Letting a friend use your bed

Hello. I would have said ok no problem not so long ago but it mainly depends on 2 things: how close you are to the person and what's the state your room is in! without joking I would let my friends use my bed if they're staying with me, even if I have to sleep on the floor but if I'm not here, I don't feel that comfortable. Using my bed? no problem. Using my room/flat/house? Problem. I guess I'm more a "I'll let you use my bed but let's move it to someone else's room first!" type of person...

I don't mind as long of course they are changing the sheets on a regular basis and keep everything neat and tidy. The most annoying thing is to have someone dirty stay with you. That is why you should already know what kind of person they are and how they will be behave in your home.

Well, as long as my husband would not be sleeping with the person that needed to be using my bed, I would not have a problem with it. :) Seriously though, I would put clean sheets on the bed before the visitor came to stay at our place and I would change them again before I went to sleep in the bed the first night back. It is that simple to me. I would have no problem letting someone else sleep in my bed. I am more like your friends that would offer you (the visitor) as comfortable in my home as possible. And if their was something I was worried about that I did not want other people to see, I would just make sure it was put away.

Yeah. That's fine because there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. Giving her a space in your bed means you also trust a person and give your little part so that's fine most especially if its a friend. Although there might be few who are not comfortable with it maybe because she grew up alone so its a big no no towards her but it has something to do with a trust I guess.

Yeah definately I would let a friend use my bed, infact I have had friends stay over where we all sleep in the same bed anyway, and Im just used to it, maybe she's just a bit fussy, If I wasnt going to be there then I would probably change the sheets before I go, just out of courtesy! And change them when I got back if I thought my friend had her boyfriend over, but I would still be completely fine about it.

i love my friends and i have no problem using or sharing my bed. the only condition is that i have to know before hand, and i should be consulted in a nice manner. i hate it when they just inform me instead of asking. regardless if i am there or not, as long as they ask or hint it, i usually offer it

I don't like others sleeping/sitting on my bed without my permission. It is so rude and impolite. Actually, if someone offers me his/her bed to take some rest out of his/her kind hospitality, I am glad that and might accept it. However, it is also okay that if he/she doesn't want his/her own space get invaded. One of my relatives went to my house and wore my pair of velvet slippers, I felt disgusting when I saw that, she didn't ask me and wore it immediately after she entered my house. Sometimes, even a very good/kind person, they would have diseases even they don't know, it is risk to let others to use my personal things. But I never tell others I don't like people using my stuff, that's why I would prepare well before, I would prepare a new set of bed covers and pillow cases or even a new pillow for every guest.

Yes, If I was out of town I would allow a friend to sleep in my bed. I have done it a few times when they pet sat for me and I've made sure they had fresh clean sheets ready for them and another sst ready for me when I came home. We all do have personal space opinions and maybe she was nervous someone would go thru her stuff. Was she an only child as that often can make a difference on sharing or not. I grew up with 3 siblings and we shared all the time, in part since we all used the "kids" bathroom. Try not to be hurt by her reaction as she likely really meant no offense. She might be nervous about being away and having others in the apartment that could borrow her stuff or what not. Take care!

I guess some people are just being protective on the things they owned it specially girls...Even if you're friends you're not even the friends who can really trust each other or the intimate one. But as you said you got friends that can offer their things or you can borrow as long as you didn't make anything or reason that will break their trust.

I've known people who are very particular about their personal belongings. The sleeping bed is one of them. To them, the bed belongs to them only and no one has the right to sleep or even sit on it. If my friend, relative, or even sibling, is coming over to my house to stay overnight while I will be away from home, I will let him or her sleep on my bed. Of course, I will change the bedsheet and pillow cases before letting them sleep on my bed.

Well to be honest I might sound just like your friend on some occasions. [em]blush[/em I'm not an only child or something. I'm just shy when it comes to sharing things because it feels weird when somebody sleeps on my bed, changed sheets or not. I do have space issues and my private space bubble extends to my room. My solace is my room and having someone without me there with free reign seems a bit overwhelming for me. I have no secrets or something like that. Just the thought of someone being there freaks me out. I'm sure you're friend might be thinking the same thing. It's not that I don't want to share or anything like that. It's just to avoid having my private space bubble burst. I will always offer anything that will make my visitors comfortable but I draw the line at making them stay in my room if I'm not there. I hope you are not taking it too personally. She has her own idiosyn"crazies" and you have yours. You've known her for a while now and you both know the dynamics of your friendship does not depend on her being too controlling about this one aspect. I'm sure if you compare your friendship with her again with those you have known a for just a few years you'll find that the friendship has grown over the years. Every relationship has a hurdle to battle and maybe this isn't even a real one if you just open your mind.

well i guess it is her privacy to not let you use her bed, yes your right she is very much protective with her thing but i hope you understand why she doesn't let anyone use her bed maybe there is a secret behind, hehe

i think it's nothing to let your friends use your things,true friends will never care about this .talking about this guy you mentioned,i think you don't need to care what she said,for one thing,your other friends are willing to stay with you and they had arranged you everything,you just like what you said: you hadn't even considered using her bed.for another,if some one talk to you like this,it is clear that she is not the guy deserving your friendship,so don't care what she said,it's meaningless.

i think it's nothing to let your friends use your things,true friends will never care about this .talking about this guy you mentioned,i think you don't need to care what she said,for one thing,your other friends are willing to stay with you and they had arranged you everything,you just like what you said: you hadn't even considered using her bed.for another,if some one talk to you like this,it is clear that she is not the guy deserving your friendship,so don't care what she said,it's meaningless.

I guess she just thinks of her bed as a sacred place for just her and her boyfriend. Or she just doesn't want to change the sheets. I would let a friend use my bed anytime. I would definitely put on clean sheets first and after they used them.