Husband or wife cheated! Is it the end?

Some people can work things out and trust again after being cheated on but I know I could never. I have never been cheated on (that I know of anyway) but if I caught my husband cheating on me I would never ever forgive him. For me it is the worst thing you could do to your partner. I understand that some couples get over it but I just think that almost every person that cheats will do it again at some point, so for me it would be the end.

So far the responses have focused on the issue of "second chances" and "forgiveness." It is difficult to predict how anyone will respond in a situation like this. Obviously, forgiveness is a key issue to move forward but forgiveness should not be given easily nor should it be taken for granted. I am called to forgive but the act of forgiveness is a difficult process. What no one has suggested is the importance of determining why a spouse/partner would cheat in the first place. Is he/she unhappy, unstable? What has the other spouse done to contribute to the issue? Obviously, most people don't just go out and cheat, there are reasons precipitating their actions. Before a genuine decision can be made about the future, both parties need to take a hard look at themselves and how they got themselves into this mess in the first place. Any other course of action is a rash decision and nearly as bad as the cheating in the first place.

Cheating is a hardship on any relationship. when you are married, it is a definite strsin on the commitment you have with each other. Cheating does not have to be the end for you. You have to decide how much you really want that you have together and and what you are willing to risk and sacrifice for it.

Well,good question.if it were me ,I will not forgive the other half of my deception.

I have never been cheated on by my husband or my former boyfriends at that. That's why I always have this principle that if my husband ever cheats on me, there will be no second chance at all. I would immediately pack his bags (not mine of course lol) and tell him never to come home again. My husband knows that this is what i believe in and i'm not making this just as a principle but i will really do this just in case.

for the sake of our child, I will be willing to give 1 more chance if my wife cheated on me. But, I can say thatit will be hard for me to fully trust her anymore.

it really depends on how bad the situation is... if it can still be salvage, of course i will try my very best not to go through the divorce option as it is against my religion as well... but if it is really bad and it can't be saved anymore, then there is no other option... anyway, i always like preventive measures... so i will always try to remedy the situation before it gets worst... take care and have a nice day...

It would be the end of the relationship for me. I have been cheated on before and it just totally ruined any trust I had for the person. Plus it grossed me out thinking he had been with another woman sexually just made me want to barf.

For me many case it is because they are both love to each in there love one.

i think when this happens, emotions are running high and suspicion is the order of the day. Cheating definitely is not looked upon favourably and a number of things/persons are at stake. I feel it depends on how well one knows one's partner and whether it is truly a character flaw. And the likelihood if the cheating one is remorseful and repentant makes a huge difference as to whether one wishes to continue or end the relationship. It is not easy and often time and space are needed in such situations before re-visiting the issue. I suppose one won't even try if one knows that the cheating one is not even remorseful and/or repentant!!

Like you, i have never experienced being cheated on. Or at least not to my knowledge. But no, I would never consider reconciliation after i learn my partner cheated on me. Many people have principles they stick to in life that supercede feelings of the heart. Husband or wife cheated! It is the end.

For me, it generally depends. If your partner has been cheating on you for quite a number of times already, then it is just rightful to end that relationship. Your lover is not giving your relationship great importance anymore. Furthermore, respect for you as a person is diminished with the frequency of his or her cheating tactics. However, if this has happened for the first time and if your partner assures you that he or she will change, then give your lover a chance. Emphasize to him or her that your partner must not take for granted the chance you have given.

For me it is going to be the end if my current boyfriend cheats on me. Why should I stay in the relationship if in the first place he can cheat on me and break my trust? I had a boyfriend long ago who impregnated someone. He told me the bad news when he was about to be married. Imagine the shock I felt then. I spent an entire morning going to the bathroom to vomit. After a few months he asked to see me again. He told me that the baby was aborted and the wedding is off. He asked me back. I told him that I would never get back to him ever in my life even if I love him so much.

greetings! there are a lot of factors to consider like the length of your relationship, status (just dating or already married), with kids or without, in a foreign place or near your family, etc. for me, anything is possible as long both parties are willing to work it out. it might take some time to earn the trust again, but it can happen.

Until someone has been in this situation they can't really know how they would react. I have been cheated on before and I have made the choice to try to forgive. It wasn't an easy choice but it was done for unselfish reasons. Cheating doesn't always mean the relationship is over but it does mean there are serious problems that MUST be addressed. Whether you should try or not has to be determined by both people in the relationship and BOTH MUST be willing to put forth the effort that it takes to make it work. Relationships take work to be successful. Good relationships don't just HAPPEN. They are formed and molded by those involved.

Everyone would handle the situation differently. I think for most people though it would be the end of the relationship. I don't know how anyone could stay with someone that cheated on them. There would always be a major trust issue after that.

I too did not have this kind of issue in my marriage but I did have friend who divorce due to her husband looking for another woman when she is pregnant. When she found out, she immediately file a divorce letter to her husband. So, I think if either on is cheating, it will definitely affect the marriage and it might be the end.