Do you practice being careful in everything you are saying?

Hello annie, Well, at least in here i get to be humble and nice. but sometimes i can't help being frank with some discussions or situations. most specially those who are actually scamming other newbies here and there.as for me, i tried to be just as nice like every one else because some users tend to back stabbed by neg rating you which is wrong.

I really try my best to be careful with the things that I say because I am aware that it could end up hurting people, but on rare occasions when I run out of patience or when I am very mad, I just speak on and on without evereally said something bad, I'd apologize anyway.

Well, the older I get the better I am at keeping myself from saying something I will eventually regret. It seems that even when I am angry, it is still easier to keep from saying something regrettable when family is not involved. Perhaps because we know family loves us no matter what we feel freer to say what we are thinking. Not that I verbally abuse my family. I don't curse and I never have, and I hardly ever raise my voice. But my words can be extremely cutting. Now that my immediate family is facing a bit of a crisis, I am becoming more patient and thus am saying fewer things that could be miscontruedm or things that are downright rude.

There were really times that I really regret at the end because of what I have said.I deal with it by not talking too much..I am always thinking of what I am going to say,if it will have a god effect of it will destroy a relationship.I don't want to regret at the end.

i can understand every time the situation doesnt remain the same and we have to act accordingly which is not that easy. you are right when when we are not angry and have patience we can think over what we speak and have control over ourself but as i tell situations arent the same everytime, sometimes due to the opposite persons behaviour we lose our temper and start screeching and speak what ever we want to tell them and at this time it is very difficult to think and speak and i think we should highly avoid this and try to have selfcontrol and this is what i am trying to do.

Being older, I am always careful in what I say. These days, you never know the mental state of a person. I'm still bothered by mean things I've said in the past and I don't like guilty feelings. I've never like hurting anyone.

You have raised a very good discussion Rose! It is said that spoken words are more powerful than fired bullets! The reason is that spoken words impact their effects on the emotional level of the other person! We can never claim that it will make any injury or solace to the thoughts or emotion of the other person. But a good deal of care and patience while expressing our emotions can make the solution with the other person without hurting the person's emotion! This needs a good practice and experimentation while dealing similar emotional situations with persons around us in our daily lives! I, particularly face this type of situation with calmness and emphasizing on the basic points of the topic to make the solution better and sooner! You may try it! Thanks for this nice topic on emotion-management and always take care of emotion, not to overtake regular life's motion!!

Well it really depends who I'm having a conversation with. I've been really blowing up at my hubby recently and not watch what I'm saying. Other's too, I just feel that I need to vent a lot and don't care who I'm talking to. I'm sure I'm overwhelming people with my emotions too but what are friends for? I would always be there to listen to them as well. Hubby always says to never say things when I'm angry but that's when the truth comes out! I think that's the best time to say things because the truth hurts but it needs to be told. There's a reason things upset a person and if they bottle it up inside then that can get a lot worse. Take care

well yes, because im afraid of saying that can hurt somebody's feelings.

Hi annie rose: I won't say that I'm carefully in all of the things I've said but in some cases it's necessary to be completely cautious about the things you say, specially when you can hurt somebody when you express your point of view or if you know that you can be misunderstood. I agree that, when you fall into provocations, it's difficult for you to control your emotions, but I make this effort because later I will thank myself for avoiding a fight for example. It's a big sacrifice to be careful of your words when you are about to explode but it's better to do this. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO

A pleasant day to you Annierose, Yes, I do practice to be careful in everything that I do. Even in the words that I am saying. For the reason, I have this golden rule in my mind "Do not do unto others, what you do not want to do unto you". I always bear this in mind everytime. However, no matter how careful I am. No matter how I internalise that golden rule, still, as you have mentioned, there are few situation that somehow provoked you to express and burst out your emotion. In this instance, I still try to stick on the golden rule. But, there are times, I am thinking no matter how cautious I am, others are not.

To an extent, there are times where I really do hold my tongue. There are just certain subjects out there that no matter what you say, you may run the risk of offending someone. Even a neutral ground, there can be something that can be said. I am not going to really cater to everyone and be afraid to say anything, because that is really no way to live your life. If I think that my mind needs to be spoken, then it will in fact be spoken. It is just as simple as that. However, it is just common sense that just because I thought it, it does not mean I said it. I am sure that many of us have thought some things and then said them. We most likely should not said it. There are many times where I have something that I want to say but catch myself and say, "you know, that might not be the best idea to say that." There are just some things that should not really be said, as they will be offensive for a lot of people instead of the vast majority. Thoughts that we are not proud of but think of during the heat of the moment.

Ok...I'll admit it. I tend to go off half-cocked sometimes. You would think, at my age, I would have better control. Acutally, there is only one person that really pushes my buttons--my son. He really knows how to get me going, and I am working very hard not to let him do it. What I find even more difficult is posting on the net. Since the written word has no inflections or emotions, sometimes what we write can be taken the wrong way. I've seen this happen many times in forum posts. In real life, I often just keep my opinions to myself, which seems to help avoid some arguments. But, in forming that habit, it makes it difficult to express myself on sites like myLot. Guess I have to find a happy meduim.

Every thing i say or do is censored!!! You never want your bad habbits to rub off on someone else!

I have been ever since I was younger but now I grew up, I have changed. I want to go back to how I was but somehow I changed. I still am careful but at times I cannot stop myself from being so up front with other people who are close to me. But we should all be careful with what we say no matter what it is, even if its a little thing that does not matter to you or other people.

Sometimes unwanted things will slip out in a heated moment. I know I am guilty of this. Anger usuually doesn't last for long. Sometimes the words are just out of my mouth before i know what has happened. i have taken my foot out of my mouth on more than one occasion. Oops.

At early stage it was very difficult. Now I am above forty. After along practice it is very easy to me to control my words. I count my worts before speaking. Better to speak little and occupy ourself in some good activities like mylot or online earning.

Dear Annierose, I practice be careful for everythings I'm saying. I'm not simply say anythings unless it is important things. Better keep quite than said useless word and make other people hurt. If someone provoke me for any issue, I just calm and give the answer when needed only.If not I just smile and said thank you for your respond for this issue. I like reading a book or magazines for my rest time.Every single word come from my mouth only for important things related with my job or other issue. I don't like talk or chit-chat about others because I don't want hurt the people around me. Hope you will learn how to control youself and be calming for every situations than say any word that can hurt people feelings. Regards, fadyhalim7050

ya i made it possible to be cautious while speaking.bcause later we must regret for hurting others .its better to careful while speaking.

hi! it's really hart to be cautious all the time... especially if you are really mad... for you tend to say anything and everything that will come out of your mouth... but the question is, do you practic being careful??? yes! i am practicing it... but to be honest... it is really hard...