Friend turned lover

I feel, one should not mix friendship with love affair. Love is highly personal,individualistic and needs serious thinking.Choosing a friend as a love partner is completely a personal decision.One must examine all pros and cons and decide to agree or disagree to such a proposal. Relationship of love demands strong commitment,trust and responsibility. One should not be just carried away by emotions and hurried mood. Thanks.

This is dangerous territory and I do not someone currently experiencing this. See my view is that when we enter into an emotional relationship with a friend then after the relationship per say does not work out then where does that leave the friendship. Many will say they can still be friends, but in all honesty they really will never have the same close friendship they had before. The human emotion is not a light switch and we can not turn it off and on and think that it will remain lite. If I were in this form of situation, I would be gentle with my words but will not mix the two. There after the friendship will get strained as the other person can not simply shut off the emotions.

Being that this person is my friend and I assume a very good friend then I would just be very honest. I would tell that person how very much I value their friendship but that I just don't feel that same way about them and I hope that the honesty would not hurt our friendship. If it did then I would have to wonder how much of a friend that person really was to begin with or was he just being my friend in the hopes of it turning into something else? It might be a little awkward at first but if you are really good friends then It should all blow over and be fine.

that can be a very uncomfortable situation. Usually you end up with neither friend nor lover.

friends turned lovers their life goes smooth.i am also getting married with my friend as well as lover.in this type they understand themselves verywell

Very good topic, and some very good discussion is going on over here, I liked hard working girl comment, our emotions are not like switch turn on and off, a really very good comment for this situation. I think there is a lot of responsibility when you love some one. If one of my friend turned into this situation then I ll clearly and straight away tell her my situation as I am already in love, this ll be difficult for me and for her too, but the realities should be spoken whether it is love or friendship, I ll never keep my options in love and friendship, If I am already in love I ll never ever cheat with my lover by keeping options in form of friendship and I ll straight away clear her mind before any thing else take place...:) Have a nice weekend...

it really depends on my feelings for him... if i have a mutual feeling like him, why not??? otherwise, i have to reject him as feelings can't be forced even though i will risk my friendship with him... take care and have a nice day...

Oh man, the worst thing you can do is deny a woman who's proposing to you of her feelings. I don't wanna touch that but if i'm not really interested then i have no choice but to dump her. I don't wanna dump any woman. I consider it bad luck.

It's always hard to say the last word because only time will tell what's gonna happen next. Don't reject his or her proposal; instead, tell that person that for now, you could only offer friendship but if he or she is willing to wait then much better. Who knows, you two might ended up in each others' arms? Just go with the flow and time will decide. If you two were meant to be together forever? It will happen at the right place and at the right time.

That is a real tough question. If I feel the same way for him then I will be glad to accept his proposal. If I really feel that there is nothing more beyond our friendship then he must really respect whatever my decision is. A great relationship should always base in a great friendship. It would really be an advantage for him if I will accept his proposal because we have known each other for quite a long time. But you will really find out for yourself on what extend your friendship would be if he already confronted me with his feelings.

It is better to marry a friend than a lover. Lovers never show their real character. We get know their real character only after the marriage. But friends are not like that. They always show their real character. If i understand that the friend who fell in love is a suitable person to me, of course, i will accept that proposal. Otherwise i will reject it.

I would just ignore the proposal. I don't feel the same way so why should i accept it right??and one more tings i would not sacrifice the friendship..so i suggest you must confront him/her..

It is still best to be honest about my feelings. So I will tell her what I feel outright. This may seem harsh, but at least she won't have room for false hopes or misinterpretations.

I personally do not agree that, from a good friend become a lover. Thing is just not right. I don't consider this as love. Its just that, both of you have found some common interest and would like a companion. When time goes by, I'm sure both of you will realized and by that time, wouldn't it be too late?

This is a very delicate subject and time for you and your friend. How you handle this can change the course of your life. I have been through this and it is not easy for either of you. You must search your own heart and soul for the answer to this one. Good luck with this one...you will need it.

i guess if he or she is really ones friend , then he or she would definitely understands you and some might be madly in love , for those ,problem might be a worse thing to solve , but every solution is got many thing to do with approach we make and explaining at the right time would all make the difference ,

I had experience this before when a friend told me that she likes me. But i do not have the same feelings for her. At first we had to talk about the situation because we two know each other from a common friend. And i just told her that my treatment for her is just a friend and i do not want our friendship to end just because of this. I know for sure it was hard for me to say it straight to her and hard for her also to accept it. but eventually everything turned alright. and we are still friends in the long run.

That's hard. I fell in love with a close friend once. I told him that I have feelings for him one afternoon. After that, it was awkward. We ignored each other. It was a bad thing to do since he had a girlfriend. But after one year, we repaired the friendship. He still borrows my Harry Potter books. How about asking her that if her feeling is a mere infatuation or true love. What if it will work out? Give it a chance. It will be brave of her to risk the friendship. But she should be prepared of pain.

It happened many times!! And it was terrible because you love them as you know, friends. Not more. But they have this special feeling. Well, what i did was keep on talking to them, but just as needed, and I told them about how I feel about them that I've considered them as my family (how could you be in love 'love' with a brother?) and also still be warm and kind as usual to them but not too much so that we won't give them such empty hope. Hope this help :)