Time to make a change

I have had a battle within myself for a few years now. I have a problem of overstating my opinions and at times my emotions get the best of me. I get all riled up and it gets ugly. I am pretty sure it is a maturity issue and in time I hope it will work itself out~

I think that i am going to make alot of changes in my life as there are alot of people that i have wasted my time on over the last year and a half aswell as alot of people that i have discovered to be back stabbers.So the changes will be that i will not try to see these people even if i have to bump into them i will not get involved with them as they are the ones that have changed for the worst.I will sort all the things out that i want to sort out in my life and get rid of the things/people that do not respect me or my feelings.

hi yes indeed figuring out how to change is really tough and I would make a list of what you feel you need to change, then just take one thing at a time and work on that particular thing. Like changing your attitude towards people. Work on that for a while, taking it one day at a time, then later work on changing your attitude towards things. Your attitude you have now was not made in one day so probably you will need plenty of time to make changes.just do not get discouraged and keep what you have changed.good luck God bless

Hi Lilly, The key to change is to do it slowly and over time. With me I developed a lot of negative thought processes which were starting to hold me back and drive me nuts, and so I started to tackle them. I actually got help to do this because I didn't know where to start, and through that help and perseverance I have got to the stage where I can see an old me and a new me. The key to that was to not think about what I was doing. I was aware, but if I started to think too deeply about it all I would go backwards in recovery. I had to change how I thought about things. Things that were once bad became not so bad and later normal, stuff like that. I am guessing that attitudes are harder to adjust, but if you remind yourself after each negative thought that it is now not allowed I am sure you will gradually come to accept it and change how you are meant to think. Stick with it though because it won't be easy or quick. It took me about 2 years to notice I had changed but it was well worth the fight Oh yea and if you go backwards don't tell yourself off too bad, just remind yourself not to do it too often. Yelling at myself only made me rebel so I had to wait until I was calm enough to do things how I wanted to because oddly enough I never wanted to do the bad things, I just didn't appear to know too much better. Good luck and all the best. Maybe you can update us as to how it goes in the future Dranz

I have been doing something similar, I used to think quite negative thoughts and have changed myself to think as positive as I can. I just catch myself whenever I feel negative thoughts coming through, it was a bit difficult at first as I wouldnt even realise that I was thinking negatively and then I would feel so negative that it would be hard for me to turn it around. But now I know straight away when I am thinking negatively and can stop them straight away. I think the most important thing is that it must be your choice if you want to change something, and you need to figure out exactly what you want to change, if there is a certain attitude then work out what you would like to change it to, and keep practising, dont expect it to happen overnight, like I said it took me ages to do. And dont feel bad if it takes a while, if this is something that is important to you, then you will do it. But make sure your doing it for the right reasons.

yes there are many things that i would like to change in myself, some things easier than others; the most difficult are attitude changes. i tend to see more of the negative side of things. people say if we see the positive side we will eventually attract positive vibes. easier said than done; it's something i need to keep reminding myself about.

The only thing that a person ever changes anything is himself/herself.It is better to change one's own opinion of things and others before trying to change attitude towards certain things and people.When we are not able to change after trying for a long time it is good to stop trying and instead accept ourselves as it is.Then some change is possible.Accepting and loving of us in all respects gives way to thinking of changing certain attitudes for betterment.We need not break our heads to change either ourselves or others.We can wait till it happens through patience.

Changing our attitudes or even our character was somehow awkward since it's always been a part of us. I tried doing it and it was the hardest thing to do although we can say that change is the only thing permanent in this world. If you would try to change something on your attitude or even your lifestyle try doing it in 21 days or more to be used to it. It's the best thing to start change of attitude.

As long as it is for the better, you should. Ask your friends if there's anything about you that they don't like then try to change that. It's also nice to have some positive reading. Good luck!!!

Yes, I know what you mean, I have tried something similar too. I think it is good to make some resolutions like at New Year's - try to be more patient, more tolerant, whatever it is. Just do one at a time and remind yourself of your intention regularly, then just try :-)