Diary

I am single and don't have any kids. I have read so many people's diary. But with there permission. When i will have kids then i will not read there diary without there permission.I think it's not good attitude and can affect child life. And every person have there own privacy. And privacy is very important things for every person life. Good luck!

Wow. The good ole diary/journal. I use to have one back at that same age. Didnt have much in it though. Well, interesting stuff. Sounds like your daughter isnt a bad child. She`s eleven. Kids will say anything, and not mean it. She was probably just angry. Yeah, reading her diary wasnt the best idea. I mean kids gotta have privacy too I guess. I`m glad you guys worked it out. Smart move on giving her more privacy. Goodluck with everything.

You daughter should have been given the privacy she wanted. shes growing up now and she will want some privacy even though not too much but the dairy of her being secret is fair enough and i think she needs someone that she can talk to like freely about everything so that she doesn't has to take out her anger, sadness on a dairy. its time for you to act more like her friend than typical parents, im sure it will help.

Hi Johan, No I never read my girls diaries. My mother read mine and I remember how it felt. It's just wrong. A diary is private and it should be the one place that a kid can express ALL emotions without fear of repercussion. Not only was your husband wrong to read it, he made it worse by treating her differently as a result. Her negative thoughts about him were not wrong. We all have moments where we might feel something negative about someone we love and expressing it in a private journal is healthier than holding it in. I'm glad it all worked out and I hope your husband learned that it is not good to read anyone's personal diary.

hi there! the same thing happens to me when i was in high school. i am also keeping a diary and my mom read some pages of it out of curiosity. of course she found many things that i've been keeping in my mind towards them especially with my father. well, my father and i don't have a good relationship back then,actually there comes a time that we are not actually talking to each other. huh! ok, my mom read my diary and when she found out what i am thinking about them and the situation of our family, she came to me, talk to crying and saying sorry that our life is like that and unpleasant things are happening to our family. i just don't talk and i just listen to her. at on part of my mind i feel bad that she read it, that she invade my privacy but on the other hand, i am also thankful that she read it coz those were the things that i wanted to say to them but i just don't have the courage in doing so. what happens to us gives a better result coz it does open their mind and make them realize that what they are doing are no longer doing good for me and my brother. since she read that i notice some positive changes from my parents, they actually change for the better, its not so sudden but little by little they do improve. and now, with God's help, everything is doing well in our family, we are closer now and this is really an answered prayer for me. I am also happy that you and your husband are able to fix things up with your daughter.

hi johan143, I have been a daugher who keeps a diary to myself before.I started writing a diary when I was 13 years old. Unfortunately, I dont have any locks on my diary. So, I just keep at places like my drawer. We were poor at that time and my mother have 5 of us and we all stayed at 1 small room. So, there werent any privacy for each of us. One day, I suspected my mother's reaction towards me when I found out my diary been invaded. I was very upset, loss of trust towards her and my first diary was lost too. I can't find it even today. (I suspected she took it). Of course, as a growing up child, we do have our secrets, dreams, we do write hurting words, we do write about people/friends that we liked/hated and everything about our life. We want this to be read ONLY by ourself. That is only the privacy I have ever had at that time. I guess, you as parents, you are curious and you worries your child might be thinking negatively. But, pleasssseeee do it the nice way. :) I can't neglect the feelings as a parents, BUT I also cannot forget you have a healthy child growing up too. Let's keep the balance in the family. RESPECT is the first lesson in every family.

My mum did it to me as well when I was a teenager and I was so angry because of that. I believe diary is a very private thing and nobody should be so nosey as to read it including parents. I consider that as an intrusion to my privacy. I got so hurt and stop writing diary after that because I don't trust anybody anymore after that. It is good that your daughter is able to forgive your hubby for intruding her privacy. I hope it won't leave an emotional scar to your daughter as it did to me. Take care and have a nice day.

I used to keep a diary when i was in high school...and when we were moving out i saw it again.. ( but i threw it lol) because i was embarrassed by all that was written there hahaha i did not know petty it was back then and it all looked so stupid and petty now that i am 26 hahaha I also have a daughter and she still do not have any diary since she is still learning how to write and how to read but if ever she has one, i would not date read it because she is entitled to her own thoughts as i was entitled to mine when i was in high school. My mom and dad never read it, your husband should not have read it in the first place or he should nto have been indifferent since she is young and naive. But since everythign went well..its a lesson learned right?

All of my kids have journals and none of them lock. I gave them to my kids so they had a place to write down their thoughts and feelings.When I gave them to the kids, I told them that they could write whatever they wanted to write, and I would only read them if they asked me to or I felt that I really needed to. I was also sure to tell them that if I did read them without them asking me to, I would not become angry at what was written because they are entitled to any thoughts or feelings that they have and if they write something, they had a reason at that time to do so. I have not yet gone through to look for their journals and see what the have written, but they have brought them to me a couple of times. My daughter wrote one day that she loves her family and had a wonderful day....another day, she wrote that everyone was being mean to her and she was unhappy and she called her brothers a few unpleasant names. I asked her why she felt that way and we talked about things that happened that day, but I was sure to tell her that I was not upset at all. I think that if I were to read their journals without them asking me to, I really would not have the right to get upset over things that they have written because that is their way of venting and thinking about things. Some of their words may hurt my feelings, but I would just have to accept that they were feeling that way at that time. So far though, my kids are all very open and honest with me about the way they are feeling, even if they are upset with me because they know that I will listen.

Diaries are hassles. I was mistakenly suspected by my sister of reading her diary. I borrowed school notes that time and one of the notes looked a lot like her diary. When she saw me reading it she shouted at me and slapped me and scratched me. I was yelling "What the hell?!" then she saw that it was a different notebook. Geez, people can go insane over a piece of notes.

Sometimes it is good to keep a privacy as a real privacy. Nobody likes it when they know that their privacy has been invaded, especially by the ones they trust the most. Anyway, parents do need to keep an eye and suspicious behavior. If a child is acting strange, there might be problems he/she is facing, therefore it is good to care for them when they needed it. When problems happen, they will certainly share with you if they are having problems making decision and when they know you are there to care. :D

I am very fond of keeping a diary and it started when i was in elementary. My sister read my diary once and i went wild. I had the same reaction with your daughter and it really hurts when somebody invades your privacy. I tore my diary and even burn it because all my secret crushes were there and i have been keeping it away from them and when they started teasing me about that, i just couldn't stand it. I would be curious as a parent to read my child's diary but then i would like to control myself from reading it.

My sons are still young so they do not have diaries yet. But I can relate since when I am younger I use to keep a diary too. I am never close to my mom. A lot closer to my dad, but since he is a man Id rather keep things to myself. I used to hide my diary in the most secret place in my room, why because we write down things that we dont want other people to know lest we could have just told our parents/friends about it. So somehow I think, yes your daughter thinks that her privacy was invaded. We should give them their own space yet let's try our best to relate to them so that they wont keep secrets from us. That way we are aware on whats happening to our kids.

Wow, this is a hard one. Your children deserve their privacy but how much do they really need at 11 years old. However you don't want to loose this as if you do then they may feel that they can not come to you for advise. I would say that it all depends on the circumstances. If your child is acting in a manor that it questionable, such as perhaps as if they are abusing a substance, I would have to say that if they do keep a diary then reading it may confirm the need for help.

Hi. johan143. My aunt read my diary a long time ago. She found out that I had a crush on my 1st cousin and she scolded me for it. Instead of her talking calmly to me she fussed at me instead. I never kept another diary after this episode. She invaded my privacy and it felt so bad after that. I truly believe that this is one of the reasons why I don't keep a diary anymore at all. I think that your daughter's father should have not read her diary. She had a right to be upset with him. It is good that he made up with her after this. A diary is a journal that is a private matter and no one has the right to read it not unless they are given permission to.

First things first, why the hell were you (or your hubby) reading the diary. It's supposed to be private. I admire you for understanding why your daughter wrote hurtful words in her diary. It's her way of venting. It's in her diary, that is locked. The words there are for her only. She respects you that is why she's venting on a piece of paper instead of saying those words. word of caution to all parents: DO NOT CHECK YOUR CHILDREN's DIARIES. :)

I remember to have written some bad things about my mom in my diary before. I dont think she has read it because we are still very close but if ever I do find it I'll burn that thing so there will be no chance of her seeing whatever I wrote. Those hateful words were written during a moment of anger. I really don't mean it and regret it now, but that's what's good about diaries, you can pour out your soul because you know no one else will see it but you. If ever I get a daughter someday and she keeps a diary, I'll be curious of what's in it but I would try my best not to take a peep.

Your husband was wrong to read that. Though it is natural to feel upset when a child rejects you, that rejection is always only temporary, because a child has no other way to express what they really feel other than "I hate you!" This is how they work through frustration and get back to love. As an adult, your husband should have been mature and not changed the way he acted towards her. Your daughter was right to be hurt and angry -- if her thoughts can't be private, what does she have? How would you feel if you kept a diary with some of your secret thoughts and doubts about your relationship with your husband and he read it? I hope your husband APOLOGIZED -- most men will not do this, especially to their children, but if he wants to set an example and mend the relationship truly, he should, and explain that he is only human and curiosity got the better of him, and he will never do it again.

I really don't know how I would respond in this situation yet. I'm sure it'll come up in the near future. This post caught my attention because I just brought and gave my 9 year old a diary with a key today. I figured she would keep tabs on crushes or boys that got crushes on her and keep track of what happened in school along with a few stories about her friends. She tells me who she likes who likes her who she thinks her true friends are and how they are getting along. I offer her advice something a diary can't do. I know that these stories will get more intense the old she gets and the more experience she goes through but I would probably not go in her diary and keep her at a comfortable state where she feels like she can share things with me so I don't have to wonder. I'm sure when your daughter wrote the entry about her dad she was clearly upset and those where her confidential thoughts and feelings. She should be upset about her privacy being invaded. Anyone would. She told her diary how she felt because she couldn't tell her dad. My daughter has told me she hated me before and it made me very upset and hurt at the time that I was mad too but when we took time to cool off and recollected ourselves I talked to my daughter and asked her why she felt that way and told her how it made me feel then I explained to her what it is to hate someone and how much I love her and she loves me the sames. Hopefully your husband and your daughter can broaden their relationship.