children see, children do
By Lee Ka
@kaka135 (14931)
Malaysia
April 20, 2010 2:24pm CST
I've just watched a video in youtube, named "children see, children do". I think it's so true that what we do, our children will just imitate, even though when they are just babies. I have a one-year-old son, and I've been seeing him mimicking me since he was a little baby, he learns things fast by seeing how we do. Their imitating skill is so good, and that's how they learn things.
I've read a book, teaching how to have better behaved children -- Firstly, the parents have to behave good. I heard some parents complaining about the children on some bad behaviors, and when I look at them, they have the same behaviors too. I always told my friends, if you want to educate your kids, you should firstly educate yourself. 
You can watch the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHi2dxSf9hw
You can watch the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KHi2dxSf9hw3 people like this
10 responses
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
26 Apr 10
You are so right. Children are little sponges and absorb every thing we do and every word we say. They parrot each other too. I'm baby sitting three kids who drive me nuts cause their parents don't really focus on good behavior or manners. The kids would rather push and shove and fight or do what they are told not to because it gets attention, even bad. To them it is attention. I just wish the parents would learn manners and the value of training children not to throw tantrums. I'm the one that gets the brunt of the bad behavior. I have a hard time teaching good behavior if the parents don't follow through with what the kids learn during the day. These kids pick up every word you say and I am constantly telling them that that word is not nice, but they hear it from the parents...
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Apr 10
This is a very true fact. The most major observation that I've ever made in this field is with children and eating vegetables. My children eat their veggies without complaining because I introduced them to veggies at an early age and also because both my husband and I eat them without complaining. However, my two nieces won't eat vegetables because their parents don't really eat them and even complain about them. The girls, when presented with a plate of vegetables won't eat them or will pick at them unless I put cheese sauce on them or smother them in butter. We eat our veggies fresh or steamed at our house.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Hi kaka, that was a good video clip about how children become just like their parents. I will not claim myself to be an exemplary parent because sometimes I see my ways in my children, like easily getting irritable on something. I tried to change that and I am glad my children are not as hot tempered as I was. We parents are our children's idols. They copy our every move, say what we say, and are proud of it. I have my faults but I also believe I am a good person. Why? Because my children turned out to be good people.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
21 Apr 10
We don't need much to see or look, do we? It's one of the easiest things to do. Unless taught whatever they see would be a good-enough an example to be copied or imitated. If the same thing or idea is consistently shown it is most likely to be learnt and internalized. If what they see is usually good, they tend to appreciate it as something normal and ought to be done this way. And the otherwise would be true as well. I would say, absolutely Yes, children see, children do. And as young children and kids normally do not have much reasoning skills to differentiate what's right from wrong, this is where the potential danger lies.
@emberlouis (39)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
well i absolutely agree with that.kids can immitate our behaviors fast.just like when their watching tv.have you notice how they immitate the actions of cartoons their always watching.kids dont know if what their doing is right or wrong.so,we must always set a good example to them.
@shigeraldz (339)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
yeah, i definitely agree with you. Children are the best imitators. What the see they all do. it specially happens when they see that people older than them do it. So maybe in their minds "why does he do it? Okay i must do it too!".. Be careful older pal.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Children learn more from what they see from us. We are the book that they read and follow. This is the reason why if we want our children to be behave well and become good children, we have to become a good example to them. We can't just tell them don't do this, don't do that when we ourselves are doing those things. For sure, they will still do the wrong things if they see us doing them too.It is so easy for them to absorb what they always see from people around them.
It is so easy for them to absorb what they always see from people around them.
@celticeagle (167418)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Apr 10
I think common sense is very important in raising kids. Consistency and communication is also important. There are certainly techniques one can learn and use in educating children. I think the techniques taught by Love and Logic are very good. The link to information about them is: www.loveandlogic.com
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Right.that's why parents never quarrel in front of their children. They should not see or hear their parents shouting with each other otherwise later they'll do the same to their siblings so no more respect to one another. Children should not hear dirty or nasty words especially green ones otherwise they will be talking the same.
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
21 Apr 10
This is an excellent discussion and the point you made is very true and valid.
Children at young ages have their neurons or brain cells developing more than at any stage of life. That is when they are impressionable and that is when brain development takes place the most.
If at this stage of life they are exposed to bad behavior at home, they will surely mimic it. After all, when they are that young, that have no clue about good and bad.
They see the adults and do what the adult does.
I am so glad that you are educating yourself. Wish more of us did it.
Have a favbulous day. Hugs to your baby! 
Have a favbulous day. Hugs to your baby! 