Who can tell me what I should do?

I think you can consider about have a baby with your love. Because old people always get soft when they see the babies. Especially the baby is running their own blood. I have seen some parents accepted the marriage they resisted for a long time just because the new born baby. Of course, get your parents pleased before your marriage still should be the best choice.

It is interesting to note that you have been with him for 8 years and your parents still won't accept him? Have you asked them why? If it is because he is poor,have you asked him to upgrade himself or share his plans with your parents? Maybe he has good plans to make his farm wealthy enough to support both of you + both of them? Talk to your parents why they are so against. It shows your parents worry about your future with him. You need to convince them both of you can be happy in whatever situation. Parents don't want to see their children suffer. At least most parents I know. I suggest you don't do rash things like having a baby. It may make matters worse.

i'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through... but at the same time, i am also wondering are your parents only object to your relationship recently or it had been for quite some times... because you say you had been in love with him for 8 years and 8 years is quite a long time already for a relationship... if they had already objected to it since a long time ago, then i am wondering why you still holding on to the relationship until now??? just wondering... anyway, all the best for you... take care and have a nice day...

Well, there are lots of lovers in your situation. And you know what, most time, the family turned to be right. Just remember, your family are the person who love you most. The first thing they are considering is:can this guy provide comfortable life for their daughter. Because they can give their daughter on whom they have poured so much love and energy for so many years to a guy they think not worthy her love. Of course, there are lots of stories about a girl love a boy too much, and she believe his ability, so she choose him in spite of he is poor right now. Then time proves her choice is right, and the man succeed at last, of course, her family accept him as last. So my advice is, since you have been with him for 8 years. Ask yourself, why you love him so much? Do you think he can succeed and provide you a comfortable life? If you trust his ability, tell your family. And give them time to know him. Or you just like him, nothing to do with his ability. And you are not sure about he can succeed or not in the future. Then tell your family, you are ready to live a not rich life with him. But please do take your family's advice seriously. Anyway, they got much more social experiences.

First of all, I responded here not because I am gonna tell you what you should do but I would just want to give you an advice. They say that love conquers all and that love is everything. I just think that your parent wants what's best for you but the question is are you gonna be happy with the choice that they make for you? You just have to weigh things, they don't like the guy because he is poor and you are not a match,well yes I guess they are right, if you are still young, then you still have a good life ahead of you, but if you think you are old enough to decide for yourself then better think if you can defend your boyfriend with your parents,and also your boyfriend should prove himself to them, what really matters to your parents is that they don't want to see you having a hard life when you marry that guy.So i think it would be best if he can prove himself to your parents and well, Good luck to you and your bf, I just hope that everything's gonna go your way.

It should be the responsibility of every child to do whatsoever told by the parents. We have been told by the family and one should do whatsoever told by the parents.Sometimes our mind diverts to somewhere different from whatever expected by the parents.

Let me tell you a little secret about women. Men are very protective about their women especially daughters. When my sister found a boyfriend, nobody liked him. In fact, it doesn't matter who the boyfriend ever was, nobody liked him. The truth is all those men were just being protective. So what happens. Hang onto your boyfriend. Do not avoid the family just the opposite. The more interaction your boyfriend has with them; the quicker they will get to know the real guy. They will get to like him or at least accept him. Relax,don't worry. You won't loose anyone. It's clear they all love you very much. Yes, I have seen this very thing too many times. Don't let it upset you. Be loving and kind to them all. Regardless, it's your life to live. Listen to the advice of others but walk your own path. Things will settle down in time.

You have to do what makes you happy. If your boyfriend is what makes you happy,then that is the person you should be with. Your family will just have to accept that or not have the same relationship with you. You can't live your life for someone else.

Your family loves you a lot. That's why they are doing like this. I think you should talk with your parents about this matter. When they will be so happy for something then talk about this matter not when they will be disturbed or anger. And if possible talk one by one. Means at first the person who loves you a lot. I am sure they will agree as they loves you lot.

It is a natural response for our parents to feel like they know what is best for us as they take into account that they have lived a life and only perceive what they feel is best for us. I would say time, will allow the to see that this is who you love and will be happy with, but 8 years is a long time. So my friend the only thing you can do is follow your heart. However, you and your boyfriend will sort of be on a continual trial in the eyes of your parents in proving that you do belong together. On another note, 8 years, and if there are not other valid reasons why you too should be together and you truly love this person, then you have to make a decision as to whether you will love above all and be with your boyfriend. This of course will disrupt your family relationship but maybe with time after they see you together they may come around. Sorry you are gong through this as you are sort of stuck in between a hard rock and wall. Please evaluate the reasons why parents feel strong about you not being with your boyfriend and figure out if in fact you are deeply in love. Be well and welcome to myLot.

hi angela, i can relate your case. you know parent's wants are just for the good sake of their children but i'm not saying parents are correct all the time. my advice to you is like this: you should do things in balance to all situations and circumstances. you must decide wisely not heart over mind. its natural reaction of the parents to know the guy which they think he is not fit for you. so, you must prove something that they are slightly wrong for being so judgement, be open minded in both sides between your parents and boyfriend so that there will be no regrets and at the same time otherwise you will be blame by your parents for having wrong decisions. i still believe that parents knows best for their children