I keep on resigning
By wongchoiyee
@wongchoiyee (7413)
Malaysia
November 7, 2010 10:15am CST
What is happening to me? I feel lazy and depressed at the moment that said this year I am so lazy to hang on to a job.
Actually I don't feel like going anywhere just staying at home.
Previously I work in an office and I experienced some scenario that people create to make you leave or resign and I can't take it anymore.
I am wanting to work on the computer but my mother doesn't allowed. She said I have got well with my health and should start working. Actually I have been having depression since 10 years ago and now still not recover completely.
How should I do with my life all this time that I am going through without money and family? Mom threatened me that she will kicks me out of the house if I do not work. But I can't work in the office which she suggested. I feel very depressed in 3-4pm and she disagree of me finding freelance job.
I know I should do something about my self whether I should change my attitude but I really can't do what she expecting. I only can work on the computer and I enjoy every minute of it.
Or should I find my ex to support me???
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10 responses
@mindpiece (7)
•
8 Nov 10
Hello, i suggest you do the thing that you like even if your mother disagree,and that is the freelancing job.
At least you'll be working or you still feel like working. Office jobs are not for everyone.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Nov 10
i can understand how you feel... sometimes i am also frustrated when working... but i have to force myself to bear with it as i need the money to survive... right now, i am not working anymore as well as i had just been laid off work recently... but i need to find a job ASAP in order to live... i think you should start working with a part-time job with few hours for a start and slowly build up from there... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
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@ram_cv (16513)
• India
7 Nov 10
I think you should consult a psychiatrist regarding your depression and why you feel very depressed from 3-4. May be a professional view on this can help. All of us have to undergo office pressures from some time to other. At times it is really bad and at other times it is not so bad. But that is no reason to quit and start feeling depressed. At worst if you do not like the work environment at one place, go to another place and work there. I think your mom is right and you need to get back to work.
Cheers!
Ram
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Nov 10
Hi Wongchoiyee,
I really can't relate much to real depression although I do realize it is very painful. My moments of depression have always been something that I've (thankfully) been able to work myself out of and that is because I hate that horrible feeling so much that I just do whatever it takes to get out of it. Usually that means focusing on what is causing it and facing it head-on. That may mean doing things that are not at first real comfortable for me but in the end, I feel better. I have never left a job because of other co-workers bothering me because I need my job too much. I don't think looking up your ex to support you is a good plan at all. Why do you feel he should support you? No one owes us a living....even your mom. She raised you but you are an adult now. I think it is your responsibility to talk this over with a doctor who can maybe help you if you aren't able to pull yourself up.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
7 Nov 10
Only you can make these choices. But as long as you run away from facing your problems they will not go away. You can't hide in your computer. There are so many self help programs on the Internet, many are free why not see if you can find one that will fit you?
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
find things that you know that you will be happy. reasons for laziness at work is one of the effects of not being happy with a job. ;)
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
8 Nov 10
have you tried to see a psychiatrist for the past 10 years that you have been depressed? if you haven't, try seeing one. if your mother's wishes for you to find a regular office job is her way of telling you to combat your depression and socialize more, she may have a point. but if you're not going to be happy about it or it won't help your depression, don't force yourself. if working online seems a better option for you, then go for it. if your mother sees that you'll be more comfortable and happy while earning on it, then there's no reason for her to stop you. maybe working online will fix your depression since you said that you enjoy every minute being on the computer. i'm sorry but i don't see why you should depend on your ex for support when you know you have better options. be strong and know what you want and need. good luck!
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
7 Nov 10
I'm sorry to hear about your struggle lately. If you enjoy working from home, I suggest get into online tasks more seriously. There are a lot of people earning good money online. They usually write articles or join forum sites. You will be surprised, with your commitment, your earnings will grow day by day.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Nov 10
Do you think that if your mother was to see that you actually were able to make some money online that she might me more likely to find that it is acceptible that you are doing freelance work as opposed to working for someone else? I know that my mother was quite skeptical that I would be able to make money online when I started my journey to making a little bit of money of my own. However, now that she has seen that it is something that is possible, she isn't nearly as skeptical of it anymore.
@amyc21 (3)
• Australia
11 Nov 10
Hi there! I know exactly what you mean. I went through the same thing. I have 2 degrees, one in psychology and one in nursing. After I graduated from nursing I got a job at a children's hospital in theater which was my dream job. Everything was going well but somehow things happened; such as not being able to get along with some co-workers that made me resign. It was the dumbest thing I did because I couldn't believe I would sacrifice my dream job just because of petty things. Anyways I did recognized that I had a problem and I went to get some help. Trust me it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Sometimes it only takes you getting some help for you to realized that your whole life awaits. I can't even begin to describe what it has done to my life. I am now working in a different field of work but I am much happier. Finding the roots of my problems was the best thing I did for myself. You owe yourself that much.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 10
Hi amyc21,
I hope you will succeed in your current job. Keep in touch!
