should we break up?

well...first you have to weigh things out...yourself or your girlfriend first?...you have lots of complaints...but have you tried discussing it with her?...maybe the problem is not your girlfriend but you...have you reflected lately? i mean...at some point you have that similarities and there are those things that both of you share some interest in, right? why did you become girlfriends and boyfriends in the first place? or what's in her that you saw that made you fall in love with her? that should be the things you should be thinking first before ending the relationship...think about it...love is an investment...so many things are at stake...

It is a bit drastic to just break up the best thing is to sit down and talk to her about how you are feeling, explain how you feel you are on different levels in the relationship and talk to her about how you feel it should be heading, if this doesnt change things then is the time to break up not before.

your are a bit incompatible that's the problem, but you can still work things out if you will have an open communication, and an open mind.. you can compliment its other's indifference only if you are willing..

If you are not happy about it and you feel like you cant work it out anymore then you should try to talk to her about it. Try to talk to her about your concerns, who knows maybe she will change her attitude and both of you can compromise.

If you are not happy with each other anymore then stop it. You are just wasting each others time and space

Hello there! First of all all you have to do is talk to each other, yes talk! just like what a few myLotters are telling you here. Take this situation a challenge in your relationship. If you are not used to being pushed before by someone through your limits then you will now be because of her attitude. You should both change you bad attitudes for a better one because you are having a relationship now unlike before that we are just carefree. You have accepted her for whatever she was before and you stated here that you still love her. So just continue having a relationship with her and challenge to yourself up to its limits.

If you love her And you want to stay with her then yo have to sit her down and tell her how you feel. Tell her what you just told us. Your view of life differs from her's but you love her. And tell her that it bothers you to hear her b!tch about all the stresses of the day All day long. Suggestion. Give her a set time when she can vent about the day but then after that no more . That way she gets it out And you don't hear it all day long. If she doesn't hear you or agree, then it maybe time to leave.

I think that something that is important to remember is that we are all different and come from different families who have different values, so when we come together in a personal relationship, it is about learning to accept each other with our differences. If we love the person, then the fact that we dislike some of the things that she does, can either be challenge or a signal that we are are meant to be together. If we truly love the person, no matter what happens we will continue to feel drawn to the person. If we don't love the person, then it would be fairly easy to leave the relationship. Therefore, I would say that as you say that you love her, you will need to accept her the way she is and talk deeply to her about your differences with a view to resolving them.. _Derek

Success and happiness need not come together, always. sometimes they happen together, sometimes not. if you prefer being 'happy', then success means nothing. success brings its own breed of happiness and troubles. if you are not concerned with success, then forget about it. do what you like to do. let people comment anything, just ignore. be happy. if your girlfriend is a pushy character, then its good to dump her at the earliest. such people are a burden in life, an excess baggage. such persons judge you by comparing with another who comes from an entirely different background, of which she is not aware of anything. these kinds of persons usually create more trouble and disharmony. they see success only in monetary terms. if happiness counts more than the kind of success your girlfriends wants you to achieve, go with the one that is more dear to you. for that even if you have to sacrifice your love, so be it. after all from what you mentioned above, she is not the kind who will bring any kind of happiness wherever she is.

If you are seriously asking for advice, I suggest you break up with her because she is not doing you any good. Being in a relationship, you should be able to bring the best out of the person you are with. It is okay if she dishes out one of the bad days but certainly not all her days are bad right? She is sucking out your positive energy by nagging you for not doing this or that. However, you can still try and see if you can talk to her about this whole thing. Tell her how you feel and maybe she would be able to calm a bit and be more understanding about your side of the relationship.

Regarding to your topic title the answer should be NO. Because first of all you have chosen to be to love her despite of the flaws that she has especially her attitude. It is a great challenge for you on how smart or even logical enough to solve that kind of problem for you to handle it. She always talks about her painful experience it is because that is the only way she can release her pain inside her heart. She wants someone to feel that she is being cared and loved by other people and that is why she expected that from you. If you are a self centered man then no wonder why you hate that kind of situation and you can't even handle that simple problem. The only thing that she wants is the feeling that you are always there for her especially when she is already down. You must let her understand that she must be happy of what she has.

Well you said you love her right? You have to remember what made you love her in the first place. These are just little annoyances that could come between a good relationship. You should talk to her, maybe she's just stressed out and needs somebody to help her ease it. That would be you. Having a relationship with somebody isn't always easy, sometimes you have to give a bit more effort into it. Good luck.

DON'T give up anyone that you love. Why should you do that ? Are you thinking of that because you feel that if you don't give her up you are limited in starting relationships with others. Don't be limited ! Start new relationships as well !!

I think you are not understandable. Why won't you first talk with her once, so that she won't get hurt with your decision. Explain her in a better way, i am sure she will understand if she really loves you. But never do such thing to her with out informing her. It really gonna hurt her lot.

HI! Welcome to mylot family. Please be patient and listen to your girl friend, she is your friend because she finds that you are the one, who would give her support. Remember every person cannot be like you.

Well you need to realize two things. First, every girl you find, is going to have something, small or large, that you are not going to like. That's part of getting married, is forcing yourself to accept the other person as they are. Second, you need to realize that people generally do not change drastically. They tend to adapt slowly over time. Not normally in a short span. Therefore... You need to realize your own limitations. Can you learn to accept her? Some can, some can not. If the answer is you can not, you need to accept that, and accept that you two are not going to stay together. If you are not, you need to move on as quickly as possible. If the answer is you can, then you should do so. Because no one is perfect. No one is. So it is better to learn how to accept, than to bounce around from person to person, always looking for the perfect person that does not exist. So find out if you can... or if you can not. There is no 'right' answer. You just have to figure out what your limitations are.

in this life, understanding between the couple in relationship is so much important...be with her on her easy and hard time..be the one that will make her know that you love her so much in any condition of her...show to her how much you love her if you really love her..

if you love her i know you will going to be patient to her even more...you will going to extend your patient to your gf...i'm a girl also, and sometimes i am like what your gf does complaining of everything to the people close to me...your gf do such thing cause she know's that you were the only one that will listen to all her complain in life,cause she trust you and everytime she tell's you all her complain and problem in life, she feel's good and she feel that her problem and the pain she feel's made lighter because she share it with you.

Transparency is very important in a relationship. You should always keep an open conversation with your girlfriend. Tell her what you feel so that she would be able to adjust with you.

being happy is not a problem... the problem is not a happy... :D just want to make you smile... well......... u just have to talk with your girlfriend first... confront her why she's acting like that (as what u've said)... LISTEN and UNDERSTAND each other... GODbless +