It is our heart!!!!

celticeagle

@celticeagle (166976)

• Boise, Idaho

28 Apr 11

Our history and experience. And ofcourse neurons in the brain make the decisions there.

millefeuille

@millefeuille (369)

• Argentina

28 Apr 11

But what is exactly what make us making excuses? We can't do anything, it's always something inside us, like the brain telling us what we should do, how we should move our arms or legs, how we should think, how we should eat and etc. We're not the ones who makes excuses.

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@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Hello Celti! You got the exact meaning of the discussion very right. You explained what I wanted to convey in the dicussion.

Many friends here took the word 'cheater' too seriously. You said it very well that 'we all have those people that make us smile and we would do anything for them, even we will take some risks for them. (The intention of the discussion was that we are sometimes guided by our heart and we ignore all the signals of right and wrong sent by your brain.)

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@kalav56 (11464)

• India

27 Apr 11

Whatever the scientific explanation is, [in one link I read that it is indeed the heart but there are others that say the brain signals the heart ], I take your discussion and the context as the following--your mind gives you many excuses for your behaviour, your emotional attachment to certain people, and you just overlook certain things that stare in your face because you are dictated by your emotion.Now, let us agree it is indeed the heart and discuss whether it is the cheat. Here I feel that your emotion once again dictates it to cheat because you like to live in delusions for many reasons of your own. THis can be with regard to anyone, even a friend. Here once again the choice is deliberate because you feel that without this delusion you cannot maintain your peace. THe mind can take a turn and say "Come on! I do not need excuses to stay in touch with the people I love.I love this X Y Z. I would be in touch irrespective of whether it is sensible or not". In conclusion I would say that the heart may start it but once we are slightly old and mature and also unbiassed in our attitude, then reason takes over Deepak. That would definitely be a driving force .FOr some it would be present straightaway.FOr some it would peep in later.FOr some it won't because it has not been invited and deliberately ignored. Have I made some sense?

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@kalav56 (11464)

• India

28 Apr 11

Thanks a lot Deepak.

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

24 May 11

Thank you so much for the BR Deepak.I am mighty thrilled with this.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Hi Kala!

You summed it up all and anlalysed it magnificently

. It is correct that our mind kee telling us what is 'right' and what is 'wrong', however, when we are led by our heart, we just ingnore some important issues and go ahead with our plans. I agree with you that as one becomes mature and experienced s/he starts understanding that control over emotions is necessary to take right steps. One of the best responses so far.

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paula27661

@paula27661 (15811)

• Australia

27 Apr 11

I agree that it is the heart that keeps us in touch with those we love even when our brains tells us not to! I am one of those who almost always follows her heart and it has not been a bad way to live although some of my friends tell me I should not let the heart rule my head. I’ve found that whenever there has been love as the motive things almost always work out for the best one way or another.

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@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi Paula!

Thanks for agreeing with the statement. I understand that you are led by your emotions and you do what your heart tells you. There is no need for you to feel guilty about it. Feel satisfied what you do.

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Ifamous

@ifa225 (14461)

• Indonesia

28 Apr 11

Hi Dpk, heart is the most complicated things that i have ever known. even me my self do not understand what my heart wants. are you in love now?

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

28 Apr 11

what a question ifa225! Deepak has a loving wife already .

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

29 Apr 11

Kalav - Thanks for the support.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Hi ifa! OH MY God!

- Answer to your questions is in negative, please do not pull up my legs. The post was general in nature and has nothing to do with any individual. Please do not read too much into the post. I agree the heart is really complicated and it is difficult to undersand what our Heart wants us to do.

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vanny

@vandana7 (100282)

• India

27 Apr 11

Hi babyface.. I got to be the first here..

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Thanks for kick starting the discussion Vandy.

Do you agree with me or not?

vanny

@vandana7 (100282)

• India

27 Apr 11

God forgot to give me a heart..so I cant comment

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Don't tell me that you do not have 'heart', had it been not so, you would be the first responsdent here on mylot.

I understand that you are approving the statement that you find out the ways to stay in touch with those, whom you love [em]lol[/em.

jennyze

@jennyze (7028)

• Indonesia

27 Apr 11

Yes, I agree. Even it cheats us on who we thought loves us. Now, I am confusing myself with the English.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi Jenny! Even if our heart cheats us and do not reveal who all actually love us, we enjoy living in illusions.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

There is nothing wrong in dreaming .....

........if we do not dream, we may not get, what we want and it is also true that all our dreams do not turn into reality.

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jennyze

@jennyze (7028)

• Indonesia

28 Apr 11

Of course, in a way we are all a dreamer. Some make true of their dreams while others stuck in the dreams.... like me...

SViswan

@SViswan (12051)

• India

27 Apr 11

I beg to differ. People like me tend to listen to their head and don't get swayed by their hearts :) No offence to anyone....but that's the way I am. If I was ruled by my heart....I would try to be in touch with quite a few people which would definitely eat up into a huge chunk of my day. I can't afford to do that.

SViswan

@SViswan (12051)

• India

28 Apr 11

Yes, Deepak...neither one is right or wrong...it's just how people are. That is why I said 'people like me'. Each individual is different and what works for each one is what is important to them.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Yeah, different things work for different people and the way they feel happy should be fine with them.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi SV!

If you are led by your head there is nothing wrong with it. I feel you take a decision after much consideration and do not jump to a conclusion too quickly. There are few who are led by their heart and listen to their heart only. Both are right.

@mayka123

@mayka123 (16605)

• India

6 Nov 11

Yes I agree that our heart is the greatest cheater and sometimes when the mind says not to do something the heart still refuses to listen!!!

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

18 Nov 11

You are right that our heart could do anything.

kiran8

@kiran8 (15348)

• Mangalore, India

28 Apr 11

Hi deepak, there is a saying that when we like something we become blind to all the negative points and vice versa.It happens with all of us, only the level and degree varies.We tend to see and notice only what we want to see and notice and thats where the cheating comes ! As for love and its side effects, I feel that its impact and other feelings connected with it change with age ...

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

29 Apr 11

Hi Kiran! You are absolutely right that we go blind, when we get tempted for anything and we forget everything else around us, except our target.

. Thanks for dropping in.

Jane

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

27 Apr 11

hello dpk, Have you read this quote in my FB account? I posted this one "never trust your heart,it is the most deceitful of all deceiver"

heart

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

I probably missed your quote. Your quote conveys the same meaning.

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@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

I am led by my heart most of the time and sometimes decision taken by heart do not come out correct.

Jane

@jaiho2009 (39141)

• Philippines

28 Apr 11

it's fine...so,do you believed that heart is a deceiver?

Ayeizsha

@gaiza12 (4884)

• Philippines

11 May 11

I would agree with you. No matter how our minds disagree with our heats, the last decision will still have to go with the heart. Our mind things but our hearts always have the final word.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

13 May 11

Thanks for agreeing with me. Most of the time we are led by our heart.

zralte

@zralte (4178)

• India

27 Apr 11

Morning dpk, Heart??? What does that have to do with anything at all??

I think it is the mind, all that thinking that we do. Hm...and when do we need excuses to stay in touch with people we love? I don't need excuses, if I miss them, I call them or email them...simple. No excuse involve at all.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi Zralte!

Good Afternoon! You are right that it is the mind which directs all the activities. I think calling or emailing somone are kinds of 'excuses', which we resort to get in touch with those whom we love.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

OK! Emails and phones are means of communication to get in touch.

If we miss someone, we should better inform him/her that 'I miss you' rather than saying something else, I agree with this view of yours.

zralte

@zralte (4178)

• India

27 Apr 11

I beg to differ. Email and phones are not 'Excuses', but the means of getting in touch. You men are all the same, trying to put it down to excuses. How about writing or saying 'I Miss you' rather than trying to find what to write and such....

christine888

@christine888 (303)

• Philippines

27 Apr 11

No it's not the heart's job at all. It's in our brain. The hypothalamus is the responsible on what we really feel towards a person. You say I love you with all my heart, but the truth is I love you with all my hypothalamus.

love

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi cris! I welcome your serious scientific response, though it was intended to be a lighter discussion.

The dictionary meaning of hypothalamus says - "The part of the brain that lies below the thalamus, forming the major portion of the ventral region of the diencephalon and functioning to regulate bodily temperature, certain metabolic processes, and other autonomic activities" Brain only directs what to do, it is ultimately our heart (our emotions) which prompts us to do an action.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi eureka!

You are welcome, you won't be considered as intruder here. You are making the issue more complex because what you say is also correct.

. However, even after stimuli and directions of brain, which are sent to our heart, we finally 'act', what are heart says.

eurekafemme

@eurekafemme (5877)

• Philippines

27 Apr 11

Hello, guys.

May I barge in? I find your exchange of conversation very interesting.And I could help pondering about this.If it is the brain that sends the signal, and the heart which I supposed is the receiver reacts to that signal, then, what about the stimuli which the brain gathers, process and sends to the heart?

millefeuille

@millefeuille (369)

• Argentina

28 Apr 11

It is true! Also make us believe we still loving a person who has hurt us or is just not for us. And the worst of all, it's hard to ignore the heart. Luckily, when somebody new and charming appear, our little friend is delivered completely :)

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Yeah, you are right we are a loving person and we are led by our heart and our emotions. Thanks for sharing your wonderful views.

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

27 Apr 11

Cheater? No! It is the best meter of how Much you care. Wanting to stay in touch with the one you love is nature. I live for the time I spend with my guy. I wouldn't call the heart a cheater. It is the most honest part of most people if they listen to it.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Hi Sara! I agree with you that wanting to stay with someone you love or like is a strong emotion and our heart finds out the way to fulfil our desires.

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whyaskq

@whyaskq (7523)

• Singapore

27 Apr 11

Good one, friend. I beg to differ. Our heart is the greatest but not the greatest cheater. It is the greatest sponge as it accepts all blows and punches without any misgivings. The heart is at its most colorful when one gives a piece of it to anyone who needs it, either deserving or not. It is this mode of exchange that probably allows us to stay in touch with the people we love including finding excuses to love those whom we do not want to love.

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

You could say that it is a sponge and our heart is colourful, however, the point is if you are governed by your heart and take decisions what your heart says - one could say jokingly that our heart is a cheater ..........

vanitasuri

@vanitasuri (343)

• India

27 Apr 11

Hello dpk, U are right. though, if discussed, everyone will claim that our mind rules over our heart. But, like u have mentioned above, when we are in love, it is our heart which betrays us again and again.

cheat

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

27 Apr 11

Thanks for going with the statement vanitasuri.

I believe you are led by your heart in whatever you do.

much2say

@much2say (55606)

• Los Angeles, California

27 Apr 11

Interesting, dpk . . . I had to really think on this one! Hmmmm, is it really cheating . . . as in a betrayal? I mean, it's ok to love more than just one person . . . I can love friends, husband, children, parents, grandparents, siblings . . . a whole long list of people. There are different kinds of love (not just "romantic") and it's ok to love them all. But if we're talking about the romantic kind of love, well, there are those who are not into being committed to one person - and that in my book would be cheating, depending on the situation. Staying in touch is one thing . . . staying to touch is another if you know what I mean!

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

much2say!

The problem is my dear friends who have responded to this discussion has taken every single word very seriously

. It is actually a fun discussion and I did not mean to highlight that our heart is a 'cheater'. The intention was that we are sometimes guided by our heart and we ignore all the signals of right and wrong sent by your brain. I am impressed with your responses and it is one of the best responses so far.

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hardworkinggurl

@hardworkinggurl (37063)

• United States

27 Apr 11

Hi dpk

It can be looked that way, I also see it as the primary dictator. See no matter what the mouth and or brain says/feels I personally feel the heart will always rule/dictate for us. No matter if we say we dislike and that heart dictates we do, the heart will always win.

feelings

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

28 Apr 11

Hi HWG! Very well said .....

....... for those of us who are governed by our heart, it is true that in majority of the decisions, our heart wins.

rebel_woman06

@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

27 Apr 11

Actually, i don't have to lie why i am not in touch with some of my loved ones. They know that i am busy with my job and has Saturday afternoon and Sunday only as free days. And that during those days, i would be at home after we have gone to mass and done our groceries, to clean our bedroom and the ante room. But i do get in touch with them through texts whenever i remember them.