Am i weird or what...? Help!

You are much like my daughter, in some ways. They enjoy being outdoors at their own home, or she goes places that she take the girls like the park, library and zoo. She has her education, but continues to work on her writing skills and a book. She has friends, most of whom she made at church. They have a baby sitting trade off, so that each friend gets like one morning off a month. She goes to the library and works on her book. Her husband's job supports them okay, and she likes being at home and getting stuff done. I stayed home with my kids as well, and that is what she thinks of as a normal and happy childhood.

There is nothing wrong with that if you enjoy it. However if you ever feel the need to go out and blow off steam then you should as well. Life is all about what you enjoy, and if its spending all your time with your children then that is great.

hi!! do you know that other mom will be envious after reading your message, other moms were not given opportunity like you, you are spending your time with the right thing, you said you love doing it then there's no need to regret it. think of this, for example you went out with your friends one time then something happen to your kids, and you were not there, I'm sure you will be blaming yourself the whole life. i am sure also that as your kids grow up, they will not be in the wrong way because you were always there for them. although it's not also bad to hang out once in a while for relaxation, but as long as you love to spend your time with your families then why go out and yet in your own home you are more safer and relaxed. and i admire you for, instead of using your money in the club you use it for the welfare of your family. i salute you for being such a good mom.

You're probably not going to like what I have to say very much, but I've a need to be honest with you about this topic. I am assuming your children are fairly young, still in grade school perhaps. Being there for your children is all well and good, however, one should remember there will come a time when your children will have interests which will not include you, they will, hopefully, go on to higher education, attain employment, and eventually start families of their own...They will have their own lives, lives which you will most likely not be a central part of. You do need outside interests, things you can do, people to talk with, do things with, you will need a network of friends in the future. I'm not saying to go clubbing, but perhaps a coffee date? A day at a museum, maybe a horticulture class? Isolation isn't good for anyone, even voluntary isolation. Please do find yourself a few friends, hopefully with at least some of the same interests you have, build yourself a network for the future so you won't find yourself with no one to talk to when you have need.

It's great you're spending your time with children and family, and if this is making you happy everything is fine, why to change something what for you is perfect? I hope you have some outside activities with your family too!

You aren't weird at all! You are a good momma and your children are very blessed. I'm not saying that you don't deserve to go out and enjoy some "me" time, but if you are happy, which it seems as if you are, then keep on doing what you are doing!

In don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. Too many parents don't spend enough time with their kids, but I also think it is important to try and find a little balance between family time and alone time. I am a bit of a homebody too, but still like to get out with the wife and kids every now again and try to discover new places where we can hang. My clubbing days have long since passed...LOL

jjohnson but one day they will not be little and will be out with their own friends then so you are going to have empty nest syndrome. I think for good mental health you should go out with friends or with your mate and have some baby sitters, you need a more rounded life to be happy as eventually they will grow up and marry and you had better have some plans for those days as they do slide by faster than you think. I meanits okay to be private bu t only up to a certain p oint then you need to go out and relax with someone you really like or with your husband for' a c hange of pace.It does not have to be a club at all but by having interests other than your family you will be prepared for the days you are bit closely connected with grown up children.

Hi. JJohnson79. Welcome to myLot! You know, you remind me so much of me. I am a stay at home mom too. I have three kids. Two of them are already in school and my youngest daughter will be attending school in August. I only go out when I have to. Like, if I need to do some grocery shopping, go to an appointment, or take care of some personal business for any reason. I don't stay out all day. I also visit my relatives and friends when I am able to. I stay in my trailer and I am hardly outside. We live so close to the road and I don't allow my kids to play in the front yard. On top of that, we have a ditch that is in the front of our yard too. I don't think that you are weird at all. I always tell many people, and they already know this about me too, I am a stay at home mom. I stay to myself. I don't be running in and out of other peoples homes. I mind my own business. Yes, I am very aware of what is going on around my surroundings, but I just do my own thing and take care of myself and my family. I am not that closed up, I enjoy life. I don't hang out with many females and males. I have two close friends that I consider to be very educated, so am I too. I just don't act the same way that they act. I have my own style. When I am at home, I lounge and relax. When I leave and go out into the public, I always fix myself up beautifully. Many people may think that I am just a young teenager. They also don't realize that I have three kids and that I have been married for almost ten years. My husband is the father of all three of my kids too. So, I have so much that I have to do, but I get it all done. You remind me so much of me too. I don't go out to clubs, although I have done so in the past. I only went about two or three times and that was it. I don't feel comfortable hanging out at clubs, I consider a club to be dangerous and risky. I just don't take anymore chances going out. I love having fun, but I like to do so in a way that is safe and productive. If you enjoy being a stay at home mom, then do so. Many people are not happy that I have made this choice to be at home with my kids. It is better that you establish a routine and life schedule that is very comfortable to you. You should do what makes you feel happy and safe. I work online and I stay at home, to be honest with you, I enjoy this lifestyle more than I enjoy working on the outside of my home. I am independent and confident. Sometimes I do let lonely and bored, but I always seem to find something to do. For the summer, I plan to take my kids out so that we can share family moments together. If you are happy and content with your life, then don't let anyone change how you feel. If you want to make some changes then do so because you want to, not because someone else may want you to. Take care.

It sounds as if you are just being a good mother. It is your friends who are missing out on something important. I would open the blinds and let some sunshine in, though. Get to know your neighbors. You may need them sometime. You are right, clubbing is out. It gets you nowhere.

I am right with you I would rather just spend my weekends with my kids as well. Although sometimes it is good to get some time to yourself. Dont get me wrong I love my kids and I always choose to spend time with them rather than hang out with my friends. But I also wish i had some time to myself. Its so hard to take care of yourself when you are always with the kids. So whenever I get time to myself I take me a long hot bath, wash my hair, get my nails done, read a little bit. I shave and whatever else I want to do that I usually cant do with the kids being around. But otherwise its nothing wrong with wanting to always be with your kids and just chill at home cause I do.

I don't think there is anything wrong with this at all, this is your personal choice and as long as you are happy then nothing else really matters. To tell you the truth I don't have much of a social life either and I'm a very quiet person at heart. I prefer doing my own things in my own private company, I'm content like that. Clubbing is not for everyone and I have never had the experience of this so to speak. I think it's kind of nice that you are a devoted mother taking care of your children. There are not many people that have a strong social life that would be able to do something like that. Anyway, I wish you well in your situation. Andrew

It is no doubt that you are a wonderful mother. Part of good and affective parenting is to prepare children for the world. In order for them to grow as children you must continue to grow as an adult. Lives are intertwined but we are all individuals with differing needs. When you grow you will be more versitile so that you can stretch in different ways. If you are well rounded then your children will be also. Teach them well. Love them well. Give them the tools to reach their highest potential. You always have a life beyond your children and beyond anyone elses.. Your life is your gift. Live for yourself along with your children. There are things of interest in the world that do not cost money that you can participate in without your children to help you maintain healthy adult activities. Do things that you like and do not submit to judgement and peer pressure. Judgement and peer pressure are life issues that all children face. It is part of what you are dealing with now. How will you direct them to handle the problem? You must continue to grow to help them through. It is your choice as to how you choose to do so. It is your responsibility to do your best for your family. Just remember that you are also a member of your family. A family is a place where every one is entitled to get their needs met or at least heard. Add some things that are appropriate and just for YOU. You decide when the time is right to move in any direction.

Personally, I don't see nothing wrong with the standard you set for yourself and your family. Spending time with your kids is definitely more important than clubbing. However, I wonder why you even don't have a relationship with your neighbors to the extent that they thought your house was vacant. I believe it is important to have some kind of relationship with neighbors because we do not know when we need them and they are the most accessible people to help us. As for me, I am more of a sociable person, though I no longer go to clubs but rather to coffee shops where I can talk with my friends.

nothing wrong with that. they grow up so fast (believe me! my babies are 18 and 14) so enjoy them while you can!

I too am very much like you. I have 4 children and love to spend as much time with them as possible. There is so much that can be missed in the blink of an eye. I am not one for socialising outside of school hours, I get most things done during the day, shopping, house work etc. I will go to the cinema once in a while if there is something I am real keen to watch coming out, though generally I am a book worm. I love to take the children to the park and do regular activities. We travel to see the inlaws as and when we can, mainly on school holidays as they moved to the seaside. So in answer to your question, no I don't think you are weird or wrong for wanting to be with them. I have banned mine from leaving home when they are older ;)