Do you feel shocked that someone better than you feels envious of you?
@marapplestiffy (2182)
Philippines
December 11, 2010 9:29pm CST
Well, this is going on my mind right now, I have an acquaintance whom I think is so beautiful and financially stable (she can buy the latest gadgets and designer clothes and bags) but she recently told me she envies my life...
Normally I asked her why, she said that I have so much love in my life, mostly from both my mother and fiancée, for she's not close to her mother and she doesn't have a father and she couldn't find a serious man...
I felt sorry for her, and to think in high school I felt envious that she had material things
, I didn't know that she didn't felt love from her mother because I thought they were so close, they go shopping together and do girly stuffs together too...but I always shook off negative emotions from my system so I just felt happy for her...
I feel very thankful to God that even though I struggle in my finances I know I'm loved and I'm happy with my life...
Normally I asked her why, she said that I have so much love in my life, mostly from both my mother and fiancée, for she's not close to her mother and she doesn't have a father and she couldn't find a serious man...
I felt sorry for her, and to think in high school I felt envious that she had material things, I didn't know that she didn't felt love from her mother because I thought they were so close, they go shopping together and do girly stuffs together too...but I always shook off negative emotions from my system so I just felt happy for her...
I feel very thankful to God that even though I struggle in my finances I know I'm loved and I'm happy with my life...2 people like this
16 responses
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
12 Dec 10
Hi mar,
When you have love in your life and are happy the way you are, that is the best thing you could ask for in your life. You can have all the money in the world but if you do not have close people to share it with, then it doesn't feel good at all. Love is very important in life. You are lucky to have people who love you so much. I hope your finances improve in time.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Your wrong piante...I wouldn't have came across myLot if I wasn't searching for ways to have extra income and improve my finances!
I think you could say this either because you have love in your life and is not looking for it or you don't have it that's why your bitter...
@eurekafemme (5874)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
oh, you are indeed lucky and I envy you...
I haven't heard anyone said that to me. or maybe i don't brag about the things that I have or I don't think that i have something other people should be envy of...
It is the other way around because despite of the fact that I have a decent roof over my head, I can eat anything I want, dress up the way I want if i want to (thanks to hubby for that) , i'm not happy...
I am not free , I don't have a life of my own, and despite of doing my best for husband and kids ,he(husband) doesn't appreciate it...
Love is more important than anything else... in fact it is the more important thing above all things...
@eurekafemme (5874)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
He is aware of it but it is useless... Anyways, I do hope that you will continue enjoying such blessings, Marapplestiffy.:)
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
Why are you not happy? Have you talked to your husband about this?
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
Hi again my friend! Sometimes, that is the perimeter between the rich and the poor - happiness. A rich person may be filled with material things, but lacks love from their family. A poor man may have lack in material things, but filled with love and care from the family.
Your friend envies you because she is not filled with love. Material things is not an alternative or substitute of love and care.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
I know this and I'm thankful that I could say I have a bit material things I want and so much love from my family, I just thought that she and her mother was close and they love each other because it's what they show people, but I was shocked that she told me her mother doesn't love her but sees her as a doll...
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@celticeagle (171195)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Dec 10
Well, this would be a good wake up call on two different levels. THe first that I am really this naive or insecure to think that person is better than I am. This would give me pause to rethink how I evaluate people. It would also tell me that I needed to be more positive about how I look at myself in relation to other people.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
I felt that way, way back when we were in high school together, what can I say I was young and materialistic that time...1 person likes this
@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
hello marapplestiffy!
we can't have everything, as one saying goes. I don't really feel shock that someone who u think is better than you, actually feel envious of you. Yes, people could be wealthy, pretty and famous yet that does not mean they're automatically happy and contented with what they have. You see, people quest for that something which they don't have. Your friend may have all the material things she wants, but what she wants you got and what you want she got. Confusing? well, that's life and that's how people are. It's good that you realize that you're really lucky after all despite your financial struggles. You have what most people would die for..the real love and affection of a mother or parents and a partner who's devoted.
most of the time, simple things in life are what really makes us truly happy.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
"most of the time, simple things in life are what truly makes us happy."
you are right, I was just shocked because I thought that she had the same kind of love I get from my mother...it's sad that what it looked like is not really what transpires...
you are right, I was just shocked because I thought that she had the same kind of love I get from my mother...it's sad that what it looked like is not really what transpires...
@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
hi there marapplestiffy!It only proves that materials things cannot make you happy. There are many things in life which deserves your appreciation more than anything else. Your a lucky girl becoz your family and love ones are always there for you..Treasure them always and be reminded that not all people were lucky as you are..
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
13 Dec 10
I do treasure them and I would never trade them for anything in this world...
@chiyosan (30181)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
I think i would be happy, and i would feel that i am a bit surprised as well. of course that is like what we all would feel when someone thinks we are good, or when we does something great at work, or with friends.. i think i would not even know if someone is envious of me, would I...
Besides i gave up years ago thinking about competing with anyone. I know I am good and I do not think i need to measure up with anybody. I do not compare my self with anyone, because that would be an insult to myself because I know I am good, and that I don't want to think that others are better than me in many ways - i do not want to give in to the negative idea like that.
@jwfarrimond (4473)
•
12 Dec 10
It just goes to show that money can't make you happy. Perhaps she can find someone with whom she can be happy with. Maybe her problem is that she's attracting the wrong sort of man. Some men are only interested in a beautiful woman because it bolsters their ego and self image to be seen out and about with a beautiful woman. Then too if they know that she has money then that is an additional attraction
Maybe she should pretend to be poor then she might attract a man who is interested in her for herself rather than for her money or for what she can do for them.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I would be truly shocked if someone was envious of me. I have my kids (whom I barely get to see-my older ones) and I never see my brother or his family, so not feeling much love there. I have no job...thus the reason for being on mylot, and I live with 68 year old Mother...so yeah, I would be shocked.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
12 Dec 10
Absolutely all women and men would love to have financial stability and a great many materialistic things, however they will never be able to purchase and or replace the wonderful fulfillment of being loved in life.
I too am one who has a great love in my life a man who cares deeply and is so respectful. In all honesty I would not trade that simply because another man has more.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
12 Dec 10
very shocked, now someone better than me i don't believe in that
i'm better than this person in something, and this person is better than me in something, never better like really better and i'm worst
as everyone has a good and bad part, everyone is better and worse in one thing or another
i really feel surprised when someone envious me cause i can see her good parts, shame that she doesn't, but jealousy come from people that have low self confidence i think
@camposkat (306)
•
12 Dec 10
I do get surprised when people whom I think are well-off or way better in life (financially) than me say that they think I'm to be jealous for. I mean I'm not perfect, my family isn't perfect nor is my life perfect but come to think of it, I am quite happy and contented with what I have. I think that's the thing. When people see that you are happy, you enjoy the company of the people around you whether you have a lot of money or none, that makes a lot of difference. It means you embrace whatever you have. You love your life. You are content. People who are unsatisfied with what they have tend to be jealous of others or live a sad life. Good for you and I'm happy for you that you are happy and contented with your life. 
@aodoerfer (113)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I think when you're viewing people from the outside, it's easier for them to appear happier then they are. I don't talk to most people about my feelings, so I'm sure I might seem a lot more together to them than I actually feel. Even though it can be hard, I think it's definitely better to focus on attainable goals in your own life rather than thinking about the things that others have.
@mikhaaail (62)
• Philippines
12 Dec 10
i would be shocked also if i were on shoes.but i think being envy is part of being human,i think every human experienced it.there's a positive of being envious,some get motivated if they are envious and become more successful.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
12 Dec 10
Well people have everything in the world sometimes and still feel unhappy. I think they might feel some jealously for the people who don't have as much, yet live some productive lives, while their existence is static and meaningful. Humans are a curious thing but really in the end, the journey to success is much more fulfilling than actually obtaining success itself. When we're there, what's left and thus we see that people who don't have it as well living fulfilled lives. It can lead to some jealousy to say the least.
