Getting Married because the girl got pregnant

Well, it's not bad for pregnant before the wedding. The things is happen and not be change. if ever there is way to avoid being pregnant before the wedding much better. But as of these days there are many case like your case, my friend. But it's not a big deal for me. The deal is that the wedding will continue whatever happen...

I see nothing wrong with it at all. I don't think marriage and children are mutually exclusive. I don't think you have to be married before you have a child, I don't think you have to have children if you are married and I absolutely don't think that getting pregnant is a good reason to get married.

for me, my religion prohibits me to get pregnant before marriage and my parents also come from a traditional and conservative family... so i had been taught very strictly by my parents about this since i am a teenager... take care and have a nice day...

I'm not really into the idea of marrying because of pregnancy. Yes, the father of the baby has a responsibility to supply the needs of the child and the mother of his child but to some extent the responsibility is somehow exclusive (not too exclusive however) to the child not to the mother of the child. Love is the pre-requisite of marriage, what if the "couple" don't really love each other. If such is the case, it's just another "mistake."

my cousin just did that married a girl because she was pregnant good thing is that he was in love with her in the first place sad thing is if both parties are pressured to enter into marriage when this thing happens it usually ends up bad

i dont agree with people that marry just bcs girl is pregnant. mostly when there isnt love. should marry bcs love that person and want be together forever. not for other reasons. i wouldnt want a guy married me just bcs i was pregnant. i would feel that just bcs of the baby he wanted to marry me. marry should be only for eternal love and not bcs pregnancy^^ im happy that you and your bf really love each other and will marry bcs of that and not bcs you are pregnant^^ the best for you^^

Hi susanana, I rarely hear of someone getting married because the girl is pregnant anymore. Birth control is very common but those who do get pregnant often wait until after the baby is born as you are doing. I see nothing at all wrong with it, in fact what you are doing makes much more sense. Some never marry, just live together and raise their family and I see nothing wrong with that either. If two people are happy that way, it is really their own business and no one has any right to judge them. Blessings.

I think that a lot of people do have children out of wedlock and some don't even get married. I believe that a couple should not get married just because of the baby but should seriously think about their relationship and be ready to take care of the child. I think that if a couple are going to split up, they should do it before the baby is born. To make someone get married just because they are pregnant is wrong, and can cause more problems down the road. Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I hope you, baby and father are all doing well. Good Luck for the future! :D Welcome to Mylot!

Congratulations, you will soon be a mommy. Just keep it stress free and think about your health and the baby. Wedding preparations can give you stress and I think that you should just save more money now. You can make your wedding simple and private since you are already a mommy. I hope you two are already married in civil so that when the baby comes, the kid will be able to use the surname of the father without no problem. Happy Mylotting.

Many many years ago this would have been frowned upon but today my love you are no different from anyone else! As long as you and your fiance are happy and make wonderful parents as I am sure you will marriage will come although probably wont be as big a wedding as you were going to have before you got expectant as now with a baby money will be than little bit shorter. A Wedding dont forget is a wedding what happens after your wedding day is the marriage. I wish you all the most wonderful life together as I am sure it wll be.

I think that, if all you're doing is getting married because your girlfriend got pregnant, then you shouldn't get married at all. That is no real reason to get married to someone and that is just my opinion. Both would eventually resent each other because all they did was get married for the baby. The couple should get married because they love one another and if they happen to have a baby along the way then great still get married.

When we marry someone, it should be for the right reasons. we should marry because we love someone and want to build our future and share our lives with them. Just because a woman becomes pregnant should not be the soul reason for marriage. it would certainly be a consideration, but you should make it your only decision.

At least you have plans in getting married. But for me, as soon as you delivered the baby, get married right away. Some men are too scared of responsibilities, well, im not saying that your man is scared but its always better to make sure of what's in it for you.

I see nothing wrong in that.we must take precession in that if not then u have to marry that person other wise that girl will suffer.The boy should also under stand this thing in my view u should get Mary to that guy best of luck by d way i am 17 so i am not so much sure abut my decision but the truth is truth u got pregnant so u should mary to that guy only.

I think it is wrong if the only reason for getting married is because the girl is pregnant. If the couple really love each other and both are ready then that's the time to get married. I know it will be hard for the girl to be pregnant if she is not yet married because people will gossip or talk about her (especially in double standard society), but it will be harder to get married for that reason alone since marriage is not a game where you can just quit if it doesn't work well for you. In your case, I think everything is alright since you are already engaged which means that you do really love each other and you are looking forward growing old with each other. Congratulations to you susanana! I know how exciting pregnancy is since I'm pregnant myself :)

Perhaps I am a traditional person, I still like to do things by the normal steps. Such as dating at first, then falling in love and getting married, finally having baby. If I was pregnant before marriage, I would hold our wedding at first. After the child was born, the couples will be very busy and perhaps you will lose the passion and mood to hold a wedding. I love China

I don’t see a problem with your situation at all. If you were going to get married anyway it is only a matter of waiting that is all. These days a lot of couples have children and do not bother getting married. It is personal choice and in my view the most important thing is that the couple involved love each other and are ready for a life together which is why I am not so much in favour of people getting married only because a baby is on the way. I doubt that it will make the couple involved happy in the long run and that would not be positive for the child either.

It's true that marriage is not the solution to cover up the shame of being pregnant. But you're missing the point why GOD instituted marriage. It's not traditional nor being conservative. It's sacred before GOD and we have to abide by it. So sad that many think that marriage is just a piece of paper but they didn't realize it's a seal or covenant we made before the presence of GOD. I think, it would have been better if you push through to your first plan. Since you said you're already preparing for the wedding. Let's not seek the opinion of others and might as well attend marriage counseling.

i think that if you get someone pregnant it means you have to take care of the child. you might get married but i don't think its a must.

Howdy susanana! I believe theres nothing wrong with that. It's okay if you really love the person. Marriage is not a reason to have children and being pregnant is not a reason to get married. Its a matter of choice. Just do what you believe is right. Then you'll be in the right track.