I don't know how to react.

It is not rude to tell your friend to at least asked his/her relatives not to stay in your bed with dirty feet. You can say it when the relatives are not around anymore so it will not appear to be rude. Try to speak to your roommate in a nice way and make sure you won't hurt her feelings. You are not that selfish I believe, so you can at least let the relatives sit on your bed but they have to make sure that they are also clean.

That's too bad and very inconsiderate of your friend not to remind her relatives of not using your space . Perhaps if I were in your case, I would let it pass but make sure to talk to my friend about it whne the relatives are already not around. Also, perhaps the room should be off limits and they just stay in the living room/common area? Hope you settle it soon because it can be stressful also if you have to worry about such things.

Chritine hi there, Oh please gently speak to your roommate and explain how wrong this is. Example her had that been your family you would not allow to be done on her bed and in fact because you both share the room, she should not be entertaining in the room. It is a lack of respect to you.

Gaaaah, please tell me I'm bad in saying that I hate to share rooms. I value my privacy a lot so if there's still a choice, I usually go for the room that can be called MINE only. haha. So selfish of me. However, I do understand your situation, my friend. Are you still a student and sharing a dorm room with a friend? Because it's the two of you who are living there, you're entitled to your own rights. You have the right to tell her to minimize letting her friends/family inside the room especially when they occupy your bed. Good communication is key. All you have to do is let her know that you feel your privacy is a bit abused when such situations happen. "What are friends for?" is what they say. She should understand you right away. If not, go ahead and find another room.

I think you should slow talk to her. Saying something that unpleasant to hear is unwise decision because you might end up with fighting. so, talk to her about your are not comfortable with her relatives and if you could not do that, just move away from the room

In this specific ordeal you will have to require some patients and the ability to remain calm and polite. I know plenty of people who would overreact in this matter. Which in the end caused them nothing but drama and a loss friendship. You don't want to lose a friendship over something that may seem like a bigger deal, to you than it will to them. So if I were you I would respectfully gather her and her cousin in same room, and speak to them. In a calm respectful manner. Explain to them how it makes you feel. Then if you want, go wash your sheets.

Oh my goodness. Its an apartment as what you've mentioned, why don't they go to the living room to chat. I am nice but dirty feet and clothes in my bedsheet, I'll frankly say "Please not there." Or I could talk to the person they are visiting politely after they left. I don't want to be mean but if I become the enemy I'll look for another place. For me, they don't have manners.

I think that she should respect you just as much as you do her. If that is your bed then she should let her family know that they cant sleep there without your permission. And when they come over if you dont want them in the room then she should also respect that because that is your room as well. If she has a problem with that then she should have thought about that before you guys agreed to share a room. I know people like that that just dont have any respect for other people at all. I would suggest in the future try and make sure you roommate with someone who is going to understand what sharing means.

If you are paying for your half of the apartment, then you should talk to your roommate. Tell her that she and her visitors should respect your half of the space. That although you don't mind her having visitors, you appreciate it if they don't mess up, or dirty up your bed. I know that you think that your roommater may get offended, but if you just explain it to her nicely, then you can move on from this.

I understand that staying with a friend means that you must accept the fact that she can bring her relatives or other friends in visit,but this doesn't mean that those people have the right to be rude and behave in such a manner.I think you should have a serious conversation with your friend,even say some unpleasant words if she doesn't understand that she can't treat you like this.If I were you I would take action and do that even with the risk of losing a friend,but I think that if she's a reasonable person she will realize that you're right and she will do something about her relatives and their bad behavior.

I wonder that you never reacted in this situation. We should convey our thoughts in this regards. We should not give up our privacy at any cost. If i were in this situation, My reaction would be very rigorous but with polite. I straight away tell him that i don't like this.. And i explain him that no one even my friend never use my bed. How can you use mine that too without asking me.. My words doesn't hurt him at the same time he ought to be realize his fault.. I can understand that you never reacted just because of your friend.. But i don't think like you.. Because my friend knows mistake is not mine in this regards.. So i will proceed further. In case if my friend supposed to mistaken me because of my reaction. I don't care about that, because true friend can understand the situation.

I remember the time when I was a student, at the beginning I had to share a room with two senior students. I felt discomfort when a boyfriend of one of the girls came to visit her. I tried to spend as little time as possible in a hostel.

Although you share the same room, it still boils down to R.E.S.P.E.C.T and common sense. So i that was me, I would have taken a deep breath and asked him to get off my bed. Then I would've taken the linen off my bed and politely washed them. Sometimes you can say alot without speaking at all. And indirectly, that would've said "I can't believe you just had your nasty a** on my bed". That's your personal space and nobody belongs near it unless you say so. It's not good to hold things in so if you haven't already done so, let your roommate know how that made you feel uncomfortable and that it was disrespectful