Jealous Boyfriends

you are in a very difficult position so it is time to invite the family to talk with you every chance you get. these people will be relatives for life if you ever get married and you don't want them to think you are false. next time you see them when your boyfriend is not around, smile, say 'sorry i always feel shy when i see you' and strike up some conversation'. you may well find out more about your boyfriend when he was a child etc. this way or does he have something to hide?

I been confused with this. Your boyfriend wanted you to be friendly with his family yet he doesn't allow you to talked with them alone esp with the male ones. Oh,i guess there is something wrong with your bf,he is not just jealous but maybe hiding something that he doesn't want you to discover . Well,if you can stand living with him for another more years,then go on. But if you feel uneasy,or you think he sounds weird,you need to decide. It is your life dear,and no one should dictate you for what you want to do,becoz you know you are not doing wrong. Have a good weekend

Hi, Sha033. There is no reason for your boyfriend to become jealous of you if you don't talk to his family members. Why do they think that you are phony. You are not. If I was you, I would have a secretive talk with them and let them know why you don't talk to them when your boyfriend is around. I hope that they can see your side of things.

If it's okay to ask is your boyfriend from another country and from another religion? Or he is a local guy? This is a sign of insecurity and insecure people are emotionally unstable. They can be great one minute and fly off the handle the next moment. I've known someone who was just like this and in the long run because her boyfriend was jealous and insecure he became physical with her. Let me ask are you happy being with him?

Your BF is paranoid! He treats you like a property he owns and not a GF. Better to break up with him. You'll just hurt yourself with him.

It is the reason that you two get together will makes you separate,I guess,if you really couldn't endure the problems that just like you said your bf didn't think of your feelings and care your existence. I couldn't figure out what characters of your bf attracted you from your statements.If he does have some prominent features.You should judge and weigh whether you persist or not.Good luck.

Tell him to knock it off or else your through with him. Tell him that he has no right to tell you what to do, and that you make your own decisions, not him. If he doesn't respect you, trust you, and respect and trust your decisions, then maybe you two need to start seeing other people. My other fear is that he could become abusive because this is a form of abuse. It's call manipulation, telling you what you can and cannot do. He's not boss of you. He doesn't control your life. If my boyfriend did that to me, I'd start walking away because I don't need that in my life. Oh, and I can hold my own, if my boyfriend ever hit me, I would leave because I don't have to take that. Again, he has no control over you.

Your boy friend loves you so much! But the problem is he's too possessive. Imagine yourself in your childhood with your most favorite toy, candy or whatever it is for which you would do anything. If someone asks for it, will you give? How will you react? That's the situation of your boyfriend! He loves you so much that he doesn't want anyone to even talk to you. This is the crazy face of love!! I think you shouldn't break up your boy friend. Don't loose your temper. Talk to him politely. Try to explain him. If he's not listening, try the other way. Talk to his relatives (if you think they're trustworthy). Make your position clear. But be careful that you don't create a bad impression on him. Try to take him to a counselor and try to cure this mental disease. Try to understand. He's been affected by some disease. Will you leave your sweetheart just because he's sick?

That's kinda weird. Its his family and he still don't want you to talk to them? I think both of you need to talk. Don't consider breaking without a serious talk. Just say what's on your mind. 3 years is a long time and I think by that time I think both of you should have developed deep trust for each other. And I don't sense that to your boyfriend. Just be open with him. Good luck.

First off be greatful you are just in boyfriend/girfriend stage. I went to an Alanon meeting a few years ago. There was a young woman that was beaing hit all the time by her boyfriend. The part I could not understand was, they were both from Tennessee. He gets a job in Missouri and she follows him. Did she think he would just stop hitting her? And then When she moved, she had no family or friends in Missouri. I told her to leave him and go back home and start over and not allow herself to be abused. I sincerely hope she listened. She was a bright beautiful young girl that had put herself in a situation although yours is mental and hers was both physical and mental, and allowed to be manipulated by the person "she loved" Don't accept any standard from a person or partner in love relationship that you know you would not do that to the other person. Know what i suggest? Get away for a few days even if you just stay in a some cheap hotel and eat fast food for a week...get away from him and then write down your likes and dislikes about him and the lifestyle you are in you might be surprised either how much you both share in common or dont and what kind of love you actually had Remember you are a person. so many times us women allow others to make all the decisions for us. And sometimes there IS a right time for that. But love is to be shared and treasured. It should not be manipulative or calculated. Bless you hon you have some hard decisions to make to stay or not stay But I think you might see the light at the end of the tunnel if you take a few days off and away from him and your relationship.

that's really difficult. maybe talking to him, telling him how you feel about the situation might make him understand. you've been together for three years now, he should learn to trust you by now, if there's no trust by either of the party then the relationship won't be as stable as a trusting one. talking to his female relatives about it might also help, maybe they somehow have the same thought as you. it might be hard but communication can help smooth things out.