Gossiping at work

@lulu1220 (1006)
United States
August 9, 2010 7:20am CST
Sometimes I feel like I am in high school with all of the gossip that goes on at work. I work with some people that are much younger than me and they gossip all the time. In fact one of my friends say that they have gossiped about me in front of her and she tells me later! I really do not care what people think of me. I used to when I was younger but as I have gotten older it does not bother me anymore. So how do you deal with the gossip at work?
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20 responses
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
I think it's normal in any type of environment--whether your at school, in your workplace, or even at home (the neighbors, I mean). And based on experience, having been a subject of gossips, I just don't mind it. I let it slip my attention. Ignoring it is the best way to get rid of squabbles and more inconsequential conversations about you, plus you'd be out of stress. As long as you have not trampled upon others, then be yourself and move on with your life.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
*whether YOU'RE
@krkavsy (191)
• India
9 Aug 10
Gossiping is a bad habit but it is universal. Usually ladies have the habit of gossiping. They cannot hold their tongue. They leak things out immediately. Even gents do that but ladies frequency is more when it comes to gossip. The best thing is to do your work and go home. Never share your feelings or your personal life with anyone!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 10
ya, in every where even we had the best, but some of our friends always make gossip (bad gossip ) for us...sometimes it hurt for us...but why we can do it??
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I hate it. There is nothing I hate worse than back stabbers. I respect someone who just comes out and tells me they don't like me then someone who pretends to be my friend and then talks bad about me behind my back. I have a personal motto. I never say anything about anyone behind their back that I would not say to their face. Office gossip is one reason I own my own internet based business now. I can't stand all the cadiness, I don't like it when people talk badly about others. I am older too and don't care so much about what people say about me either, but I can't stand people who pretend to be your friend when they are secretly throwing you under the bus.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Gossiping is one way of fun but it destroys other people's lives. It is though happening in all places, at work, at home and everywhere. I sometimes gossip too and I do admit that but i have a control on what I say. I don't usually join groups just to gossip about something. I usually focus on my work but sometimes gossiping can be fun if the topic is such an interesting one.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I do gossip at work, though it's mostly work related stuff, like projects, assignments and ratings and stuff. It's like which boss is better, which is the worst to be with on projects.. I basically lay off on my officemates personal life, because it's really none of my business, and I wouldn't like it if they meddle on mine either.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Hi, Gossiping among colleagues is very common and I used to do it when I was working sometimes. We will gossip about anything,from work to personal things,etc. The day will past faster with some gossip in between. Of course, when come to working time, we will work seriously and complete our job,only during the break time,then we will have time to relax and gossip here and there abit. GOssiping is not determine by age.Be it,young or old, we still can gossip around. We will have chance to get each other better and will have close relationship through gossiping.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
I have also been a victim of this at my previous work. It seems that there are always people like that who has nothing to do but gossip. The sad thing is most of those on top, believe such without verifying and outright condemn. Well, I just let it be cause I know that end the end the truth will set me free. Now, I am no longer connected with such organization. I do not know if they were able to find out that we they hear was not true. But, now I live my life happily and is very much satisfied with what I do. So perhaps this is my reward of not reacting to those negative things that people say about me...
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
9 Aug 10
no matter where you work or what kind of job you have, there is always gossip to be found. Rumors spread like wildfire through the work place. Most of the time thwe gossip turns out to be misleading and untrue. Gossip usually starts out as harmless banter that goes beyond its means. There are some exceptions where gossip begins because feels wronged and wants a little revenge for it. When gossip is huretful to another person, it gets out of control. Take care in gossiping in the workplace. It could affect your job and your relationship with co-workers.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
9 Aug 10
Just ignore them. I don't like gossiping at all. Why should we mind about others business while we can't solve ours perfectly? When people talk about me, I will just ignore them. Because I don't have time to waste on thinking about what they said about me. I have so many things that worth thinking than to waste my time thinking about what they say about me. I live my life, I am the one who know what is right and wrong for me. They are just the audience. Just ignore them..
@sach143_u (859)
• India
9 Aug 10
Friend in my office also so many colleagues aruond me talk so much about me but i won't care at all. I think they don't have any work or if they didn't talk about me then their ate food won't digest. I never bother about that type of Gossips i will do my work and i will always mingle with every one. I will do my duty promptly.
• United States
10 Aug 10
I totally despise gossip whether it is in the work place or anywhere. How I handle it is just walk away and not be part of it. Since I know what it feels like to hear any form gossip involving me I just evade those types of talks. How I virtually handle not be the subject of gossip is that I do not bring and personal information about me at the workplace. Small general bits if people must know but outside of that I try to keep my private life separate from work.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
9 Aug 10
I stay out of it, always. I just think no good can come from it, so I'd rather not get involved. I never had any really bad experiences because of it or anything, but that is just common sense, really, I think.
@Thumb86 (287)
9 Aug 10
just gotta ignore that stuff. It can be hard..It depends on how much the people gossip..Gossip itself is disgusting and I hate people who do that kind of thing. Really small minded, ignorant people gossip. world would be better off without those kind of people I think.
@blueboy3 (123)
• Ireland
9 Aug 10
It is difficult, all too easy to get sucked into that way of being. If you don't you can be isolated. I always tried to keep out of it, and when gossip was being spread tried to indicate my disdain for it.
@maylaine (441)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
for doing such things is a bad habit...but lets face it no matter how educated a person is,,,this kind of wrong is still prevalent specially at work..im also wondering why people doing such things even if they know if will cause misunderstanding among them employees....but that is life crab mentality and insecurity will always be a part of a society,,,,that for me i just dont mind them as long as i dont hear it infront of me.
@Cherryd41 (1119)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Hi LULU 1220 Yes I also work with people who do a lot of gossiping I think we all do at some point and also we tend to partipate in it as well be it from just listening or commenting . I think thats only natural ,and it depends on what type of gossip it is. There is some gossip at work I choose not to participate be it listening or voicing my opinion. A lot of times the gossip is not true but handed down stories with each person putting their own twist to it and by the time the story is told its blown way out of proportion. But like I said before gossip is in every work place be it white collar ,blue collar ect.. someone will always having something to say about somebody else thats just the way it is
@hushi22 (4928)
9 Aug 10
ahhh...this is one reason why i don't like my environment and i have no doubt of resigning because most people there gossip than work.
9 Aug 10
I think every office or work place will have those kinds of things that make work much more exciting. It's like a spice into our daily life at work. As long as we are not the ones that they're gossiping about. ;) Some gossips can be harmful or destructive but others can also be constructive and can help improve a person. Gossips in the office can also warn the employees of what's to come so they could be prepared. So I think it's a case to case basis where sometimes it could be an advantage or a disadvantage.
• India
9 Aug 10
yes it is bad practice
• India
9 Aug 10
at work place gossiping is common and if ur famous among u are sft target but we should not care about that