to leave or being left?

hello asliah! understandably, it is more painful to be left than leaving someone you love behind. What's more hurting when someone leaves you is when you least expect it or not expecting it at all. On the other hand, leaving someone you love behind can be the most difficult decision one has to make.But i guess, in many cases, when a person is ready to leave, it means that he/she has no more feelings anymore for the one left behind. It is a rare case where a person will leave someone he truly love for some reason that only he could understand and fathom, like when, it would be for the good or welfare of the one left behind if he will leave her. The song entitled "i love you goodbye" would most probably fit this scenario but that's a rare case. What's most likely is the person leaving has no more feelings or is wanting out of the relationship or had found someone new. whatever's the reason, it hurts, definitely.

Hello asliah, I think the two are different in the sense that to leave someone means you are in your final decision which could be with a relieve,happy or sad emotion underneath your heart while being left means one receives the impact frozen and halted with sad emotions. Experienced heart is harden in time but soften when the right one comes. Merry Christmas! May the birth of Jesus struck our heart of his undying love to save us from our sin.

for me, it's the same thing depending on how much I feel for the person if it's deep, then leaving him or being left by him would create a deep pain, as deep as my feelings for him this is why some things I can get over them easy and some take me time to do so

Yes it does. In my case, even though I decided to end it all up between us because I find him not liking me anymore, I felt like being left out since on the first place, he is the one who leave and forget all our things together.

Good Day! I'll choose to be left because at least in my part, I didn't do anything wrong. Another thing, at least in the end I wouldn't have a decision that I would regret. Its better that it would be him regretting he'd let me go.

Hi asliah, It is really sad to know that you were left behind by someone. When you got hurt emotionally it pains a lot I understand that. But the question is how fast you are able to come out of the pain, that is more important in life. Christmas comes once a year and a very precious day to celebrate and thank God for giving us everything we need, so on this day leave everything to God including your pain. He is there to take care of us and heal us, always think if you lose something something better is going to come into your life. God has a better gift for you, Cheer up and have fun. I take anything like this when I lose something, and it works. Merry Xmas Happy Living Calpro

I hva always thought it was more crushing to be the one who is hurt. When you break someone's heart, you are the one in conrol. When you are the one to be hurt, that control is then taken away from you. i would think this would be more painful to endure.

I have never left anyone before so i can only say that being left is the most painful. Seeing someone go really hurts. Especially when that someone is really very special to you. I was in so much pain when my bf left me to go to somewhere for work. Sad think is i can't even cry because i need to let him see im fine when he go. I felt so much pain when i arrived home.

Hi there asliah!!I am really sorry about your love life.But you know life must go on.And about your question I think I'd rather be left by that someone I love rather than me leaving the one I love.I think its better if I will be the to be left coz in that way I will not hurt anybody but myself.I'd rather be the one hurt rather me hurting the one I love becoz I will leave them.I've never experienced love before and even now,but I guess if ever I will come across a situation like yours then I will be willing to be hurt this way...

yes, it's true. Our hearts will indeed be hurt if the stay by the people we care about and that it was not possible to get rid / treated in a short time. because the residence by a person is indeed hard to forget. and it takes time.

it hurt both,,but i prefer to be left 'cause cant stand leaving someone,, when my boyfriend and i decided to quit, i told him just to break up with me and leave me instead of me leaving him,, but he won't,he just said to leave him, but it hurts more to leave him knowing that he still loves me and that it's hurting him more,, so i decided no one will quit cause leaving hurts more than being left,,

for me, i think its more hurt and pain when someone left me, especially if this someone is the one you really love, more pain than leaving.

For me, it is to be left by someone. Commonly, you leave someone because your feeling for him/her faded away already. So for the one who leaves, it's not that hurting. But for the one who was left, it is very hurting because the feeling is there still. Good luck to you

I think it hurts more being left. Because if you leave someone, even if it hurts, it's your own choice. Maybe you are tired of that person or you just don't love them anymore. But if you are being left, then perhaps you still love the person leaving you, and you can't do anything about it. That's one of the most heartbreaking things you can experience.

of course it is more hurting to be left rather than leaving someone... it is because if you left someone, you choose to do it... so you won't feel that hurt... but if you are left by someone, you feel like you are being abandoned and that person doesn't want you anymore... and that feels more hurt... take care and have a nice day...

Its really hurting to know that someone has ditched us inspite we loving them totally. Thats something which hurts every individual badly. Someone leaving us really hurts us badly.

Both of them are hurting us and we all know that when we are left by someone much painful to have. When we are left by our love one this is much painful to us not only because we are left by our love but also it touches our ego or pride. I prefer to leave but not being left. I cant rest well if i was left.

For sure I believe being left by someone is so much harder to deal with. Usually if you leave someone you will feel better because there was a good enough reason why it wasn't going to work out. Now the person who leaves someone that person is usually still inlove with them and it hurts and hurts really bad. So definitely the one who has been left behind is worse.

i think being left, i'm so, so sorry. right around christmas that wasn't very nice, better to wait a while try to see what happened and what you can learn from it and move on, you deserve way better than that, and the someone who left you doesn't deserve you

i think its better to leave than to be left. i think it hurts more if someone leaves and gives up on you though sometimes it also hurts to leave a person esp. if you love that someone.