how many times is enough when your partner is cheating on you?

Hi purplehaze, It is true that we must all forgive the mistakes of other and to forget it.. But sometimes we must also teach them a lesson that 1 mistake is enough.. Sometimes when we let the person forgive in all his mistakes, it will register to his mind that he will do mistakes always, because he will be forgiven again.. Well sometimes we must know our limit and to manage that limit... We must sometimes be strict and be lawful.. Forgiving is good, but how can you forgive a person if he do it many times... Forgive is not the answer of it but to control that person and teach him the right lesson to learn, that he must not abuse it... You are right that we must see to that man that he is really sincere and deserve to be forgiven.. He must prove that he can be change and trust again.. Because trust of a person is hard to gain but easy to lose, especially you have done the worst thing.. Being faithful in a relationship is the best way to have a good and meaningful relationship.. and it is nice to love a person that can really love you until the end of our life...

hello purple, That depends on each individual. I've been through this situation and i have forgiven him few times. It takes few cheating before i said "enough". Finally i am free. When heart's get tired of understanding...that's the moment you will realized that...it's time to let go and letting go will be easier and lighter then. have a good day

I've been married for 15 years and I haven't had that experience yet, thank God. But if my husband does that, maybe I'd forgive him once or twice but if he does it more than 3 time I think there is no way he'll change, and I am not going put up with it any longer. I can only tolerate so much, but I'll know when it's over and it's time to let go.

i've never been in this situation so far, thanks God! I agree that forgiving is not an option when you see no real effort from your partner. How can you forgive a non-repentant person? But for me, though I see real effort and might be able to give him a chance, I believe the trust will no longer be there.

hi purlplehaze (448) hmm .. yeah . that's right . i have my first boyfriend and he cheated on me . it hurts a lot . but he said , im sorry and cried over me and so i told him , "i will forgive you because i know everyone deserves second chance" . but a couple of months after , i caught him cheating on me again , the third time . and so , i told him "its enough" , "your playing me . you should have told me playing games , i i could've win" and so i broke up with him . yet i feel comfortable . free from everything . but for that, i forgive him for what he had done .. because i know , everybody's imperfect . maybe he's just not the right one for me . keep your hopes up ! good day .

Only 2 times, if they done the same thing third time then don't ignore it. And if you love him then you ask him to leave these activities and awarn him if i see you cheating me from now then our relation will break. If he loves you he will change himself. Otherwise leave him. Its not the solution to ignore always, If someone isn't loyal to you not sincere in his relation then there is no relation.

I would think it would go by each event. Everytime someone cheats they have a different reason. I myself have been cheated on and I would have forgiven her but thankfully she ran off with him and now she is his problem. So it varies by couples.

i have this principle that if i was cheated once, it will be repeated. and the cycle goes on.

Well, since you believe in th teaching of the Lord. Firstly, I want to appreciate that matter... As the bible, said. Forgive them 70 times...and not our sin if they are still do something to cheat you. Not only women being cheated. Even the wives also cheated their husband. This is also a grave sin or crimes committed by wives to their husband. But it is not our obligation to say what changes they want to make in their lives. For me, since I forgive I let them to change. If they are not change I let them that way...

For me only ones but in the second time not to forgive.

Forgiving someone takes time. You also take time when you are trying to overcome the pain and trying to make yourself whole again. Sometimes, I keep telling myself that it is enough but there are really times that you just can't avoid it. Forgiveness is not the solution but it is good to forgive and then find a solution.

Once is enough!

Personally? Once would be enough. I'm with my husband because I want to be. If he didn't want to be with me, I'd no longer want to be with him, so I wouldn't stay with him. It really is that simple. That said, we've been married for 18 years :)

Oh boy...I have a hard time forgiving. I am working on it though, because I know that is what God wants us to do. I think cheating is done consciously so it makes it even harder to forgive something that someone did on purpose. If they continue to cheat, they don;t deserve my forgiveness because they can't truly be sorry and continue to do it over and over agian. For me, trust and honesty are most important in a mrriage or long-term relationship. If he cheats once, sorry, but I would never be able to trust him again. So even if I stayedwith him, the relationship really would be over. I could forgive him, but that doesn't mean I would have to stay with him. But I think it differes for every person what they are willing to withstand.

Because I have already been down this road I can only answer for me and not imply for anyone else, outside of saying once and I am done. I do not threaten a partner but do make it clear that once and I do not forgive. Simply because I myself would not do so once as when I love and am loyal I expect the same in return. So not fair that while I am very honest and loyal to my partner that my love is taken for granted.

Hi! I think ones is enough. If you caught your partner cheating, then it's time to say good bye... Unless it's okay for you to be treated that way.

true.. but for me... once that they've got into it and love how it feels to be with someone that their not suppose to be with , they'll just do it again anywayz ~~ tippical

hello, I know it is really easy for us to forgive specially if we love a person but if it is too much and we are hurting to much maybe it is time to give up. Sometimes boys are really abusing because girls are giving them a chance that is why they taking it for granted.

I have never been in a situation like this, but I do believe that if a person truly loves you, he or she would not put you in a position where you have to question if he or she would have to be forgiven. In case it happens, I honestly believe that once is enough. If he or she does it again then it is time to pack your bags and move on.

i think for me only once.....it really hard to gain the trust if your partner cheated on you.