It's so hard being a wife sometimes...

i know its hard being a wife unless you have an understanding husband. I also know that its hard being a husband when you dont have an understand wife. We havent argued for 2 years as i agreed to whatever she said. Things have changed so much after marriage. Sometime i just think if i have made the right decision. But i dont want to regret on my decision. At office when my collegues used go picnic i never used to go the reason was my wife didnt like it. Girls at office used to tell me that you are being too liberal with your wife. My answer to them was how will you feel if your husband loved you like this and they used to keep quiet. I think i am paying the price of being too liberal. But i know that things will be fine between us. I trust in GOD.

relationships grow and change but sometimes the people in them don't. you have to be able to grow as a person and change when the relationship changes. having children really makes a relationship grow and change. You have to be up for the task. that doesn't mean it's always going to be easy but it means if you want to stay together you have to do it. treat it like a business and write out a contract on what you both want, what you won't put up with, and then commit to those things for yourself and each other

Having a child will really really change things up. You don't have as much time for each other as you used to and you are probably more tired at the end of the day. It's hard dividing yourselves up to be there for your spouse, your child and still find enough time for you. Not sure why you were separated to begin with or for how long. If there is any way that you can possibly work things out then that is the best way for your child. If your problems can't be worked out then it is maybe best for all of you to go separate ways and work towards a civil way to raise your child apart from each other.

I can totally relate to the it's hard being a wife sometimes issue. When you get married there is no longer I... It's supposed to be WE, and operating as a team on one accord is a trial in itself. Sounds like some ways need to be changed on both ends... It's virtually impossible to make something work when your always bumping heads, and if you're both stubborn. Something has got to give. A successful marriage this day in age is a hard task, but it takes a lot of work on both parties to make it work. There are several stressors and things out there that can tear it down. I had kids before I got married, and I was with my husband about 8 years before we got married, and I really don't want to bring God in the situation because I don't want to cause any confusion or disrespect etc. Or sound preachy. I sense your frustration I have been there several times, my husband and I have never separated while married...we've separated before we got married. Have had a few close calls where the Divorce word has come up, but as crazy as he makes me and vise versa we still find a way to make it work. I can say that when we stop trying to be stubborn and work with each other and try to line up and let God be the center of our relationship, things run more smoothly... but when we get caught up in our own selfish ways and etc All hell tends to breaks loose! Kids can complicate the relationship especially if you all have busy lives, you have to work hard to make that special time for each other. I have a few relatives that make a point to have a date night with each other once a week and they alternate on who treats each week. If you all truly have a desire to work things out, maybe you need a neutral mediator to help you all get through those rough spots. I wish you all the best. I am sorry if I derailed off topic ~ I meant well

Things are very different when we get married and when we have kids. My husband and I fight almost every single day over silly things that don't really matter anyway. Things were much easier when we were dating too. We didn't have as much responsibility and we had no distractions. It was just me and him and our love. Now, things are much more difficult. So many things get in the way of the love and sometimes the love seems to hide behind all of the stress and responsibilities. It's really hard to still find the love and the reasons you fell in love in the first place. That's why it helps sometimes to have some date nights because just for that night it brings back all of the feelings and burning love you had while dating. You have to try to remember all of the reasons why you fell in love with your husband. I hope this helps some at least. Good luck with everything

Its so hard being a wife sometimes....Husband never knows what is happening in and around the family as he is never interested in being with his kids and wife.Wife can't manage as she is jobless if her husband never supports her.We can't predict what our husbands thinks so they keep on changing when they see new ones.They forget that they had kids and wife at home and enjoy on a other side.Unless and until the child calls him father,he will not remember that he have kid.Its not very good to marry and on the other hand its very hard being a wife.

Nothing ever gets settled by walking away or hanging up. My husband and I are going through something similar. We have been seapated for five years, and I have come to the point that he has to be the one to call me himself. I'm tired of putting myself in a position to be hurt.

It is true that being a partner in life is not easy and perfect enough. I don't believe that someone say their marriage is perfect. It is mixed emotions happiness and bitterness together goes every now and then. It depends on us as a spouse how to handle the situation. We will just fasten our seat belt so much and try to overcome the struggles in life and always ask Divine Guidance to give us strength and power to do so. Both of the husband and wife has a mutual understanding that if one is fire the other is water. And if there is a quarrel settle before the morning comes. Learn to say sorry and be humble at all times.

Indeed the modern hero nowadays is called wife, coz they are the only person in this world who possess a different persona, having the attitude of selfless love for the children and for their husbands cannot be bought at any store. They have the character that is so unique thats why theyre called mothers. I understand if its so tiring to be a wife coz a woman has multiple roles and its so tiring to a good wife while becoming a great mother, a good daughter and a loving sister.

I am not married but i know relationships are difficult to keep!tRy to have a discussion when you and him are very calm!

i think you should communicate with your husband instanly when there are some problems appeared between two of you. only just instanly communication can cutdown the later wrangle...wish you happy...

My husband and I just got married in Oct 2009. It has been very challenging for us because I believe that i married a man that was undercover selfish. I try to do everything ( I do all the cooking, he can cook, I do all the cleaning, he can clean and i take care of our two year old by myself) mind you I am 5 months preggers as well. i am looking into find a marriage adviser because I just want him to be the loveing and caring man that he used to be. I think a marriage counceler is our only hope at this point because we argue over who is doing most of the house work and takeing care of our daugher the most. Neither of us work and he get's a very good amount in unemployment so we never ague about money its just every day issues we argue about everyday.