Will I quit or not?
By jhodevera
@jhodevera (32)
Philippines
June 4, 2010 5:17am CST
I'd been working in this company for 11 years now. I was transferred on this group 2 years ago and I wasn't happy with my workmates. They had this "original core group" mindset. I took it as a challenge and tried my best to learn. I was given a good project and at some point, guys from the so called original core group jumped in. At first, I got no issue and even taught them how some of stuffs worked. But as days go by, I find it harder working with them. There are stuffs not shared. There are activities owned and i felt like they are starting to bump me off.
Now tell me, should I still stay?
15 responses
@Jules01 (131)
•
4 Jun 10
I think this is something you should speak to them about and you should maybe speak to your manager about it too if that doesn't work. Keep a record of specific things that happen. If you ask for information can you use email so there is a record? Keep notes of times and dates where things go wrong. If you go griping without any proof then it could go against you. If workers are deliberately witholding information and refusing to work with you it's bad for the company.
If all else fails, look for another job. Find one before you leave because the job situation is bad at the moment. When you go for interviews don't tell the new employer you're leaving because you can't get on with colleagues. Tell them you're looking for new challenges.
Good luck.
@jhodevera (32)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
my boss is one of my problem right now.
Thanks for the advise of keeping a record of specific things. Hmmm... that would be a useful one. Will also put all the pros & cons before I decide.
Finding another job is what I am thinking right now. However, I wanted to try something new. But the sad thing is, most of the job openings require an experience. I want to try out tourism since I really love traveling and organizing stuffs. That is my passion. Do you think it's too late for me to study and transfer on this field?
@aileen2008 (838)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
Do not mind them, they are just probably envious of your ability and felt threatened of your presence. I have experienced that also when I was the one new in the company. I seem to be treading in a very closed-knit group.
I just found myself, adapting their own culture which as much as possible I did not want to. Probably the best way is to try your best to ignore such actions.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
You can never rid of those workmates, they are always present in a company, if you think that you cannot bear the situation anymore and things will always be like this, I suggest you must find other available jobs cause one day you will say to your say this is enough.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
5 Jun 10
Just Stick in for few more days They will open up them selves.have a nice day
@anil78650 (177)
• India
6 Jun 10
My opinion you should quite this job.You have 11 year of experience.You can do same job it other company with some respect.I am also facing same problem.But my experience is not a experience.But you sound like your experience good.So quite your job.Don't take any depredation, its not good for your health............
@ellago (127)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
No. Communication is the key to your problem. Try talking to them and let them know how you feel. If you love what you're doing, you'll never work every single day so why bother with those people around you. Just do your work. You might still find some friends or colleagues that can be your friends.
@bin22l (160)
• Guwahati, India
4 Jun 10
To stay or quit a job depends on how much you need it.If it is the only supporting means to you out of compulsion you have to continue it. but if it is just secondary job and if you can manage without it then better quit it to avoid a disgusting staff.I am in service for last 27 years with very very non cooperating staff.Even I got harassment from them.But as I do not have other alternative, I am still continuing it and I will be retiring after 6 years.Somehow I managed.most of the time I engaged with my assigned task without seeking help from the staff and also most of time I avoid them.After the days over each day I enjoy life with my family and at home.
@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Jun 10
In every job you're going to encounter someone you don't like. That's no reason to quit. If you quit every time you encountered someone less favorable, then what does that say about you as a person?
First of all you need to express your feelings to your co-workers. Nothing is going to change unless something is said. After talking directly with those you have an issue with, give it time a week or two to see improvment. If it does not improve go to your boss.
Though personally this sounds like petty misunderstanding made by you and your co-workers. So you should try to resolve it on your own.
@shigeraldz (339)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
never never ever quit..only a losser quits..show them what you really got.. They will definitely someday realized they can not afford to lose you in your group.. If they are mean to you and do these negative things to you, never do back to them,be nice to them still and work even more hard for you to have their trust.. If they do not still eventhough how much you try, tell your direct boss and let your boss talk to them and settle this matter if you can not and if you know you do not do anything wrong... Keep up!
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Nope. I don't think you should stay. You have tried to be a good coworker with them. You did your best to learn. If my understanding is right all of you is a group or a team and a team should not be like that. What the heck with that "original core group" mindset. They should open their minds and accept new coworkers. It will really affect productivity.
@iamdong (51)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
There really people that don't pleases you, likewise manner that you can never please everybody, vice versa. You've been in that company for so long, i guess you have the right to asked someone for you to be transferred. If you didn't liked your workmates don't make that a reason to quit. STAY! Just make ways on how you can be out of that place. It's a decision you should make in the end, btw.
@leevillas (13)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
...if you are not happy with your job..then quit...it seems they are taking advantage of you...people like them is not healthy to work with....with your experience, you could always find a better job... or try being your own boss, be an entrepreneur...
@Alan70pct (171)
• China
4 Jun 10
If u can easily find another job,I recommend u to quit.I think happiness is the most important thing.If happiness is gone,no matter how much u earns,u will not feel good.
@sherielapjat (169)
• India
4 Jun 10
quit from a job is easier to do which will always harm your future life.so dont think about a quite now.you can make the others more friendly.i think there will be some one who feels exactly like you and you can find out them.so keep the job as much as you can. and at final if you have no other choice quite the job.but i think the time for it is far away. you can still make the company interested on you. i will pray for you friend