ingratitude

hi figurative me I dont think I have ever been in quite that situation but it is very sad when people who should care for us are just using us to get something when the time comes.I worked for years out of a nurses's registry and was sent to special this really sweet lady who was dying in spite of all the chemo she had. once her family got word that she could die any time they of them with the family lawyer just camped outside her room on borrowed chairs like ghouls. they had the never to come into the room and ask their dying mother a nd aunt what she had left to them.Her doctor came in and made them not come into her room. I had to keep telling them she was unconscious and could not talk to them so leave her alone. One of the nurses along with two burly orderly came over to them and told them to go home as she might linger for several days. they were going to stay and the two orderlies escorted them out of the hall ,down stairs and out to their cars. I had never forgotten that. such greed. none were seemingly sad at all just greedy.

I feel that way a lot of the time. When people give me gifts, I'm not sure if they are doing it because they care about me or because they are trying to claim something. It does make me uncomfortable when I receive gifts for that reason.

that's sad. gifts are gifts and should never be mistaken as bribes or a sort of blackmail. what makes it worst is she's a relative and (correct me if i'm wrong, figurativeme) she had an underlying motive all the while she was giving you gifts. if it was me, i'd definitely feel very bad and emotionally manipulated about the whole thing. i hope your aunt has a change of heart and respects your rights to your family inheritance. my personal experience has a different twist to it, but it also involved relatives and family inheritance. it somehow resulted in the same thing as your not talking to your aunt for years. someone close to me also had a similar experience, but in her case she had to bow down to her relatives' wishes since all odds were stacked against her. hopefully in your case, though, everything will turn out well. good luck!

how horrible! i really can't understand why to give gifts if someone is going to fight for bigger things, what a small person so sorry for you i have tons of relatives like this

I'm so sorry something like that happens to families just because of material wealth, anyway I hope you told them straight at their faces when they were accounting (during the partition of properties)that those were gifts! And a gift is a gift. Anyway if you were not able to fix the issue between yourselves and it reached a point where both parties would file a law suite, those gifts would have no bearing nor will it hold water in a court of law. Glad to say I have not experienced anything like that yet

That was so low! something like this did happen to me, well, I'm not sure if you responded to the post I made about my aunt wanting to control my choices in my marriage partner, but that aunt was a very doting aunt when I was just a child, and she gave me jewelries and money while I was growing up, then when I started dating she acts as if it's her choice who I date because I she gives me material things...tsk, tsk, tsk... I didn't get burned though for I have other people who are genuinely generous to me because they love me...