How Does Your Job Affect You?

Time to find another job. It sounds to me like they're looking for a reason to get your fired. Be careful.

I would access everything. Either way it seems you'd be losing money, I'd try to see if I couldn't go to another person in charge, I assume by "small convenience store" you mean a local mom and pops type place with not many chains, if any at all, and if any at all they are owned by different people... if that makes sense. I would try to find someone to gripe to about it because it seems to me you've got a lot of money going into this wedding, and yet you still need your job after the wedding. On a side note, my husband got his job before we got married but told them when he was going for the interview that he had to have two days off for the wedding. They asked him if he wasn't sure he wanted more, and he said no. So technically we had no honeymoon.

Aren't all the bosses the world over driving employees crazy!! All this recession stuff and productivity increase has left the employee as a robot working the socks out for these companies. I think it is very prudent for employees to put a limit to what they will take or undergo for a job and then decide on how to move on. But of course, with a dearth of jobs out there it is difficult to make such calls easily, but at some point we all need to understand that there is a bigger aspect to life and family!! Cheers! Ram

It come down to what is more important. Your job or your wedding. There are other jobs out there but your wedding is a once in a lifetime event. It would not be a hard choice for me at all. I would not want to work for someone like that anyway.

Hi JudithP, I know this is an old post, but I am just roaming through my friends and randomly choosing ones to comment on. I read your story and I was really thinking how awful people can treat other people. A wedding is a very important day in a girl's life and for your boss, maybe your ex-boss by now, did not seem to understand that showing not sympathy. I am glad you recovered from you surgery and are back on your feet. I really would like to know how everything turned out. Did you stay on the job or did you resign? If you did, I hope you were able to find another job, that would have shown the unsympathetic boss. I really hope all is working out with your new life.

Worst case scenerio is u can get unpaid leave,but if the bosses said nothing , then just continue with your holidays.U r getting married, i think that is a valid reasons, if the bosses are pissed about it , your cannot do nothing i guess.Worst is u take unpaid leave. I think , in my place by labour law getting married we have 2 free leave to take.

This kind of boss is not worth for your respect. If I am in your shoe I will render my voluntarily resigned if they wont allow me to extend my holiday vacation, I am newly married so I knew what will happen with a week of preparation before the wedding day. At the moment maybe you think you are already prepared to face and all things gonna be okay but when the time comes on your wedding day you will realize there's more things need to be prepare. On our wedding day my tears came out in my 2 eyes because of some delayed. My wife already in the church but me still in my house so prepare some rush things for our visitors. After the ceremony, in the reception I didn't think that I can cry infront of my father, in-laws and to our principal sponsor. The owner of the reception came to be if they made something wrong in attending all our visitors and asking an apology. I said to them: "No need to ask apology because you didn't do anything wrong". I am too sensitive at the time and I felt I am relieve with all the pressure. It's not easy to face this new stage of life. After the reception and the party was done, time to go home and relax. Of course we didn't sleep immediately but we mingle to our visitors who accompanied us to our house and sleep with us. I was drunk with my old friends and enjoy despite of being tired. One week is not enough to take all our stress. So after a week before my in-laws back for another country we did a 2days roaming around from beaches to malls. I was then happy at that time. I don't know if it will happen in your case, If you prepare it for about a year maybe you will lessen the stress and pressure. I think you need to relax for a whole week after your wedding. You superior is selfish and they don't deserve to be called as superior. I am also a superior now and I tried my best to think my associates as human being, it means I am concern on their personal life so that it won't affect to their work. If you don't mind to their situation, it will cause a bad result. I hope you boss will realize how helpful to both of you if he/she allow you to relax within a week to relieve the stress you feel during you wedding.

Wow, that's really so unprofessional on their part. Honestly? I would spend this time between now and your wedding looking for a new job to start the day you get back from your honeymoon. There is one thing to have bad communication, but that's simply uncalled for. Even if they were to insist that you work that week, to tell you that you are scheduled on your WEDDING DAY and be completely inflexible about it, that's ridiculous. Seems like this could be an opportunity for you to get something better. Also, what were you doing that you injured your knee? Did it happen while you were at work? If so, that would be some bargaining power you have with them. You could also report them to the Department of Wage and Labor in your town. I hope it all works out!

I can't believe that any employer would not let staff have a holiday in order to get married when they had been granted permission earlier- that's appalling. If I were you I'd start looking for a new job right now and just not bother to return after the wedding. I hope you and your new husband have a happy life together.