It's almost my birthday and he doesn't seem to remember.

I do admit it's about attention, but I don't think someone could really be 'okay' when the most important person in your life forgets to at least give you a kiss, right? I'm not the partying kind, and I haven't celebrated my birthday for a long long while now. I just merely don't want to look sad when he forgets. That's all.

laydee, I'm putting this up here in the hopes that you see it. A very long time ago, after my exhusband forgot my birthday he said what was probably the only intelligent thing he's ever said in his life. He said that, all year long, I'm the one who remembers everyone's birthday in the family, that I remind him when one is coming up and take care of getting gifts and cards. Then he asked me why I chose not to remind him of the most important one...mine? He didn't expect me to get my own gift or card but, since I had trained him not to have to remember special dates, it wasn't fair for me to get angry when he didn't. So, my advice to you is to stop making your birthday a test of someone's love for you. Tell everyone you care about that it's coming up on such and such day. Talk about what you'd like to do...how old you're going to be...how happy you are! It's a special day so start treating it like one instead of treating it like a big secret.

Hmm.. I don't mind him not remembering because he's really slow with dates, I already knew that way back when we were merely friends.

Awwww... That's just sweet.

Hehe.. That's a funny way to see this, but I'm oh so melodramatic these days because I'll be turning 30. It's an important mark for me, he knows it and I'm afraid I'd cry when he forgets. He knows I've been worrying for this age to come since day one. Anyway, perhaps I could do what you suggest. But only when it's past my birthdate. Don't worry, I'll try o act as maturely as I can. It's just that most of my friends, even co-workers have started singing me that song for about a week now, and it makes my heart sad that of all the people in the world, he hasn't noticed a bit.

Yeah, I do plan to tell him that it hurt me so much, but still I have to wait 2days more before I could definitely be sure he did forget or not.

Thank you for that honest answer, by the way, he's not yet my husband but we've been on for about 5years now. Anyhow, I do plan to tell him after that I am hurt, not the drama hurt where tears fall down my cheek for him not remembering, but the mature hurt of letting him know that I don't want anything from him except that he keep me in his heart and one way of showing me that is if he tries to remember my birthday. But, I'm planning not to tell him or remind him prior the date and would want to act cool should he forget but will tell him after the day is done. Thanks once again.

Those are good subtle hints, and I hope I could find myself able to fit those in our conversation hehee.. But still, I'm afraid that he won't get the point at all since he never did mention anything. Further, he's in another country, so whew.. I don't think he'd ever remember all the more.

Hehehe, yeah I don't really blame him at all, I just want to hide my disappointment because it could fuel some nasty fights, I just want to steer clear on that without letting him feel guilty for forgetting, with all the pressure he's been on these days.