I'm Scared to take the Train?
By Payout
@payout (3794)
United States
March 18, 2011 1:22pm CST
My father was going to take me to my training for 7 days going back and forth but my father got a job as well and so his schedule interfere with the times of my training so now he can't take me anymore. Now my only option is to just take the train, this will be my first time taking an Train to go to one state to another and I will be by myself which is scary.
My only fear us that I will get lost and my other is that year it will be a great experience to go in one of the biggest buildings in center city. But, just scared to be alone by myself. I guess I have no choice but to face my fears just going to be hard leaving at 6 am and coming back at 6:30p to my state.
I just don't want someone to beat me up or jump me or mug me. Or try to watch me attack me or something it's just fear..
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19 responses
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
18 Mar 11
I think you'll be fine. It will be a growing experience for you. You will notice stuff you never seen before with your parents with you. Just pay attention to your surrounding. Best wishes with your training.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey sswallace,
Thank you for your advice I will be very aware of my surroundings since it wil be my first time and my number be worry is to make sure I get off at the right stop. I sure it's like taking the bus but you will have more room. I hope that everything turns out fine for me in the end and i just see it as a normal thing like taking the bus home and to work and to other places.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 11
As you haven't yet been on a train journey maybe it would be possible for you to take a train for a day out close to where you live. Then hopefully you will feel more at ease with your forthcoming train journey. I wear a money belt that is hidden under my clothing if I am worried about being mugged. I have had times where the train has arrived in the middle of the night and I have stayed safe. The train I was on arrived at Union Station Los Angles at midnight. Police were around that area. I caught a bus all the way to Santa Monica where I was going to be staying. The train is my favorite form of transport and I am a very experienced traveler. You are sure to stay safe and if worried ask the conductor on the train. I don't think you will get lost if you take a map with you. Good luck.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey maximax,
That sounds like a good idea but I think I would wait even though it's ahold price going back and forth. I don't have the time nor the money to spend yet to just go one trip my isist said she will do it with me but, she said she can't because she works so I said that's fine I'll just go on my own I'll have God with me so I don't have no more to worry about I will pray on it, for God totake my fears away thanks again for the advice
@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
18 Mar 11
I take a train to school and back everyday. Not nearly as far as you have to go, but since I was assaulted last year on a walk around my neighborhood I don't feel comfortable going anywhere alone. My paranoia levels have gone up in other words. These days I carry my cell-phone and a bottle of pepper spray in my two front pockets whenever I go out. I never take the train at night.
You can't let the fear of what if or getting lost (another big problem of mine too! lol) stop you from doing the things you need to do or that you want to do. Take whatever measures make you feel safer, like carrying a cell phone or bottle of mace/pepper spray. Familiarize yourself with the route, or take a map. It's okay to be a little scared (or a lot scared!), just don't let it hold you back.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey allyoftherain,
Your experience scares me to be honest makes me wonder but, Im going to pray and I realize I am not alone I have the holy spirit with me always protecting me. I just need to push this fear out the way like I did all the others just I don't Ike to be alone to experience something sometimes especially when it has to due with traveling. Thank you for the advice and my sister wash owing with me and said don't get touch or let someone touch. Hahah. I know that won't happen I am guy so I have no worries
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
19 Mar 11
... umm... thank you. Nice... comment. lol
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
hello pay,
You must,you need to face your fears,it's not everyday that your father can accompany you everywhere you have to go.
Just be familiarize with the place.
My son is just 14 years old when he had his first trip alone.
He ride on a bus and travel for 6 long hours to get home from my hometown.
I was a bit scared at first,but i have to be confident that he will arrived home safely.
With his mobile phone,i had to checked on him every now and then.
And,thanks,he arrived home safely.
happy weekend
@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey jaiho,
I remember I took a plane to another state far too and down south, I was by myself but that was with a school and just me two students and a teacher. It was scary I got home sick and got very sad and a little depress but, I was so happy after that week those. 7days I'm sure I can do it but I just need to do it once. And I will be fine al lthe other times haha
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Mar 11
I believe a frist time train taker can be pretty scary. You are virtually standing/sitting so close to strangers that you can't help but recall the odd stories you hear on the news from bad train rides.
I would say at first it is going to be a bit odd, then you get into the swing of things and eventually you actually start saying Good Morning to the regulars.
Couple things to remember while on the train:
Stay completely alert, do not sleep on train, be friendly and watch for your stop. lol
@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey hardworkinggurl,
Thank you for your advice, I will keep that in mind I will stay alert and I know won't fall asleep how scared I will be but yeah it will be like taking the bus but sometimes people on the bus can be not nice and the stuff you see on tv and YouTube videos and the news does make you wonder but I guess and I am sure that's rare. I just hope that things turn out fine. I hope i have some where to sit since I will be up for nearly on the train. I wll be very upset and uncomfortable we will see.
@housamazmi (50)
• United States
19 Mar 11
HI , Its just afear , In my opnion you have to face your fraid , as i was fraid when I travel on plan for first time in my life , so it just easy , just try and dont be fraid.......
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Mar 11
i was even younger than you when i learned to travel alone. i usually go places when i was young. i ride different types of vehicles most of the time in a travel. i wasn't afraid to get lost before i said to myself, i can read and i can ask people if ever i get lost.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey madMax,
I guess I don't know but I will just have no choice but to go thank you for your advice I alwAys have my cell phone me and I will always do and so I will text and call my family to see and make me feel comfortable and stuff so I will do well and fine haha..you too have a great weekend
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
19 Mar 11
Humm don't be sacred friend listenup at first we have the habit to be with our parents and gradually after a while we tend to stand on our own legs its time to prove yourself don't get into a fear what you will be lost. There are police officers at stations to help you. In fact you should be happeier that you will be meeting a new people through your journey make it memorable try to talk to people try making up some connections you will fee better dont remain alone. Be bolder in your approach and friendly this will help you.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hey Princelierocks,
thank you a lot for your advice. I will face my fears alone and just be strong I have to soon or later my friends and family wont always be there. I will no longer be Scared and just go and be Bold be myself and just walk and do what I have to do. And be happy and blessed that I have an opportunity... that some wont have
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
19 Mar 11
Hiya payout,
Is there someone you can send messages to on your Mobile Phone? I know this sounds very silly but maybe sending messages even pretend messages to someone even if you can´t might just steady your nerves seeing as you have to go on Monday.
It is scary I know at that time of the Morning because I have to go out to work on my own at that Hour as well.
Another things is take things to occupy your mind with and not think of anything like that in particular.
It is hard to go on your own anywhere but I think that you will be alright.
I think that if you had a Friend who is willing to be with you even if it´s by Mobile Phone talking away to you you might feel so much better then.
We often fear the worst but it never usually happens.
Good luck with your training hope you learn lots or whatever.
I think once you have got over the first Journey or two you will be fine.xxx
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@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hey Lovinangelsinstead,
Yeah I have many people to text but I am afraid that My phone will die by the time I get home haha.. and I will have no phone to call anyone so when I go to my start and orientation I would just turn it off to save battery haha thank you for the advice I will keep that in mind LOOK Busy
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
19 Mar 11
Don't feel scared. because always nobody can't be with you. You should learn everything. So why not from now. If you feel scared then ask your some friends to go with you.
Good luck!
@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hey Dreamsharmin,
Im no longer scared but maybe a little but I remember I have GOD and I shouldnt be afraid or anything. All my friends and family will be sleeping or gone. out to work or too busy so I will text them to keep cool. Thank you for the advice
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
19 Mar 11
My friend, they're your imagines. Don't fear any things. Life is easier now more than before. If you need help, you can call guards or polices etc...
You should try to stand on your feet now. It's the right your time. I'm sure that your father is thinking same me.
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@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
hey tkonlinevn,
I guess I have to be strong now, I got done talking to my father on the phone and he said dont get me worried but, I was happy when he said you know God will send his Angels to Protect you. and Guard you will be safe you have Jesus. My father said I took a plane and bus and train alone when I first came to America haha so Yeah He is BRave
@whengcat (1457)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
It's normal to be scared, first timers really feels that way. My first time to travel alone was way back when I was 13 or 14 years old. It's a mixed emotion, of course afraid but on the other hand, excited. My trip was 4-5 hours ride on a bus to get me to my favorite aunt's house. I overcome my fear and got used to it, every week I do that and I enjoyed it. So, its okey, its just normal. Just try to enjoy the journey and don't think that anything bad will happen. Your guardian angel is with you always...Goodluck! ;)
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@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hey Whengcat,
Lol, I guess that good lol. Everyone seems to go through that I guess lol. but I know once the first day is over all the other days will start to feel more at eas and I would get use to but I dont have any other reason to go back once those 7 days are up so.. I wont be like you going back haha
@iklananda (1202)
•
19 Mar 11
where do you live actually why it so scary there to take a train. Train is safe but several bad people is changing such that horrific and scary places
@veproye31 (75)
• United States
19 Mar 11
We all have fears, sometime they may haunt us bady, that we can't even sleep. I love to pray and God to remove them and it works. There has to be a way to confont your fears. I have told you about my way, how are you going to deal with it in your way.
@payout (3794)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Hey veproye,
Yeah I agree we all have fears and thank you for your advice I will try my ga EST to take that fear away right now I'm goin to pray for God to give strength and wisdom and favor that I am be safe and send angels from heaven to protect me from evil that is around me. I know it will work. The holy spirit will protect me
@maikokimberly (91)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
Don't be scared. Taking a train was a fascinating one. Hahaha.. It's like your riding on a roller coaster. I really like it. And don't be afraid to socialize. It's the way of life. But you must not trust everyone. Good luck to you! :)
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@payout (3794)
• United States
20 Mar 11
Hey Maikokmiberly,
Yeah I was told by many to stay to myself and dont keep eye contact just stay to yourself so people wont be like what are you looking at and stuff like that. I am sure that I will be fine. I will pray a lot on it God will send me angles