Arrgghhh! Here comes jealousy again!

Guys are really like that. They are good liars.. Your husband obviously is lying and you should confront him about it. I mean why would they even need to have any communication, he already have his own family he better just concentrate on being a good husband and a father than wasting time flirting with his ex, (which im pretty sure they are doing what else would it be? business partnership proposal? DUH!!!) you are not thinking they are praying right? Of course they are flirting... Time will come that you will always fight because of this unresolved stuff and because this snake ( the ex) is always around there is a possibility that this may open an opportunity for them to meet again and your husband asking advise (as if, but of course "formality sake" more flirting for sure) and then it happens.. she steals your property.. You better resolve this girl, we are not kindergarten and we are not to believe that they are just simply chatting, the girl is flirting and you must do something, but dont do anyhting that will make you look bad , that's just inviting an opportunity for your husband to be stolen. Make her feel you are the wife and that you have all the right to push her away... "tell yourself every day.. Im special than her and that she has no place in my husband's life and that we dont need a potential home wrecker.. Make her feel like "she needs to look for her own man and don't come preying for my man because his mine and she has nothing. Sorry for her.!! Haha !!It works.. You'll see.. make her feel like she is an outcast and trying hard to get your man's attention.. YOU ARE THE WIFE.. She is a trash...

If it smells like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it is usually a duck. The fact that he quickly closed the screen shows to me that he is hiding something. Bottom Line. Since it is over internet perhaps nothing is happening besides them talking. If he were only trying to stop her he would not be so secretive. Try to control your jealous anger and communicate to him that your not feeling good about what you saw and that you want to trust him but he has to help. Remember, trust is something is earned. We don't just trust someone because we are attracted to them. And if we trust everyone we are attracted to, we'll suffer in the end. Also remember we cannot love someone we don't trust. I believe that there can be no love without trust. Make sure that your jealousy does not stem from any insecurities you have. And remember, jealousy is evil and causes harm both emotional and physical. So if he is trying to make you jealous, that is also a no no.

The question is why she has your hubby's email id. Not surprise that they still keep in touch. I feel that the girl still has some feelings for your hubby, though. DOn't be sad, find out the girl's contact and tell her to get over it. She should not disturb your hubby in the first place. You are normal that you feel jealous and angry.

They obviously don't love the other but it sound to me that they had become partners in making you jealous and angry and they were successful at it. For as long as you bite their trap I think they will not stop teasing you. They are not into themselves at all but about making you look like a fool with their old-fashioned jealousy trap.

normally its natural for a man, as far as i know , for women its one in every 10 will have an such affair, rather crushing her and talk with her will do good, but rather make your mind that , you are just going to talk friend who is doing some thing wrong , ask your hubby to get along with you too. i know every one in the world could understand if presented at the right manner, make her understand , if she agree , the respect for you from that women would increase and love from your husband too, if she dont , then also i am sure your husband understand more , after all he's been with you so, in either way you would got a solution. rather getting into argue will wont do , and this would result in negetivity. choice is yours .... bye tc prabhu

Well, extra relationships is kind of hurts when you know the person you love the most having it with someone else. Perhaps if you are too annoyed with it, try to calm down and consult with him peacefully. Try to focus on what your hubby think of how your marriage life effect his freedom towards what he feel he want to do in his life. Understandable the rage inside yourself will let loose of your anger towards him but try not to stir any dispute and conflicts which might deepen the pain. Anger is like two sided razor.

I really think I would also be jealous and fu rious as its time he broke off with the ex and remembered why she is the x. If he has still got feelings for her, he needs to quit feeding them, tell her adios and remember that you, not her , are his current wife. I really think its time they forgot the old times sake and broke it off , and thought of you for a change.They are both being very silly and foolish too.I would take that anger and tell your husband just how bad he and his selfish ex have made you feel, and you will not be second fiddle in this marriage at all. He needs to make his ex truly his ex in all ways.Also I would have a stern talk with the ex and suggest she remove all communication and say adios you are now my ex.

Hello arah, there are two things: if he wasn't really into flirting with his ex then he wouldn't rush in to shut her down like that, if i were in that situation i would tell it immediately knowing that i have no feelings for that person at all. regardless if that person gives a very bad response for what i have said, if jealously takes over then i would have no choice but to accept her anger

You have every right to be feeling the way your feeling. To be honest it is incredibly suspicious he closed it the moment he knew you were there. That is very, very suspicious and you have a right to be upset with her and with your husband. He may not be cheating physically, but there could be some sort of emotional affair going on. Even if its not that deep, its still a betrayal to you. Even if nothing happening between them, it still is a betrayal that he hasn't told you he still talks to her. You of all people should be told and shouldn't have to find out by reading over his shoulder and have him quickly cover it up. That is wrong and to me, seems to be putting up some redflags. Trust and communication should always come first in a relationship. And it seems like he is lacking on both accounts from his end. I would talk to him and tell him this is not okay. That he will tell you when she IMS him out of no where and you won't stand for secrecy. The thing is, while the ex may be contacting him still, he is contacting her back without your knowledge and that takes two-way responsiblity. My ex boyfriend used to talk to his ex on myspace. He never opened up her messages in front of me. Infact he would make a point not too. I found out later on that he would say things like 'I wish I were still with you.' 'I love you'.. they would fantasize what it would be like to be together. And while it wasn't physical, it was still an emotional betrayal. So just make sure you are listening to your instincts. Jealousy usually doesn't spring up for no reason, and it definitely appears that you have a good reason to feel the way you do. Good luck and I hope everything works out.

nah...don't mind it. it will just hurt u more. keep that smile and focus on your relationship with him.

I guess you have the rightt to crush that girl. But maintain your composure, show to him that this doesn't affect you. Just make sure that your husband is not responding to thegirl's txt messages or calls. Then invite your hubby for a date tonight.

If the two were just friends then you can trust them. after all, you were both married already. you're just paranoid. anyway, as i have always been telling to people "trust is basic foundation of all relationships". trust him and assure him that you really do trust him so that he would not also feel bad by not having your trust. what you feel right now is just natural...

It's indeed normal for you to be jealous. It's a sign that you really love your husband. I guess you have to completely trust your husband with all your heart. Don't be afraid to be hurt by that because it only means that you are giving your best to your relationship. It's not healthy, as of this moment to confront the girl either. At least that's what I think so because you will end up looking like a loser. It would just make her feel that she have a chance of snatching away your husband because she made you jealous. Instead, make your husband feel that you love him more than ever and don't forget to always look as pretty as ever. In that way, his love for you will ignite more. LOL! :D

In fact what is jealousy all about.It just brings a distance in a good going relationship whatever whether it is in bf/gf.,families,friends etc...What i would suggest you is that if he is saying its past then don't dig out too much for that. tell him to change the e-mail.and see whether it works out well or not.Don't give stress to yourself too much.Just wait for the right time to come.

Jealousy is sigh of love. But my dear don't show it out to him all the time. I am too married and i have seen my husband getting irritated of too much jealous. So i don't show out too. Like you said, maintain yourself, your body and look good everyday and give your love to him will help your married life. Sometimes need to give space. It seems like u are being most of time with him. If not then how u have reached to his office desk in the morning? If its about during lunch time then i would understand u was there to give special lunch for him... I tell u that sometime give him space to spend time with himself only, u go to relatives just to refresh yourself u cant live away from your hubby. At the same don't keep an eye on him too.

i think you should just crush her or something less violent like send her an abusive messege shell get the messege then go away