distance relationships

trust is the key I had long distance relationship in the past for almost 5 years I lived in Holland and she lives somewhere in Asia it is ended because I am married her and I live in Asia now... Trust is the key the frequencies how often you contact her is not counted.. within 5 years I met her only in five days! that was when I was in Asia for my job...

Trust and open communication i should say would greatly help in distance relationships. 80kms is not that far and 20euros is not even that costly. My relationship is quite very far and the cost of travel would take around 525 EUR! I don't have that much so i better stay where i am now and be happy, contented with the frequent small talk we have almost everyday..it's even for free. I trust him and he trusts me, and i hope that it will end with a happy ending.

i have just been into a long distance relationship very recently. When i was younger, i wanst really infavor of such set up. i feel that to be able to have a very strong relationship, couples should always be together. But now that i am much older, i have realized that no matter which part of the world both of you can be, if the love is strong and you would want to end up together, distance should never be an issue. trust plays a great factor with this. so it is also a great test for both of you.

Throughout my experience working with long distance relationship couples. I discover that there are lots of thing that you must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. But I'm happy to say that we happily married now and I will share what we do to survive that relationship. establish an effective communication level. Telephone/cellphone is the most convenient mode of communication. Plan to meet each other there is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of long distance relationship. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement and hope. Suspicion there is no reason for it in along distance relationship. You must learn to trust your partner whole heatedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner. The negative impression you have in long distance relationship will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. You must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comment I receive.

I had a painful experience with my boyfriend before. We were together for more than a year. We were both graduating when we started our relationship. Actually, we live in the same place. After few months, I know in myself that he is for me. As soon as we graduated, I brought him in our house and introduced him to my family and days after, I was also introduced to his family. Everything went so smoothly. I was already working then and he was still looking for a job. Week after, he was hired but he was assigned far away from me. :( we're oceans apart. That was the start of my solitude. At first it was fine but after few months he changed - from being loving and caring to being so distant. He used to call me everyday, then turned into weeks until I didn't receive anything at all. I tried so much to save our relationship but it takes two to tango. I asked him why, if did he find someone else, but the only reply I got was "I don't want to hurt you more." I was shocked for a moment, I was'nt able to utter even a single word. I cried and cried till I have no more to cry. My sisters witnessed how miserable I was. It has been more than a year now but he still has a special place in my heart. I have moved on but in my heart I am still hoping but not expecting at all.

Woowwww Thats great man, you both trust each other thats the key to keep this relationship going. I too had a long distance relationship, But it failed miserably, more so because we did not meet each other often. I did not have enough money to go and meet her even once in a month, then started all complaining that you don't have time for me and stuff, the blames increased and I could not tolerate loosing my sense of freedome and take the arguements all the time. so finally decided to break off and now I am quite happy being single again. Long distance relationships are completely based on "mutual understanding, trust and love" for each other. constant communication is necessary and to meet once in a week is as important as that, otherwise you are going to face the consequences :P.

I've experienced long distance relationship and it needs a great love and trust to each other. it's true that we need to become mature in this kind of love because the time we cannot see our partner brought us mind of something negative. This is the beginning of broken relation if we cannot handle it right. It needs more patience and understanding. Increasing the love to partners makes it grow and always having a communication will help. Through this everything will be alright. And this is the only tools we can used in the long distance relationship. Be happy!

I think "true love" isn't related to distance ,although i have never experenced this kind of thing, but I am under the imprssion that it's doesn't matter"Distance makes heart grownfonder",but after you marry,you must consider living together,you will deal with a lot of family things .In order to keep have happiness family,you should live no "distance" good luck!!!!

well, for me distance is the true test of love...because when you are far from each other thats time that you can determine whether you gf/bf trust you and love you deeply for he/she will do anything just to spent time with you once in a while....

I really admire guys who are patient and gentleman enough to maintain long distance relationships. My distant relationship is way much challenging because I'm dealing with it even after marriage.. I'm a soldier's wife. You are still lucky because you and your girlfriend can enjoy each other's company once in awhile according to your plans. Advancement of technology already eradicated most of the reasons that discouraged this kind of relationship. We are very lucky in this generation.

I hate this kind of relationship, first let me tell you about the girl, she's so hot and have a model type of figure, she's taller than me and have the charm that anybody can see her will ask her number and ask her a date. I've been inlove with that girl the first time we met and she was inlove in me too, we have the same feelings, but we have that kind of long distance relationship, not only 80km but 100 km away, we see each others once a year and sometimes not, then the time came that I discovered that she was cheating. That is why I hate that kind of relationship, because I found myself still inlove with her and I don't want to lose our relationship until now. Event though she cheated me once, she promised me now that she will not cheat in our relationship again, in fact it's my turn to cheat her, because all she knows is that I will not cheat her because of the fact that she know that I love her so much, until I found myself cheated her not once but several times. I am confident enough that she will not know my foolishness.

Long distance relationships are always a challenge. You're lucky that the distance between you and your girlfriend is only 80km and you get to see each other once a week. A lot of other people, myself included, have to go through wider distances and go without the company of their partners for months at a time. In my case, my partner and I are literally separated by the Pacific Ocean and we get to see each other only once a year. It takes work to make a long distance relationship work. Trust is already something that the other participants in this discussion have mentioned, and that is definitely important. You and your girlfriend should also try doing things together even while you are apart, such as reading the same books or watching the same shows on TV so you have something to talk about when you are together. You can also try playing online games together. Anyhow, best of luck to you.

i think a long distance relationship can work based on ones level of maturity. Modern technology also helps in promoting a long distance relationship, communication is easier.