Choose One - Friendship or Money?
By HULYO
@julyteen (13252)
Davao, Philippines
June 23, 2010 3:43pm CST
If I ask you with this kind of question FRIENDSHIP or MONEY. What will you choose? In my case I choose both. You know why? because if you have money and don't have friends how sad is your life isolated from the people around you. You are like individuals that have virus, people will keep away from him/her. If you have friends and don't have money how can you go anywhere and make reunion with it? It's hard to choose because both are very important to any individual. Can you choose any of the two?
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24 responses
@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
23 Jun 10
I would choose friendship everytime. As long as I had enough money to survive and take care of the family, that would be ok.
Tyhe more money you have, the more friends you gain. Money is like a magnet and the root of all evil. The people I have met who have had money have never had really happiness as they have never had to struggle and save and ahd the joy of gaining something through hard work.
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@opalina143 (1240)
• Morristown, New Jersey
23 Jun 10
the problem is that friends who come to you because you have money may not be genuine friends. When you have a lot of money, you never know if your friends really care about you or they just want what you can get them. That's why money attracts false friends. It's better to know who your real friends are, rather than be surrounded by people who who will leave you as soon as you can't do anything for them anymore.true friends are priceless. False friends are all too common.
@Bazooka101 (124)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I completely agree, true friends are your friends even if your poor.
And if you have friends, sometimes they might give you cash if your in a struggle.
@lxh_worldpeace (21)
• China
24 Jun 10
money is the outer stuff and friends are perpetual if you have them.so i choose friendship……
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Honestly my friend, I would prefer friends. Because if I would be a friendly person (which I really am) money comes next from my friends..I mean not really from their own pocket but from their referrals and recommendations where I could earn from it.
May it be a business or something where I could get my living. We must not forget referrals and recommendations from our influential friends are more stronger than resume' or biodata in looking for a source of living...
Have a nice day my friend...
Mobhmeir here..
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
hello starsailover thanks for believing in what I said about the comparison between business/money and friendship..if you don't mind i want you to be my friend if its okay with you...i have few close friends i would like to add you on them...
Thanks...
Mobhomeir here...
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi mob homeir: I am not a very friendly person, in fact it's difficult for me to have new friends. I'm a shy person but at the same time you can trust in me, I'm a very serious person and I try my best to be honest with the persons I love. I think that, because of my lonely personality I appreciate much more the value of a good friend. And I agree with you, first it's friendship and then you find a way to have money somehow. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
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@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
24 Jun 10
If I can take both, why just choose one? :)
Now, if only one can be chosen, I probably will take friendship provided that it is real friendship that if you need their help, they will be there and ask nothing at all. I do agree that if you have lots of money but without any friends, it is just like living in an island where you got plenty of stuffs but nobody to share with.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
HI faisai: I agree with you. If I could have both I won't chose because friendship plus money, that would give me lots of hapiness. And in case I have to chose, I would prefer friendship just as you do, because if I don't have friends, things won't make me feel good, I can't buy love so in the end I would feel alone. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
i choose friendship money is doesn't important at all in choosing your friends. if they love you and trusted you even they don't have money you will appreciate them as much better than thus people who has money because that's a true friendship really means for.i believe nowadays many like to be friend to those who have money but when the person has go down from riches to rugs i am sure they will then dissapear that's happening in real life.those who still cares and dont dissapear are your true friends which they not considering your status in your life but your presence and that's how friendship is.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi amyson: I agree with you, true friends are really a treasure. Sometimes you can't be sure if the person that is near you, wants to be with you because he/ she has an interested behind or if he/ she really wants to be with you. That's the reason I try my best to chose my friends and I think I do it pretty well. I don't have many friends, but the friends I have are loyal friends. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@mspitot (3824)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
i'll choose both. we need both of them. friends are very important. materials things may be gone in an instant but true friends will stick on you with your ups and downs. money, on the other hand is necessary for it is really difficult to move without money specially nowadays. we just have to manage our time to have them both.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi mspitot: I think that a person who can have both money and friendship could be a happy person so easily because they are both precious gifts that are difficult to have: friendship is hard to find and money gives you financial stability which is important too. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@chefaholic (27)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I would choose money over friends. If you are a person who works hard to earn enough money, you also have all the other qualities that your friends would admire from you. And, if you don't have money and you ask your friends for money, they will stay away from you. But, if you have money, you will earn a lot of friends along the way.
@opalina143 (1240)
• Morristown, New Jersey
23 Jun 10
the only problem with that is that the friends you earn through having money are often false friends. It is so much better to have true friends and false friends. If you have a lot of money, people will flock to you, but many of those people wouldn't help you if you were poor or if you really needed them. True friends want to help you, and enjoys any time with you, despite what you can do for them. A true friend is worth all the money in the world.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi chefaholic: I think that you care so much for the possibility of asking your friends for money. I think I can stand a friend that have no money if he is a real friend but if you chose the as an option to take the money but have no friends you can't buy friendship and what you'll have is people around you that want you not for what you are but for what you have and they will leave you when they don't need you anymore. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
25 Jun 10
Friends are there for you in good times and bad, rich or poor, if they are true friends they are always your friend. Money comes and goes, it does not give love or kindness or comfort, or laugh or cry with you or dance or celebrate. It is something we use and need but it is no where near as important and a solid long lasting life time friendship.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 10
hi julyteen anyone who thinks money does not count must have so
much that they never have to worry, so you need friendsand'
money both to be happy at all.But becareful that your friends
are not only there as they think you are mrs. banker. If
I must have a huge account to have friends,then those are not
the kind of friends I do not want. For onething I never tell
anyone how much I have or dont have in my bank account.
private even on my lot as I will not talk about how much
I make and anyway 'those type of discussions are usually deleted .
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi Hatley: I agree with you. There's nothing better than knowing that the person that you consider your friend is with you because you have something in commomn and that this person want to have fun with you and enjoy your company and is good to you. I think that is a good decition that you don't talk about your financial status. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
29 Jun 10
definitely, you are correct. if you have money and no friends, you will not be happy. but i can choose one, friendship. and i will choose friends with lots of money, like you.
@opalina143 (1240)
• Morristown, New Jersey
23 Jun 10
obviously, it's better to have both been only have one! However, if I really had to choose between the two I would choose friendship. That's because what good is money if you have no one to share your happiness with. I have found that you can enjoy your time with friends even if you have no money. There is so many things you can do together that don't cost money. You can go for a walk, visit the mall, go to library, sitting to walk, watch television( if you have a television) and do many other things. Loneliness is much worse than being poor. Of course, I have never been really poor -- I mean, I have been too poor to do things I want to do, and really struggling to make ends meet, but I've never been starving. So maybe I'm wrong. But I really think friendship is the most important thing.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi opalina: I agree with you. True friends won't care if you have money or not because they will be with you just because of the way you are and not for the things you have. When you have a friend you enjoy life and what life represents. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I would definitely have to choose friendship. Money can't give us what true friendship can. A friend can be your support in good times and bad. You can live without money. Friendship is a must.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi sender: I have to say that, having only two real friends that have been with me in the good and bad moments. That when you are in a bad mood, you can live without money but you can't replace a true friendship. That's impossible. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@affpro (5)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 10
To me money come first and friendship must not be ignored. Even money is not everything but we need money to start something whether big or small. If we want to have internet friendship, we must have a computer and an internet connection which are not free!!!
@shikiraclare (79)
•
24 Jun 10
Your outlook on life has to be a fairly balanced one if the question is going to provide useful answers.
Personally speaking, friendships are far more important in life, but not everyone can be a good or even genuine friend if they like you for all the wrong reasons. I've had friends who just wanted to be around me because of what I could do for them, not because they liked me and spent my time and money on them only to end up being very lonely at the end of it all.
Money is always a great material asset but has it's limitations unless you use it to good purpose. If I were wealthy, I would spend a lot on charities and trying to better the lives of other people if I feel they are deserving of it. It's no good giving your money away to those who you know will only blast it on things they aren't going to appreciate in the first place. It's okay to treat your friends and pay for a meal or a day out somewhere, but only if they made a similar effort in return.
Because not all friendships are based upon honesty and trust, then yes, money does have it's advantages as long as money doesn't become a substitute for friendship on the whole.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I tend to agrre with you. You don't really need money to do things with friends and friendship should not be based on who has or how much money a person has. But money makes it easier to make choices to benefit all.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Definitely friendship over money. Even though money can take you places, money can let you buy all the things you want and need... at the end of the day, none compares to the happiness of sharing what you have to the people whose been with you through it all. The laughter in that kind of situation is just pure and real. so would you trade it all for money? sounds so interesting but not for me.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
With this question it is so easy for anyone to choose money since there are really no real friends nowadays especially when you don't have money. Friends only abound when you have money, So in this case it is better to have money first, so that if you don't have friends, at least you still have money. To have genuine friends today is hard to find because when hard times knock you down, they are nowhere to be found.
@smilepleeeaz (784)
• India
24 Jun 10
Well i guess both are equally important in our life and we can't do without anyone of them.
So I will also choose both !!!
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
24 Jun 10
I would choose friendship, for the simple reason that friends are forever, while money is something you can loose at any time. That doesn't mean that I don't think money isn't important or anything though, I simply think friendship is way more important than money!
@siddeeqkid (11)
• Sri Lanka
24 Jun 10
i choose friendship as friends can give you REAL money but money cant give you REAL friends since friends is not something you can buy and having just enough money is good as the money will take care of you but having too much money is bad as you have to take care of the money.