My give a dam is broken today

Ohhhhh.... Why don't you suggest going out to a restaurant? That way, you don't have to worry about cleaning the house before or afterwards, and less stressful for you. Explain to your mom and sibling that you are not just able to do it. I am sure they will understand. Especially if you have to work late on Sataurday, you will want to have a bit of lie in on Sunday.

Personally I think you shoulda just said no. I understand that you have a mother and all that, but if it's your birthday on the Sunday as well, you shouldn't have to worry about cooking. Maybe discuss with your mother and see if you both can do a bit of cooking? and whoever else is coming over that can cook. Like a potluck sort of? Just various types of foods and salads and whatnot to eat.

sounds like you are going to have a very busy day... hopefully you will be able to cope with it... i'm sure you will... can you ask for help from your family members to prepare the food and clean the house??? if you have to work until very late on saturday night and take your dad to church on sunday morning, i wonder how you will have the time to cook and clean the house... you definitely will need somebody to help you... good luck... happy mother's day in advance anyway... take care and have a nice day...

I feel your pain!! My birthday is the 12th, which every 4 years falls on Mother's Day. Add to that the day after my birthday is my son's birthday. So for the past 13 years it's always been about him, not me.. as it should be I might add. We're broke as it is, and my poor hubby has to try to come up with an anniversary gift (tomorrow, the 7th) a birthday gift, a Mother's Day gift.. and stuff for my son too. Then every year until now hubby would get that call from his dad "Are you gonna get something for your mother?".. they knew how busy and broke we were, geez! And I always threw a big party, up until my son turned 10.. then I just realized it wasn't worth trying to kill ourselves to do, plus we were losing touch with friends and family so it was getting patheticly small, lol. But when I was throwing the parties, yeah, I'd spend my holidays cleaning, cooking, preparing, getting anxious and nervous and of course stressed. You can't really help but want a little attention of your own when it's your birthday or Mother's Day but the whole world is focused on your child. This year my son is already grating on my nerves. For a week now he's counting down the days till his birthday, and he keeps reminding me how many days until his birthday. I just want to scream at him "Yeah, well how many days until my anniversary, my Mother's Day, and my birthday?? HUH??" I don't though!

Wow, that one line about people bring food or not eating anything sounds like something i heard my mom said a few years ago. Everyone thought she was joking, but we showed up to the house, and she was chilling out, sipping an unidentified beverage. I went back out and bought pizza and breadsticks for everyone.

Been there, done that before also. Lucky me this year, my birthday doesnt fall on mothers day!! I know you're wanting to give your mom a day off. What I'd do is ask some of the people to bring some food. Get them all to cook since you're supplying the space. I wouldnt clean the whole house ahead of time as you'll have to do it all over AFTER. Its ok, tell them you have been working late on Saturday. The main thing is for you all to be together.....some dust here and there wont matter. Hope you manage to have fun at the party and take care of yourself also.

Just do what hubby and I did. We moved into a place too small to entertain. It is a great excuse to go to someone elses house.Of cource we always bring something, and it cuts down on stress. lol

i think you should get all those siblings to help - you have an awful lot to do by the sounds of it and it is your day too