy but it seems he wasn't serious enough with you. If the guy was really serious with you he should have opened up with you and told you the truth instead of hiding things from you.

I know you have made the wise decision. To interrogate and find out the truth. Most of us try to run or hide from problems at hand. We will try to pull ourselves under the blanket until we can no longer avoid the problems but by then it is already devastating. This guy is just trying to play around with you. if he is truthfully in such situation he would have already told you the truth, cause he know that one day you would know it too and the fact that he let loose the relation when you interrogate because he know that his cover is blown up and there is just no more point in having relation with you. Well, don't be sad.. there are someone out there in the same boat as you are.. be patient and you will find it.

No you did not overreact. It's only normal that you want to know more about your guy. Why shouldn't you? If he really wasn't hiding anything it should be okay for him to tell you that he has a child, or anything else about his life. I mean, come on, it's his life. He's living it already, what does he have to hide? I'm not saying that he's married though. Maybe he is, or maybe it's something else. But you can't force someone to tell you about something if they don't want to. He dumped you because he's hiding something that isn't normally accepted. A baby is normally accepted, his being married is definitely not, he might have a girlfriend, but it doesn't make sense that the 5 month gf is the mother of his 1 y/o baby. What, didn't they know each other when they did it? Or did they decide to get together because he got her pregnant when he wasn't supposed to? There are a lot of things. And you've never been to his place? Why not? He won't let you? It's probably better this happened. You can try and find out about him, but by the time you find out what he's hiding from you, the trust would already be gone, and it might be something serious that you wouldn't want to take part in anyway.

Well, since you are uncomfortable with his "Cloak and Dagger" routine, it was okay that he left you. Move on, find someone else - don't make it a biggie. In the long run, you'll laugh this off.

it's not wrong to ask when you're in doubt. lying should not be tolerated in a relationship and it could be possible that there are other things that he is not telling you. i just hope that everything would turn out well for you.