How does it feel to be the odd one in the family?

Hiya devijay, So you became a Housewife which is a Profession all on it´s own. You were brave to go against the norm then. In spite of that you have a Masters in Commerce? If so that can easily be worked on more I suppose and get more Courses and all that sort of studying behind you and you might even go further than they have in the end. Don´t give up just because they have this and that. You take it further what you have got. Surely someone in your Field could help you out as to what to do and how to get better opportunities and start from there. Lastly I would not let them make me feel "smaller" than them remember you can get to be much bigger than them if you want to. Go girl go.

If u are happy & taking care of yourself that's all that matters. No two people are alike & i think that people should be themselves. I didn't always do what my family wanted me to but it's for sure they didn't always act like i thought they should either. Jut enjoy your life & don't worry what they think of u for being different. I bet some of them wish they had been more like u.

My mother always preferred my older sister, so I grew up with a bit of a chip on my shoulder. I always felt like the black sheep. I grew up massively depressed and would always get comments like "trust you" or "why can't you be more like your sister?" I became an oddball and a goth (teenage rebellion!) and always did things differently. My parents don't even bat an eyelid now because they've seen such weirdness from me over the years. I think I've calmed down a lot more now that I'm older and I'm more comfortable with myself. I'm not a goth any more anyway.

Been there and is still in such a situation. Just felt very lost. Like you, I gave up many job offers. I don't know why I did that but now that I am unemployed, I take on all the houseworks in order to contribute myself to the household but it's just not enough to impress or at least make myself felt worthy at home. I think for a period of time, I was so depressed for being the odd one that I won't even want to even dine with my family. Don't know how I managed to get through those days but now, I am trying to find work (although after being unemployed for so long, it's hard to even get a interview request). I have sorted out my mind. What passed has passed, thus, I only want to look forward and hope for the best. And also, I don't think it's wrong to be housewife. Being a housewife is not an easy role and it's an important role in the family.

Yes you are right they are feeling same as you thinking but not as badly as you analyzed.They would also have a sympathetic feeling for you.If you still want to do some job then please go for it thinking is just waste of time.I think you wanting job of you style badly am I right?

Actually, I felt that same way too. There are times that I woke up and ask myself, "Whoah, What have I done in these past years? I should be working now but then again I am just at the house while mom works to feed us." So what I did is to get back to school and study to graduate. Well there is a time that I am really sick of them. I feel like they are out of their mind because they expect too much but they provide the least of your school needs. And when I have group work, they don't allow me to join them because they don't want me to sleep overnight with classmates. I mean, "what the hell? I'm 21 years old why the heck they are so strict I know what I'm doing.. duuh!!" Oh anyways, whats important is how you value yourself as you are.

I'm an only son but I understand your kind of situation. Never mind if your thoughts are different from that from your family. Yes, they have big certificates, MBAs whatsoever. However, you're not weak either! Right? At least you have a masters in commerce! At least you've earned yourself a masters! So what's there to be afraid of or stressed out?

Most of my family and some of my friends are very conservative and religious. They have kids and watch reality TV. I have absolutely nothing in common with them except blood. To keep the peace, I choose not to discuss religion and politics with them. So far it has worked. One of my siblings is like me and he will start a fight with some of them. I decided a long time ago not to get in the middle of it.

i understand what you facing , sometimes every thing gets better as we move on in life , as you got a daughter enjoy your life with your child , dont ever feel that commerce had made you like this, try take tuition and you know their are many earning option , feel confident and think ahead. i know this comment is nothing for you. but my prayers will do for you......... prabhu

I know how hard and sad it is to be the odd one in the family, because I am too. I felt it when I was in high school because it was then that I noticed I looked different from my brothers and sisters. People in our neighborhood started to create stories that I was an adopted child, but actually I am not, I just had a different father. But I never knew it until I was already 38yrs. old, and what hurts me most is they never gave me the chance to know my real father. He passed away 1989 and I don't even know how he looks like because my mother refuses to let me know more about him, she didn't even talk to me personally about it she just wrote me a letter. Since high school and until now that I already have my own family, I still feel that I am very much different. I don't look like them, they're intelligent and I'm not, they're outgoing with lots of friends, while I'm shy with only a few friends, they're all successful in life with good jobs and own business while I'm just a plain housewife with a very simple life. I always feel insecure specially when we're in public because people really notice that I'm different from them, there was even a time when a friend of my brother asked him, Is she your half sister? but, to save me from embarrassment of course he said No, she's really my sister. It really feels so sad and I feel so incomplete.

hey don't make self pity with yourself if you want to prove this practice your field of profession who knows you will be succeed with that there so many possibilities you need to expect with yourself

dont hesitate to do things you like,everyone has his/her own way of living,his/her own pleases,so dont care too much about other's attention and opinions,do things you like,happy and healthy are important!

i feel like that too. the green green grass ofhome... when i was kid i was responsible bout everything but when got into highschool things started to get complicated for me. and i stopped schooling for 2years. i got depressed i guess.. but my moms really supportive so i got back on my feet again went back to school went to college and went through alot of personal probs but no problems regarding academics. i became a drunkard, go disco and go home wee hours in the morning somtyms i dont go home i sleep at my friends houses. but i knew how to manage my time so i graduated nursing for 4years without failing and i passed the boardexams take 1 only. 1year aftr my sis also passed the nursing exam. i started working but now my contract ended and im struggling with this feelings of insecurity and worthlessness again. both my bro n sis are working while im stuck at home. hope could find a job soon. wish me luck!!

Im in a famliy of 4 an feel like the odd one out to all my family are well educated where as i hate collage. they all have good expertise in the jobs they do i just do random sales jobs. One way of looking at it is your the one who is unique and most of this may come from not wanting to acept living someone elses way. I feel nowadays most people follow others rather than living there own lives. But no matter how diffrent we are from our familys there is a huge bond with means they always care for us and we them :)

Do feel proud to be the odd one out! Likewise for me, I'm the only lefty in the family while my parents and younger brother are all right handed people. Since young, my parents have tried ways and means to get into becoming like them but I refused. Maybe they are doing for my own good as they don't want others to see me as a weirdo or whatever I don't know. So in your case, ignore them. Don't give yourself pressure in order to be like them, being so common, doing and talking abt the same things. As compares to them, your life is much more exciting because there are so many happenings unknown to them when they just buried themselves in their work, oblivious to the outside world.

Same here too. My papa said me to do Mechanical Engg after 10th, My sister was saying to do Science. And my mom was saying to Computer engg. But i had intrest in electronic. And now i completed diploma in Electronic engg with first class, and prove then all wrong. This is truth. For u Just explain them U enjoy doing Commerce. And u r intrested in commerce, and does't understand What they teach in mba-s.