do you listen to family and friends when they speak?

@annjilena (5618)
United States
June 8, 2010 10:38pm CST
are do you interrupt when they are speaking and go to another subject and start talking about yourself.have you notice they shut down when this happen.we must learn to be a good listener.listening is not a easy job.many people have plenty to say.don,t respond when the persun talk with you just listen sometime yhey just want someone to listen to them and dont bash them.have this happen to you.
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
i do listen whenever someone is talking, i don't interrupt and i waited for them to finish talking before i say a thing. but of course in the middle of conversation i also speak in appropriate time. listening is very important and its also one way of showing respect to the one who's speaking.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
you are so correct it called respect for the one that is speaking
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
yes, and if we want to be respected we must learn to respect others too right?
• United States
9 Jun 10
Right. Treat others how you want to be treated. It's called common courtesy. I try not to interrupt when someone's talking, but sometimes it happens,e specially if I have something to say and know that I won't get a word in edge wise, so I blurt it out. I feel bad, but sometimes, I'd like to make my point, you know?
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I do listen to people who talks, I let them finish first before I open my views to his topics.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
thta good because so many don,t do this they take off on another conversation while you are speaking
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
that
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Hi annjilena! Good to see you! You are very right! You have to be a good listener! I know that sometimes I find it hard to listen, but in order to be a good friend you have to! I know that I get annoyed when I am telling someone something important and I realize that they aren't listening because they are doing something else like watching tv or their mind is somewhere else~ I expect the same courtesy! If you want me to listen to you then make sure you listen to me! That is the polite thing to do!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
that right opal26,it is rude when someone is talking and we interruptplease allow them the same courtesy they show you
• United States
9 Jun 10
I agree. I actually do listen to people when they talk to me. Unfortunately, it tends to register for the moment and then be forgotten. So if they ask me later what we were talking about, I tend to not be able to answer. It seems like people have forgotten their manners. I mean, I think technology is tearing people apart. With texting and the internet, people don't need to actually talk to each other face to face to get information. It's sad, but I think technology is pulling us away from each other in a way, therefore, there is less face to face interaction. It is rude to not listen to someone when they are talking. I must admit that sometimes I do zone out though, especially when my professors go into a lecture about something that is not particularly interesting. I feel bad afterwards, but sometimes, it's just so hard to focus.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I do, i try my best to listen to just bout anybody whose talking to me. Now if i do not agree with what they are telling me then i just let them talk and when they are finished then i will say my piece . Now if they wont agree with what i have to say so be it. For as long as i was able to tell them what is it that i think thats enough for me. And for the listening part i always try my best to be polite with whoever it is whose talking , as i said it doesnt even matter if i dont agree for as long as i let them finish whatever it is that they want to say before i say my piece. Have a great day
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
thats nice
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
hi annjilena! i am a good listener. when somebody is speaking, i rarely interrupt unless there is an absolute need to. and, i interrupt respectfully. sad to say, some of my friends are not like that. they interrupt me even if i'm not done talking. before, i used to not mind, but now, after interrupting me, i continue what i am saying especially if i really need to.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
that right express yourself they are beening rude
@apoorva5 (120)
• India
9 Jun 10
yes i do listen do their words bcause i got my own experience for not listening and then repenting.if u think that they r telling wrong and after sometime keep ur mind cool and then recall what they said and u will get to know what they said is correct.no never gave up their words.
10 Jun 10
i love to listen when they talk especially if i've learned something that is very much useful in our daily life. what bothers me sometimes is listening for those who are talking with nonsense especially to those who are talking with something that is weird.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I used to be someone who talks a lot. But when I entered college, I learned to listen as I realized that I am not the only person who have stories to tell. and if feels great to know their stories!
@icegermany (2524)
• India
10 Jun 10
most of the times it happens that we listen to a few people like parents and our friends. sometimes when i am not in a mood to listen and i have lots to share then i would like my friends or my parents should listen to me and there is no problem and sometimes it becomes very difficult that a person keeps on speaking and speaking some topic which we dont like it and we would surely want that person to stop and let us speak or speak something which we are interested into.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
29 Jun 10
I do listen when people talk to me .Sometimes I might but in just to make a point, but I normally like to listen and get others point of view, otherwise how do I come to know about anything..But I have had some people who only talk about themselves and never bother to ask about the other people as to how they are doing in their life or about their children or family, but go n and on about themselves...all the best and have a great day
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
12 Jun 10
I agree that is important to listen. It can be hard if the conversation is about something that the other has a strong opinion about but there is a time when one should just listen versus adding input.
• China
10 Jun 10
Silence is golden in most situation.When you listen someone's talking,it is impolite to interrupt their conversation,it's a basic respect to them. If you really have some new opinion,please wait till they have pause or finish.in most time,your opinion is not so expected as you think,so hear silently is the best choice maybe.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
9 Jun 10
Yes i listen my family and friends when they speak.. because they suggest me a good things not bad things.. so i always listen carefully them.. have a good day..
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Jun 10
thats wonderful so many don,t really listen at there love ones they have to go talk to stranger in the street.
@george000 (166)
• India
27 Jul 10
Yes, it too happened to me and it is very hard to manage to listen and get the message which were conveying .As it is equally important listening and speaking. If we listen properly than only we can speak properly.
@abhi000 (235)
• India
26 Jul 10
Yes I do listen to family and friends because they are the elder than me and they will give good advice and we learn lots of things from them.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
9 Jun 10
try to till they keep repeating the same thing then I sort of turn them off
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
9 Jun 10
My husband interrupts me quite often. Even if I'm in the middle of a sentence, he'll start talking about a completely different subject. I usually stop talking when he does this, then, when he's finished talking, I'll resume what I was saying as if he had never said anything, even if he had asked me a question. I do this so he realizes that he had been very rude and cut me off. He normally realizes it and apologizes but that hasn't stopped him from doing it again... and again... and.... I think we've all been guilty of interrupting occasionally but some people just don't seem to realize that others have something to say, too. Listening is a very important attribute. The less we talk and the more we listen the smarter we can become. I've learned a lot just from listening. Oh, yeah, I do tend to talk a lot but I know when to stop and just listen.
@charmeyn (82)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I listened to everyone who is speaking. I will let them finishing talking before I speak up. I know the feeling of not having someone to listen to when you're talking. So I'm doing the exact opposite of it, whenever my friends come to me and share all their problems, I'll just listen first... then give advice afterwards.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Jun 10
I always do my best to be a good listener. This is especially true when it comes to fsmily and friends. I know what it is like to not be heard by someone. it can be frustrating When you truly listen to someone, you are doing more than hearing. Listening to someone else speak can have benefits both ways.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Yeah i listen to them, but at times, after listening to them you know they got the whole thing wrong! YOu have to tell them your point, but on the other hand, they may think that you are simply answering back!for the parents i mean. As to friends, yes i listen to them. i think that its easier to listen to them specially if they listen to you.
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
yes I listen to them of course because they are my closest people in the world so I have to take care of them and keep them. We should always listen to them because all they will say is a good thing or sometimes they'll share their problems. and not just to them but also to other people we should always listen because this will reflect on how much we respect each other.