once enemy now trying to be my friend.what should i do?
By Anirban
@anitoton (389)
Kolkata, India
December 25, 2010 8:55am CST
hello friends..merry christmass to all.
okay i am here to share one of my childhood experiences which i can never forget.
that accident or intentionally made incident was occured when i was on 5th standard.as usual to the other days i wen school on thursday.there was a physical education class by mr. X (i shouldnt have said mr. for him).he used beat the students very badly.i was the monitor and prefect of the scool.when used to beat someone only for unable to some pity move or yoga,he used to beat them.if someones said that he is having a back pain he used to get a guardian call.and on that the mr. X came to class.and said to do a yoga.one fat boy cant to that.then he started beating him on his leg.i protested.it was my duty.i used to protest against him everyday.so he was really really pissed off with me.but never got a reason for guardian call.and all the students loved me.so the teacher cant complain against me for my inability to manage the class.and i can do the pity and yoga very well.
now on that i really got angry ad said that i will complain to head.he stopped for then.i never he was finding an oportunity to take the revenge.on the next class,he dint beat anyone.now he was giving us marks.all of us went near to his table.and i saw his watch on the table.it was a nice one like father,spring operated not battery operated.i really loved to charge the spring.so was really wondering or trying to guess how many times before the spring has been charged,that time suddenly i felt a pain on my shoulder and look back and one huge slap came down on me.and i was beaten badly and he called my guardian and complain our head that i was trying to steal his watch.i said i have my own watch i dont need his watch.and then again he said "who know may be he is addicted to drug,so trying to steal that watch".my guardian came and supported me till to the end.and our principal knew me very much.and he dint say anything to me.
after that he beaten one another boy and i dint protest.
but this time guardian protested and wanted the resignation of the teacher.and he was forced to give resignation.
and now after so much yesterday i saw my new neighbour is him.they arrived two days ago.he didnt made any mistake to recognize me neither did i.today he came to my home and said you are my best student and bla bla.the main point was that he wants my help for checking up his electrical wiring in the room.
so i ask for suggestion what should i do??help him or not.because i dont want to mislead to anything wrong.thats not my nature..
thanks in advance...
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10 responses
@nestle11 (85)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
Hi my friend.
If I would be on your situation, I think I shall forgive him and forget the past. I know it's very hard because he was a different kind of teacher, one who was not deserving to be one.
Let him have the chance to prove himself. If you don't like his attitude still, then just don't mind him.
I hope I helped you.
@anitoton (389)
• Kolkata, India
27 Dec 10
but what if again he abuses me??
i can give you the reason.
lets say i helped him but he himself my mistake creates any fault then i think he will balme me, and i have to pay that.or even power distribution company may give me a fine slip.what then??
@marguicha (222855)
• Chile
25 Dec 10
I would say I´m busy, sorry. Another time. Very polite, but NO! I would not like to be near those kind of people. He did not have to tell you you were his best student. Fortunatly you don´t see those human beings often. But keep away from him as he is an abuser.
TAKE CARE!!!
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
Enemity comes for various reasons.From what you have written I gather that he was your physical instructor and no fault of yours he bet you.That is wrong I agree. Now he has become your neighbour.He is not your enemy in the real sense of the word.But ill feelings were creted between you both and such things happen many times for many.I am not here to support him.When he is your neighbour it is not advisable to prolong ill feelings and at at the same time I don't want you to become close friends also.After all he wanted a small help and if you can do it. There is a famous saying.."if you don't forgive you will never grow".All the best.
@anitoton (389)
• Kolkata, India
27 Dec 10
but a nature of a person can be known very well from his behaviour.so who beats some child so badly i dont think he is a good man.so i dont think i should design his wiring system because if he creates a fault and blame about that what am i gonna do then.i am pro at designing,i design wiring system for industries so i dont think i can make any fault with that system.
@calpro (930)
• India
26 Dec 10
Hi,
It depends on how you take him, it should be purely your own decision to accept him as your friend or not. Why because you know him very well than anybody, for me I see him as an instructor or teacher who is too stern towards his students and nothing more than that.
If your heart is ready to forgive him for his actions you can accept him as your friend otherwise just treat him like a neighbor and that should be fine. why do you need to make him or treat him as your enemy. My dear keep one thing in your mind always you can have as many friends as you can in life but even a single enemy can make your life miserable when you are in down time.
So think twice before taking a decision.
Happy Living
Calpro
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
26 Dec 10
You can forgive but it is not possible to forget.The moral appears to be to forgive and not to take vengence..
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 Dec 10
i don't know about you... but for me, i don't like to make enemy and prefer to make friends with everybody if i can... life is hard enough already without having to add another burden in my heart... also, when you are able to forgive someone for his/her past mistakes to you, you show that person that you are a bigger and better person... and also, you have a big heart... it is entirely up to you... the decision is yours... take care and have a nice day...
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
26 Dec 10
If you feel that you don't want to help him then not. Maybe he has changed his ways now or maybe not but if you still can't get over what happened before then you should not force yourself to be friendly to him. You can be casual to him to avoid any conflicts.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
25 Dec 10
if you can do the job, then just give him that favor. if you think he's sincere about being friends with you, then be open about it. just give him a chance. anyway, in time you'll know when he's just bluffing or not. you'll never know his real intentions if you don't let him prove it. you will know in time because you are neighbors now. good luck!