Got deleted by my EX....
By dee
@yresh12 (3212)
Philippines
April 18, 2010 5:37pm CST
I just learned a few days ago that I was deleted by my exboyfriend. He was a close friend in high school. We were in a relationship 2 years after we graduated. We broke up and go back then broke up. we had been like that for three years. We remained friends. Then this girlfriend arrives. We were friends and then after months of it. I just learned last week that I got deleted.. Hmmmm...
I was disappointed because he threw all of our friendship away for that girl.. Hurt? am not but disappointed I am. I'm the one who understands..Girlfriends just don't like having Ex girlfriends on there friendslist. I never even confronted my EX for it. hahaha...I just wish them well.. I hope they are as happy as I am now..
Have you ever tried this situation guys?.....
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16 responses
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
19 Apr 10
Why a girl hates this...I mean why girls don't like having ex girlfriends...and then your ex boyfriend..whether he really been a good friend to you..I just don't understand why he left you for another girl...what the hell is this...leaving one girl for another...
I just hate these kind of people ..
I just hate these kind of people ..
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Hi, yresh12. This has never happened to me before. But don't feel sorry that it has. It is best to no longer be buddies with him anymore being that he has a girlfriend. You don't want to get yourself caught up into anything. Be thankful that he did the favor. Or she did. You seem to take this very well. Try not to think about this. You are so much better than that.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
18 May 10
Hey cream..
Imagine if I would react badly and post to everyone and say bad things like i'm really hurt in facebook..
People would think that I still don't want him to be out of my life. AND the way I would act as if i'm a sour loser...
It's better you not saying anything at all the less mistakes we do.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Apr 10
Haven't had this situation, but I can completely understand it.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi Yresh12.
I am one of the girls that would not like another girl on my husabnd's friends list especially if they were an ex. My husband is the same way though, so it's understandable. I think as females we are more perceptive of these things, don't you agree? Are you going to be getting on MoeZ? I miss you there! :D
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
5 Jun 10
I think if the situation was reversed, I'd want the same thing.
If by some miracle I were dating you (lucky me), then I'd want you to delete your old boyfriends too. Love is exclusive, or it generally fails. I want a marriage that works. So I too would ask you to delete your ex-boyfriends, which would be him.
Of course, miracles don't happen, and I wager you are taken, but the point is I can see the other side of this too. Best of luck to them, and you.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Hi andy!!
I'm totally not taken.. hahaha
Well He was the one who deleted me which is not a big deal at all. I understand but we were friends for so long. But then again if I was in a relationship I would have done the same thing. Exclusive as you say, that would be sweet I think. I think you would be really lucky if I was your girlfriend because I would be all yours.LOL. Take care!
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Not really, I try to keep a distance with my exes. There's a reason why we broke up, and I really have no desire to rehash it. There are a lot of friends out there, and being friends with an ex is just a very thin line to walk, too tiring to take. I never found the inclination to keep in touch even if they try. There are just too many issues to wade through.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Of course there's always a problem when you break up, that is why you broke up in the first place. There may be reasons for you to keep in touch with exes, like kids, but I think it can never be as friends. There is just too much history there. Sorry, but I don't believe that you can be truly friends with an ex. I don't want to get in trouble with my current squeeze, and it just makes sense to me to keep a distance from a possible issue. Some people claim that they can be friends with their ex. Probably, but not me.
@yresh12 (3212)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Hello advocate!!!
Maybe you had problems when you broke up that's why you don't want to be friends anymore. I think your right, there is no reason for you to make friends with one particular person if it could get you in trouble with your new bf/gf. Thanks for posting and sharing your views!!
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Hi yresh, i think it's understandable. I am one of the girls who don't want to see the exes of my partner on his friends' list and same thing goes with him. i am not jealous or anything, i just don't want to have any arguments on the future.. and yes, sometimes, those girls can be real flirty.. even though they know their exes have girlfriends already, they will still bug your partners.. yay! i have experienced being hurt by my partner's ex and it was really annoying! good thing, i am educated enough and let that pathetic ***** babble!
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Ahhhhh.. I have experienced this so many times before that I don't really mind it at all. hahahaha. I guess, i'm just putting myself in the shoes of the current girlfriend and try to understand where she is coming from. Though personally, I wouldn't really mind if my boyfriend would be friends with his exes, and I'm really lucky that my boyfriend doesn't mind either. 
@olisaur (1922)
• United States
19 Apr 10
I've been in that situation a couple times before.
Actually once, my ex-boyfriend really hurt me by breaking uo with me one day and getting with another girl 2 days later. That girl ended up adding me and trying to be really nice to me. It was really awkward, to me at least.
Anyway, I don't think it's the greatest to have ex-s and new gf/bf's on your friendslist, but I guess it really depends on the situation.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Apr 10
I know the feeling sweetie. He was never my boyfriend, but a childhood friend. We went threw so much together. The day he told me he is getting married, i knew i will never see him again. If he is happy, i don't know. But i have never seen his wife. How strange is that? Weird what women can be like, when men have girls for friends. TATA.
@sheanne (440)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Hello yresh, I never been into such situation but for me it's alright to have your exes in your friends list unless your partner or his new partner is not that open minded enough. My ex's where still in my list, though we don't have any communication at all. I do think that I for one is still on the list.
I do know too that my boyfriend exes were also in his friends lists, I was kinda of jealous at first but since I do trust him and he'd told me all about the, it's upto him if he'll still have to communicate with them. Guys will always be guys after all.
@shigeraldz (339)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
everybody wants to forget their past, whether good or bad past.. or maybe someone trie to make a new better relationship without reflecting on the past and live up on the life what it brings today... nobody wants to hurt someone again with their past.. just live for today...
@ladycharm421 (59)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I've never been in that situation, i think most of the girls don't want the exes of their partner to be their friends but if you really trust your boyfriend or husband nothing to be afraid of if their exes will be added to his friends list.
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
19 Apr 10
My husband had his ex add him a few months ago and then we found out that she had tried to start a bit of stirring in his family etc so my husband heard what had been said aswell as what had gone on and he did not just delete her but he sent her a nasty inbox aswell as blocked her that way she could not message him either.She then decided to message his sister in law who then told me and i sent her a nasty message,but never blocked her as i thought it would be nice if she had the chance to reply,but she never did.Ex to me is in the past and not ever again.
@annshie143 (53)
• India
19 Apr 10
sorry, i had not been passed from this kind of situation but i want to suggest one thing that u don't worry he deletes u. but he cant delete u from his memories. somewhere he knows u. but u don't stop for anyone. keep on going. if he wants to come back that's exceptional otherwise u keep on moving. that's life.ALL THE BEST.
