Do You Believe in Mr/Mrs Right

Thank you my friend, trouble is because I have been hurt so much in the past and have had two disastrous relationships the brick wall is well and truly up so if the right person DID come along then I wouldn't let them get anywhere near me for fear of getting hurt again so I am my own worst enemy in every respect.

We all have those walls and sometimes the people in our lives try to tear them down, but the injuried souls that we are, we build it back up, no matter how much it hurts, you just have to want the wall to come down someday and are willing to take a chance is when the sun shines down brightly on us allowing us to find that one person that does not mind the wall and understands why we built it.

Thanks Dan!

Sometimes when you're NOT looking is when you find that person that matches you so well.

I actually have FOUR cats and a rabbit, I live with my housemate and the landlord is ok about the animals thankfully, otherwise we wouldn't have moved in 3 years ago. What a meanie of your landlord he sounds like a creature myself but I'm too much of a gentleman to say what creature LOL! Animals provide so much love, companionship and comfort. Sometimes animals are better than some humans! Thanks as always for your response my friend.

Exactly, you hit the nail on the head! My heart is guarded with a sky high fortress and barbed wire, I have been hurt too many times, why leave yourself open and vulnerable? Some people are meant to be alone, and I have resigned myself to that fact. Thank you for sharing, appreciated.

Well sometimes you dont have to try to find mr right. He will often come to you especially when you least expect him. He normally comes as well when you think you dont need any other guy in your life at all. So maybe, you dont have to look. Live your life and just relax about things. Be happy. Dont expect too much. Before you know it, itl hit you... usually hard.:) I for one have been on a few bad relationships before I found my MR Right. I also went through the stage where you would ask yourself if i am doing the right thing(marriage) and if if this is exactly the Mr right that was meant for me. I didnt believe before on Mr right or Miss right because, really, there's no right person neither is there anyone perfect anywhere in the world but there will certainly be someone who fit just nicely in your world. And who will make everything right and be right as well. hurting in a relationship is just common. We will always get hurt no matter how much we try to protect ourselves. And in loving someone hurting is often the twin. I know for a fact that when we have given too much already of ourselves and have been hurt numerous times from the past, the more we get cautious and the more we barricade ourselves from the same thing again. Its natural. We ought to learn something right? But for me, I just had to give everyone or the guy a benefit of the doubt. everyone deserves that. And it will always be a risk to love someone and especially when it's about Mr Right Someone. :)

Sorry you are feeling depressed, I go through black periods of depression myself. I have had relationships before where I have felt trapped, manipulated, used and abused, it's hard to realize it but sometimes I am better of being single, I couldn't go through another relationship like the last two again. Here's a virtual hug, hope that helps x

Thanks for your response and welcome to Mylot.

I am happy being single and I do not want to waste any more time looking. Thank you for your response, glad you have Mr Right.

It is when you stop looking, it finds you in the most unexpected places :o)

I would guess you have a high standard when looking for your mr. right. Maybe you should lower your standards there is not such thing that will meet your every whims and ideal of it.

Don't apologize, glad it worked out well for you and thank you for sharing, appreciated.

Thank you. I think the trick is not to look for someone - if they come along then great - if not, just enjoy life without!

The old saying goes better off to be alone than in bad company. After two disastrous relationships I'm certainly not holding out for a third. I think society pressurizes people to be in couples and life is geared around two people rather than single people, not fair I know but the fact of life. We have to be labelled! Better off alone, yep sometimes I think some of us are better being single!