meaning of love....when you are heart broken?

@asliah (11137)
Philippines
January 21, 2011 10:58am CST
can you still know the meaning of love if you are heart broken? how will you now define the meaning of it if you are heart broken? when i was heart broken, i dont even know the meaning of love, and never wanted to believe at love again, love is only a game,thats what i thinking of during that time, that love could only hurt me,make me happy in the first but more sadness at the end.. i couldn't even define what is love during that time. and all i know is i hate love....
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
I think i won't be able to define what love is when im hurt. I don't know if i can ever think of love when im in pain. When we fall in love we just be ready love and and get hurt. I believe it's part of life. We can't experience all happiness for we won't be learning by that, we have to feel hurt at time to grow and learn.
@piya84 (2580)
• India
22 Jan 11
ohh dear.I can understand why you are talking like this.I hope you will be recover soon and meet someone nice once again.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
hello asliah, Once you have loved,you must be prepared to get hurt too. yes,once we loved and get hurt,it's really hard to moved one and believe that there is still love. It's not love that hurt us,it's the person that we loved. Love is always there,love us sweet,it becomes sour and painful when the person we loved hurt us. And only LOVE can heal the wound of a broken heart. have a great weekend
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
For me not all you have it is heart ache and pain and love it vain.
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
Yes i still know the meaning of love when i am heartbroken. And it is when I define it as a something wonderful but deadly.Good, yet bad. Joy , but an unbearable pain. A combination of extremes of emotions. I guess my definition differs with how i am feeling, whether i am floating on air because of too much happiness or i am when i hit rock bottom not knowing where to go. I always say, like you, "I will never fall in love again". And I never learned my lessons. I always end up falling in love again. Oh well...what can i do? (^_^)
@fizzer (73)
• Pakistan
22 Jan 11
i dont think theer is any defination of love,love i s nothing near me i think you are just wasting you time,if you are thinking that you are in love and blah blah.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
I am single and heart broken for more than a month now. Of course, the pain and hurt is there, but that does not mean I don't no longer know how and what love is. Love is not just me and that significant other. Love can still be felt and shared with others like family and friends. I think, love has lost its definition only when you set yourself that your special love was gone. But that's not just what love is. There are other people who loves us that we ignore when our attention is focused on only one. There are people who loves us which we never know because of that preoccupation in our mind. When you are heartbroken, think of the brighter side and those who are surrounding you. Those are the people who will never lost their love what ever happens. When I broke up with my live-in partner last December, it was too hurting that I am such a lost. But there are too many who extended their hands and found reasons to be happy and enjoy the life. It is not that easy to forget someone you love, but as long as you do not nurture the hurt, then it will be brighter the moving on process. Pick up the pieces little by little and open your heart. It does not mean that you are not loved when you are single.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
I agree to you that after we got heart broken we don't know the meaning of love. Now that we are inlove all the good and sweet words we can say. Love is something that makes our heart pounds whenever we see the love of our life. But if we are heart broken we cannot defined what is the meaning of this word. We all think that the word love is irritating into our ears. I really don't like to hear the work love it makes me feel bad. I got hurt when there is some body who hold my heart and tell that he loves me all his life and he will not leave me. The promise that is always tells us and we are happy believing how nice to hear. But after those sweet moments it disappear like a bubbles pop up the wind. Feeling like we are played by them. It really hurts. I don't know now what is love. I feel heart broken now.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
21 Jan 11
Hey, you described my heart at the moment. I hate love, and I don't trust it again. Well, at the deepest of my conscious, I wish that I will find another love of my life. I don't want to be lonely, and I want to be loved again. I just haven't found the one yet.
• Bangladesh
22 Jan 11
I can understand why you hate love...I saw lots of people just think like you do. but I think quite differently. I like to think everything positively....initially it gets too hard to be positive but when time goes by I can heal myself with it. May be it's a god gifted quality. There is a saying in my country.."if you love someone, don't try to get him/her..otherwise he/she will hurt you. Find someone who loves you, then you'll be happy."... To me our life is like a coin,love is in one side of the coin, the another side is full of pain. There is someone who is always playing with us, tossing us, flying in the air then grabbing it into his palm...and when he open his palm....sometimes there is the side of love...when we find love..affection, person of our life...but sometimes it comes the other side...shows us the face of sorrow, pain , regret, bad luck...makes our life like hell...we start to hate our life...and gradually we lost the trust on love...we think there is no love ....but it's still there my dear!!...just be patience...I hope someday..love will also come to the light..don't hate it... we can't see sun at night but it's still there, we just can't see it because we have limitation, we are planned like this..the whole universe is running according to this plan...So don't lost your faith...you can't see love, it doesn't mean there is no love, believe in it, hope for a new day, the light will come with full of love...may be its not the time ... your time will also come sweetie !!..
• Philippines
22 Jan 11
Love is hard to explain. There are different definitions of love dependinng who is experiencing it or how it is experienced. I had four relatioships, three were only for a short period of time and I was the one left behind. During those days, I even asked myself what's the problem with me? I know I was able to give an unconditional and pure love for them. But my fourth relationship became my last, my relationship with him was for almost six years and we got married. In my opinion, being broken hearted is an experience where we can learn a lot and apply it to our next relationship. It's not the end, and it's a great feeling to be in love.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
it's really hard to understand the meaning of love when you're hurt,that you wouldn't want to believe in it anymore.i tell you,when i gave myself a 2nd chance to love again it was wonderful. though i'm single again i'm still thankful he came to my life.i've learned a lot about life.i hope you will still see the bright side of LOVE in due time.and pray about your broken heart sweetie so that it'll mend faster.
@jasper40t (468)
21 Jan 11
I agree with you, but if you dont know Love, how can you Feel it. I mean is it better to have loved then lost it, or never finding love at all. Myself, I believe you give it your Best and if you get Hurt or let down, then you can Learn from it. We have to work hard at Love, not just take the Good bits and run away with them.I guess you give a little and work from there. People who wear their hearts on their sleaves always get Hurt the most. People who dont, usually end up doing the hurting. Just because you have expeirenced it, doesnt mean you shouldnt give sum1 else the chance. You deserve Better that i am sure, but one step at a time.......
• New Zealand
21 Jan 11
Love can make you happy on the other hand love can hurt you too. Things do not always go the way we want. When we are hurt, we are upset and down but hey think about the bright side. we definitely learn something from failure that is the way we get grow up and be more strong and caring person.