infidelity-when to forgive or when to say goodbye for good

Just like what i have posted a 2 days ago, if somebody cheated on me and found out about that... The its the end. if you lose trust then there's no point of continuing your relationship! you will only do injustice to yourself being paranoid over and over again thinking if he/she is doing it again! so it's goodbye after adultery or being unfaithful.

Once is enough. Anything more than that is already a habit, and habits are hard to stop. He will most likely repeat what he had done. Therefore I suggest to just simply end the relationship. You know what, the truth is, it's easy to say advices but it's hard to do most especially if we're the ones involved. Amidst crisis like this, I strongly urge to pray very hard for guidance.

if the infidelity was just a one time occurrance. but if this infidelity was going on for a while then it is time to say good bye

Whether its time to forgive or say goodbye, honestly depends on the individual. But personally, if the man I was dating cheated on me I would leave immediatly. I have enough self respect not to allow a man to treat me that way. That would be an immediate breach of trust as well, and without trust a relationship will only wither and die.

Infedility is difficult to cope with. You love someone and you expect them to return that love. You don't expect to share your special someone with another. We want to forgive the ones we love because we love them. When we know that they will continue to cheat on show any remorse for it is the time to say goodbye. Everyone deserves a chance, but the effort must be there on both sides.

in my opinion, if your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, you better brake up for good, i guess no one would like to be with a traitor in a relationship

It's really a tough decision to make. I have been there. I have read some of the comments here, some of them may not have gone through what I have gone through. It is made more complicated with kids in tow. First of all, there is a need for you to understand the reason behind his/her behaviour. Why did he/she do it? It will help you to become a better person. Remember no one's perfect. The other thing is to leave the choice to him. Give him time to think about it, this has to be specific or it might drag too long. I told my husband, if he wants to continue his relationship with the other party, by all means. I shall back out and bring our daughter with me. It's 100% commitment or nothing at all. I want my daughter to have a full-time father not a part-time one or an absent one. If he promises to be with you, then he need to show his sincerity and honesty. He has to gain your trust all over. Ask yourself. What if he did it again? What are you going to do? You've got to think of Plan B. What will be your move then? After giving him ample time, I think it is also fair for you to react if he does it again. Even though we often think of our children as being the victims of marital breakdown, we also need to know that our children's wellbeing is dependent on our happiness. If we are not happy, we may not do a good job taking care of them. Many things to think about in this, not just a matter of packing and leaving, or forgive and stay.

If the husband is truly repentant and have shown valid proofs that he is willing to change then he could always be forgiven. You can always give the marriage another chance. However if the man has shown no sincerity and no genuine repentance then it is time call it quits.

Maybe its good for both of them to end the relationship. Any way the most important thing in a relationship to last for a long time is trust, time, loyalty and of course love. Being unfaithful will destroy everything because how can you say that you really love the person if one's in your life you cheated her/ him. I think you can't find any reason to cheat if you really love your partner. One thing more is, if trust was being destroyed you can never put it back again, no matter how long or no matter what it takes.

when is it okay to forgive your partner and when is it time to say its over??? i think on my own opinion forgiving someone means accepting the fact that someone or your partner cheated on you,if you you already accept it,then you ready to talk about it and move on...when to say its over?? when the moment you dont want it anymore i think its over for the both parties

On my case I become the so called martyr wife he cheated on me twice or thrice but I still forgive him but the moment I have known and found out that he has one more then I pack my things and leave the house instantly for I am being fooled many times and I cant take it anymore that's point I was into it now and my mom reminds me that he do it once and then he could do it again.I did not listen to it before for hoping he's going to change for the kids or for his family but nothing it get worst even more. for me its no forgiving or giving chances because I believe he done it now what will be the assurance that he's not going to do that again.

I couldn't forgive a partner cheating on me, it would be on my mind all the time & thrown back at him every argument.

I have a rule where it's one strike and your out. Either your going to be with me or you aren't. There's no "just a one time thing" or anything, I'm either everything or nothing. Sure I can't walk away that easy but if a guy does that to me, then he has no respect for me or love. I don't care what anyone says. Women that take guys like that back over and over are weak and only give him permission to do it again because it show's their weak and need them more then they need you.

I've been married for 23 years and thank God my husband has not cheated on me yet. But if he does? Hmmmm... It's gonna hurt me of course. But this is what I'll probably do. If this is just the first time that he cheated on me, I'd like to handle this one maturely. No need for arguments and raised voices. Doing so won't resolve anything. He and I need to talk about the issue seriously and ask him to be as honest and open as possible. I also would like to know the reason why he cheated on me. Was there something I did or did not do too that made him look at other women? If there is, and the reason is valid and acceptable, then I know i've been partly to blame too. I have not been a good wife and lover, I guess. Then I'll have him make a choice. The other woman or me. No compromise. One should be out. If he chose me, then I can forgive and also make up with my shortcomings as well in the future, if there is. However, if he cheats again, then maybe that's the time to say goodbye for good. No need for any explanations.

It's best for both sides that they just say goodbye for good. Once a person cheated on their partner, even if one of them forgive each other. It will put a strain on their relationship and eventually a break up will happen.