Are you a participative student?

@lady1993 (27224)
Philippines
April 7, 2010 8:16am CST
Me, i'm not..i prefer to listen; and when the teacher calls me, i freeze, my mind goes blank and i stutter.. It's because i have this problem on self esteem. I really admire those people who can freely express themselves without fear. But now I'm off to college, there's no room for shyness there- i just hope i can overcome my "fear" and believe in my ideas..
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34 responses
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Hello lady1993! As a student, I must say that I have always been a participative student. I have always participated in class discussions as actively as I can. Sometimes, I take the initiative to share my opinions or to answer questions. But most of the time, I am called upon by my teachers to recite.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
That is very good for you.. Since my teacher said that people learn more if they also share heir knowledge to otehrs, so others can also add to it. I hope i am more like you when school starts..
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Nov 10
It has been a very long time since I was a student, but when I was in school, it was much better for me to be able to participate in discussions and hands on activities than it was for me to listen to a lecture. I don't think the fact that I learned best this way had anything at all to do with the self esteem that I had. Instead, I think it is because I am left handed and that means that I am a much more visual person that other people tend to be.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Oh, yes.. it also depends n what type of learner you are. I think i am a visual learner too, but i do love listening rather than talking in front of a class. Especially if the topic is interesting.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
cute mascot boy - this was taken at the mall when we were strolling around.. we found it cute that's why we took a picture of it.. it's a mascot..a poster of a stall..
Good day my lady1993.I guess your still inside your shell, my advice to you is break out from that shell and express yourself.Let the world hear what's on your mind.You said your off to college so go out there meet new friends. I wish you the best of luck.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Yes, i am still inside my shell until now. it is quite hard to break from this shell since there are not a lot of opportunities in college.. i am busy with my subjects too, it's hard to also participate in extra curricular stuff.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
8 Apr 10
hello lady, i wasn't when i was in school. and just like you i would freeze when called. depending on my mood now, sometimes when i start to talk i find it hard to stop.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
I am quite talkative too, especially if i like the topic, but that is only when i am with close friends.. But when i am in a pace full of a people and a teacher, i just get scared.
@pabreen (237)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
You have to build your self esteem so that you can overcome your fear, bear in mind that every person has a unique asset that not all can have. Remember, shyness could be a hindrance to your success.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Yes, it is a hindrance.. i have a lot of stuff i can't do because i am shy and just lazy to pursue anything.. I hope someone would just push me so i would be forced to do something.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
of course yes. the participating to the class is the highest percent in the room. for me i need to participate to share some ideas to become up to my grades and also im participate to ask some question that i what to know. i that way you will become an active student and it will cause to give you a higher grades. so you need to participate in your room. happy vacation everyone. and always take care to all myloters and god bless you all.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
yeah, i do hate it when teachers make it a point to add the participation in class to the class standing.. Good thing not so many college teachers do it anymore.
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 10
Well I am okay.I am reasonably good at expressing myself and my class participation depends on a lot of factors like my interest in the subject,my mood that day,the person who is sitting next to me and my hunger level at that moment...:P....When the teacher calls me and I am not comfortable with the answer,I do try coming up with a confident response none whatsoever.However,if the question is too out of bounds for me,then I humbly accept that I don't know how to answer that and ask the teacher to excuse me.Works for me mostly!!
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Good for you.. I really envy those people who can express themselves well.. When i am asked a question by the teacher, i usually just choose a quick answer, maybe i have stage fright or something.
@jobmoone (442)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
yes, seems my childhood days were very active with the help of my lovable parents. So I get used to it in school to share what i have in my mind with relation to every topic our teacher discussed. Being deeply appreciated by all around us makes one to reflect what they have. Its about action-reaction environment upbringing.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
I think i was encouraged by my parents too... But i don't know with myself, i was just a different person in school.. More shy and scared. i gradually became confident in the late years of high school though.. just a bit.
• China
8 Apr 10
hi i'm college students now and i know the importance of expressing oneself without fear in university. i think you need to take your fiste step to express yourself and then practise it again and again until you are away from fear.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
I hope i would like the subjects i will be taking this semester so that i can participate. One reason i do not participate is i don't really now what to say..
@razim17 (194)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 10
you need to be outspoken in college to succeed.it is also easier for you to learn through expressing your ideas and thoughts.some people are born with great self-esteem and some are just late to get it.college is the time when everybody will express themselves.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
yeah, it is still hard for me to express myself though.. But i think i am much more confident now.. but there are still times that i don't want to participate, i just hate some activities.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I used to be like that too, whenever my teacher asks me something i just cant say a word. Im too shy to utter just out anything.But when i got into h.s. then the whole story changed i became so active in school activities not to mention class actvitivies, winning some academic contests, even won the student council presidency as early as 3rd year high school up to 4th year h.s. I think i just woke up from the reality that if i wont do something bout my fear then i will be forever weak, but if i will try my best theres a good chance that i will be really excellent.And thats what i just did
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
its good that now you are ble to join sites like this to express your thoughts, gain friends, and learn.. when i was a student (even in college) i dont participate in discussions, i dont to be on the limelight.. i preffer to be on the background like be the props maker or the researcher, but not the reporter.. i was comfortable being inside my little box. im just glad that teachers get the higher percentage of grades from written exams and projects, otherwise i will not pass.. i guess i haven't overcome that fear until now (i've improved i must say).. so setsuna26 continue your plan to try your best to participate when you get to college,it will definitely boost your self-esteem and confidence..
@greyz7 (859)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
hi, when i was a student, i really am a participative student. i used to raising my hands whenever the teacher asks questions and i used to participate in discussions by answering on my seat..i just can't take it being just quiet.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Wow, that is good for you, your teacher must really like you since they love it when students are not only listening, but also sharing his or her opinions.
@helman (115)
• Indonesia
7 Apr 10
it is not good decission and you will be the surrender person.. never give up man.......
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Yeah, it is better said than done though. I don't really know why i am scared and why i am like this either.. Did i have a trauma when i was a kid ? Or maybe i am just shy.
@ppelsb (20)
7 Apr 10
when i talk in front of the class i go bright red
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
12 Jun 12
Yes, i am like that sometimes.. especially if all f my classmates look t me or i say something wrong. We should overcome this.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I think most people have that fear of speaking in front of an audience. I remember in elementry school we used to have to write reports on stuff we learned in class. History reports, etc. Then we had report days we had to stand in front of the class and read them. When i was in sixth grade i was "sick" on one report day. Returning to school the next day the teacher smiled and said she had a surprize for the class. We were all excited. But it was short lived. Because so many were "sick" on report day it was cancled the previous day and today was report day. Lol!!!
• India
8 Apr 10
hi lady , i too had so many friends who used to stutter . or would shy to speak same kind of problem. and i know that its due to lack of confidence in ourself . it happens bcoz we think wat our teacher or class mates will think about us when we tell these .... that , if i tell wrong answer something . that the main culprit . fist develop a good speaking skill , then try to be confident when you speak , talk to stranger , as its a pratice session to develop those skill, every time think and talk that doesnot mean you have think long time to speak . think as if you have to lead , act according to that ,u will suceed
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Not really, I prefer to listen too, or talk with my classmates. I only answer when the teacher calls my attention.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
We are so alike lady1993. I am also like you when I was still a student and I have to say this, I am still like that at present. So I advice you to 'treat' yourself as early as possible :D Do not hesitate to voice out your opinions especially if it was being asked. My problem before is that I am always afraid that my answer is wrong or my ideas are incorrect. Do not be afraid to make mistakes or be afraid what other people would say and think about you. You can't please everybody. Whatever ideas or opinions you say, they would always have something to say. Let them know who you are. Never hide your true self because if you do that, at the end of the day, it is only who would suffer. I hope that helps. Have a nice evening.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
22 Aug 12
The same thing was with me whenever teacher call me to participate in any activity I feel shy and not like to join it. Still I fear about participation in any activity in my community.
• Philippines
14 Jul 12
It really depends on what subject. I am normally not a participative student but when the teacher talks about something interesting, then that is the time when i start listening and stop talking. Happy mylotting.