I want to move on!

Deception is extremely hard to understand and even more to ever accept. If you are feeling so badly about the relation just imagine if yoou were to spend your whole life in this situatiuon. It is better to do your utmost to stop it right now before it gets worse. Just think that you deserve better and there is someone else in this world whjo is more worthwhile. It is very hard but not impossible - just remember that.

Hi, I can fully understand your feeling,giving up 3 years relationship is not an easy task for you. But one thing for sure,your life still need to go on and always look forward to your future. Whatever has happened in the past, it has been over and start your new life now with a new smiles in face. Although it is not easy to forget these relationship,but as time pastby slowly you will get used to your new life and get it over from your life. You can always plan to have short holiday trip to get yourself a fresh air,invite your friends or family members to join you for the trip. Or doing some shopping is also one way to get our from stress and forget the unhappiness thing happened in life. YOu got to move on...never give up and be strong!

From what you say here, there were signs along the way, but you didn't want to see them or gave some excuse to what was happening at the time. I went through a similar situation, we had looked at houses for a year......but then I got an email (we were living in the same house) that said when he moved he was moving alone. I didn't even respond, I starting packing the next day. One of the things that might help, is get a new hobby, do things that are different from what you did together. And the number one, might sound harsh and don't mean it that way..........stop thinking of him 24/7, and feeling sorry for yourself. He obviously wasn't all that! if there are deceptions, lies, and feeling of being treated badly. Good luck, and remember, life is way too short to be miserable all the time.

maybe the first thing to do in moving on is to live like you used to be.. moving on is really difficult to do especially that you have been together for three years time.. if you continue to think about him you cannot move on on the state.. you have to be strong.. i think the best thing to do is to go on with your life and let him see that you can live without him. you can be happy without him. let just time heal the wounds.. love is always in our hearts that it cannot be taken away.. it does not vanished.. this love that you feel right now maybe different in the future.. and this love can be suppressed.. just let it be... you will forget about it and by the time you are ready to fall in love again, you are better... this incident will serve as a lesson to you and this could make you even more stronger.. stay strong.. tell yourself not to cry.. and enjoy every single day you spent in this world.. after all, your mission in this world is not about him.. so don't be pity of yourself...stand up, shine and show to him that he is really not deserving for you and he does not deserve you... ^_^

Oh yes it is so hard. It's like we would give everything to have a button that we can just press and make it go away, but this button it's called time. Our feelings when not returned have an expiretion date, only time can make it really let go. When I was hanged up for 6 years with almost same thoughts coming back for like 3 to 3 days, and it was a torture, I didn't know what to do. I tried to go back, did everything I could. Maybe that's what you should do. After doing all your resources, if you really tried one day you wake up and HE IS GONE, I promise! Now I think: what did I see in him??? But only went away after a lot of fight, I realize it wasn't going to disappear so I went after and done everything I could.

If you are so emotionally stressed out over the situation, then you should consider giving this relationship a break. If he truly loves you, It will work out.It makes no sense you are continuing a relationship that keep on hurting you, and stressing you out.

You have made the first move. Admitting that you want to move on and admitting that he has done wrong to you. Also that you do love him so much and that he has hurt you. The rest will come in time. It is all new to you right now. You can not expect it to all stop right now just like snapping your fingers. Hun you were with him for over 3 years. So it will take a little time to get over what he has done to you and the feelings you have and have had for him. He has not had the same feeling for you that you have had for him or he could not have done you this way. May I suggest that you do not get into another relationship for a long time now. Because if you do it will be with you on the rebound from this relationship and those kind just do not work out. You need some "you time". Time for you to find you again. Time to get your feelings back. Time to find what you want to do. Time for you to know what you want again. Time to get your life in some kind of order for "you" not for anyone else but you. Once you start putting It takes two to make a relationship work and he is not willing to make it work so for you to be willing to move on is the best thing for you. Waiting on him to come back is not a good thing for you. Also if you truly want him to come back showing him that you have better things to do than to sit around waiting on "him" may work in your favor. You need to get your life in order and move on. Do things that will make your life better, show that you can do better without him. Show that you can move on and do it well! Also, if he does act as if he wants you back, do not take him back right away no matter how bad you want him. He has to know that your life is a good one and that you don't "need him". That if he comes back to your life it is on your terms too and that you have a lot to say in your relationship. If he does not come back then you are and can be a strong woman and will have and be that woman.

Hi, geonelynn, I'm sorry to learn that you broke up with your boyfriend. I guess we are in the same situation, I've just broke up with my boyfriend with whom i had been in a relationship for more than six years. We are still love each other, but we are forced to break up for some family reasons, i can't get along well with his parents. To face changes is indeed a challenge, but you should know that time can heal any wounds. So just be strong! If you feel sad when you are along, try to spend more time with your friends and chat with them, or start a new relationship, you will go through this sooner or later. Come on! Wish you happy!

Its just a matter of choice my dear. If you choose to move on and get out of your misery like you've said in your post, then do it. I'm not saying ASAP but little by little. Pain will not go away overnight but I'm sure if you are determined then one day, you'll just realize that you moved on. Try to do these: Don't linger on the past, make yourself busy but not stressed. Don't blame yourself because it will only lead to self pity. Be with friends(the right ones). Always remember that "there's always sunshine after the rain" and most of all, PRAY....prayers do wonders! ;)

Its just a matter of choice my dear. If you choose to move on like what you said in your post, then move on. I'm not saying ASAP, but try to. Little by little and slowly...do this and one day, you'll realize that you've already moved on. Try to do these: Don't linger on the past and face a new day, mingle with friends(the right ones), find something to do and enjoy, feel better about yourself

I was once in this kind of relationship, I too, found myself in a situation. I just sort of got used to the relationship, but somehow, I seemed to always be at the short end of the stick. I too, began to feel I wanted out, but felt attached, maybe even felt sorry for my boyfriend, the sad way he'd look when I would act like I wanted out. I soon becaome unhappier and then just ended the relationship, since it too, contained alot of deceit. I found myself feeling sad, depressed and even crying. Time healed that and It didn't take that long, I began to acquire self esteem again and feel better about myself. I found myself again in a similiar relationship again, which went the same way the first one did. In conclusion, I know I have to stop this pattern, and I am now able to do that, through self examination, listening to others, prayers and just using common sense, as well as keeping up my self esteem. I hope this helps anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation!

Yup i agree, I have experienced that before and it is a 7 year relationship. It is like your whole world is destroyed right? an you cannot think properly all you do to forget is to drink. If you want to move on, try searching yourself again. Sometimes becoming in love has some negative things as well like if you are too in love with your boyfriend, you forget what you really wanted to do because all of your time was all to him. Try making yourself busy and try to mingle once in a while. Search for someone new. and at the end try asking yourself are you happy? if you still think that you still need him and if he is still reaching out for you, try talking with him and see if you can trust him again ^_^